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not the "right" reaction

I just bought my dress and there was never any tears, not even a "THIS IS MY DRESS" it was just a decision I made somewhere inside. The next morning I woke up and thought I had made a mistake, but now I'm back to thinking the dress is just what i need, it's so "me".

 I was wrestling for so long between two dresses, one was so different and unique and nothing I had ever seen before..the other was the kind of dress I had seen in magazines and the one I had gone into the store to try and and it was exactly what I had always pictured myself in. I wanted to be different and unique and not like any other bride, but every time I tried the unique dress I just felt like it wasn't quite right....like I was trying really hard to love it.

But every time I put on the other dress I just felt like it was so very me, exactly what I had always pictured....I kept trying and trying other dresses because I wanted to be the kind of bride that had a statement dress, something everyone would be talking about.....but no matter how hard I tried, I couldn't make myself want the other dresses. In the end,

 I went back to the first store and tried on the dress that looks just like everyone else's dress and it fit beautifully, and made me feel so pretty and I knew my groom would look at it and see me only more beautiful....and that's when it hit me. I didn't want to look like a super stylish version of me walking down the aisle in a dress I would never normally wear with all the bells and whistles....I want my groom to see me on our wedding day. And if that's a bride in a dress that everyone else is wearing, I don't care, because to my fiance I am the most unique and special person in the world.

I wanted to share my story so that other brides can know that you don't always have the OMG reaction, sometimes it's all the wrong dresses that make you find the right one.

Re: not the "right" reaction

  • thanks for your story - I went through the exact same dilemma and also ended up with the very "me" dress.
  • Very nice story!!

    I had just the opposite problem.  I was trying on more classic, beautiful dresses because I want to look elegant and timeless in my pictures.  But I wasn't finding the dress and was getting disappointed.  Then my consultant pulled out a more dramatic, but still classic, dress and it ended up being the one!!! 
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  • I loved your story, I am very glad you are happy with your decision and love your dress.  I had a similar problem but went the opposite way as you.  I got the dress that I wouldnt normally wear lol.  The other stress was very comfortable and very me but I felt too safe in it and it didnt have a wow factor which in the end was what I decided I wanted.  I was nervous at first but every time I try on the wow dress it feels more like me.  The right choice seem to come different for everyone : )

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  • Hey,

    Can we see pics? When I bought my dress there were no tears. I just knew it was the one though I had specific silhoutte in mind I went for something I had never thought I would wear on my wedding day. Mind you I was never one of those girls that's been dreaming of the day she would get married. I have never onced looked through bridal magazines unitl I knew I was getting engaged.
  • Great. Message. I bought my dress today and quietly knew which I liked. I tried on several dresses for my Mom and sister because I wanted them to enjoy the experience and they did! In the end, to my surprise we all agreed on the same dress. It made me feel even more confident. They struggled at first with 4 and then 2 and finally when my Mom looked at me and her eyes welled up, I knew she found *the one*.
  • I'm glad that you found the right dress for you. :)  Great story.
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