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IrishDreamer · August 2012

Jorja, I'm a little offended by your comment. I don't in any way agree with bf in his views on interracial couples, and we have many discussions about why he feels so strongly about it. To say he sucks in general because of that is really harsh i think. One of his best friends is mixed, and got a ton of grief about it growing up, which i think helped stem that feeling. Bean, he would love you. One, because i do. Two, because you are bad asssss. He doesn't dislike mixed people, or anything like that, he just doesn't agree that it should happen in the first place. Again, I'm not condoning his thinking, or agreeing with it, it actually makes me very sad.

heyimbren · August 2012

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Unpop Opinons/Confessions/Flames/Whatevers. : Lame. I had a similar problem (for the opposite reason) with some of H's family. It took years for certain people (I won't name names, but you probably know whom I'm talking about) to realize that I'm still a good person if I don't take communion. And I agree with you that people are mean. I'm not trying to say that Christians are immune to suckiness or anything, <strong>I'm just saying that they don't have it any harder than anyone else.</strong>
Posted by Elle1036[/QUOTE]

YES. I like you putting it that way, Elle. Because it DOES bug me when others from my church start screaming persecution left and right - no. People disagree with you - that's not persecution. They may even be jerks about it - that happens to everyone. Not the same thing. Go visit an underground church in a different country if you want to see religious persecution.

Irish, I'm glad to hear the clarification there. I think it's a naive opinion, and it does make me sad to still hear these ideas going around. Cultural differences can make things more difficult in some ways, but there are so many positive things that can come from it too.

audrewuh · August 2012

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Unpop Opinons/Confessions/Flames/Whatevers. : YES. I like you putting it that way, Elle. Because it DOES bug me when others from my church start screaming persecution left and right - no. People disagree with you - that's not persecution. They may even be jerks about it - that happens to everyone. Not the same thing.<strong> Go visit an underground church in a different country if you want to see religious persecution. </strong>Irish, I'm glad to hear the clarification there. I think it's a naive opinion, and it does make me sad to still hear these ideas going around. Cultural differences can make things more difficult in some ways, but there are so many positive things that can come from it too.
Posted by heyimbren[/QUOTE]

<div>Preach it sistah!</div><div>
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IrishDreamer · August 2012

Bren, i agree, i think is very naive. I read raised honestly by racist southern baptists, and I'm so far on the opposite side. So when people say, it's how i was raised, i call bs.

Elle1036 · August 2012

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Unpop Opinons/Confessions/Flames/Whatevers. : YES. I like you putting it that way, Elle. Because it DOES bug me when others from my church start screaming persecution left and right - no. <strong>People disagree with you - that's not persecution. They may even be jerks about it - that happens to everyone. Not the same thing</strong>. Go visit an underground church in a different country if you want to see religious persecution. Irish, I'm glad to hear the clarification there. I think it's a naive opinion, and it does make me sad to still hear these ideas going around. Cultural differences can make things more difficult in some ways, but there are so many positive things that can come from it too.
Posted by heyimbren[/QUOTE]

This is pretty much what I was trying to express originally -- it just took me a while to get there.

Sometimes I should probably think for a little longer before I post.

jorja86 · August 2012

In Response to Re:Unpop Opinons/Confessions/Flames/Whatevers.:[QUOTE]Jorja, I'm a little offended by your comment. I don't in any way agree with bf in his views on interracial couples, and we have many discussions about why he feels so strongly about it. To say he sucks in general because of that is really harsh i think. One of his best friends is mixed, and got a ton of grief about it growing up, which i think helped stem that feeling.

Bean, he would love you. One, because i do. Two, because you are bad asssss. He doesn't dislike mixed people, or anything like that, he just doesn't agree that it should happen in the first place.

Again, I'm not condoning his thinking, or agreeing with it, it actually makes me very sad. Posted by IrishDreamer[/QUOTE]

Well, I think that his viewpoint there is incredibly close minded and teetering pretty close to racism. I don't care if he has a biracial friend...the fact that he judges people's relationships based on their skin color is unacceptable, and absolutely something I would base my opinion of him on.

minskat30 · August 2012

Irish- As half of an interracial couple that plans on (God-willing) having kids, I find your SO's view-point very depressing. I'm glad you find it sad too because mixed children actually get the best of both worlds (genetically speaking, at least).

Kids can have issues for a multitude of reasons (overweight, not attractive, not athletic, socially off, etc.). How does your SO guard against those things in future kids? If he sees two overweight people having a kid, does he stand equally against that because they will likely have an overweight child? (And I have nothing against this either...my sister and her husband are both overweight (and interracial) and have great, beautiful, loving kids).

I'm not judging you at all and, again, I think it is great that you try to balance his opinion out...it just makes me really sad.

tuarceatha · August 2012

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Unpop Opinons/Confessions/Flames/Whatevers. : ? Is this like a Brazilian? The redness should go away fairly quickly, but if it doesn't or is uncomfortable, you can use vinegar to help. I know it sounds weird, but it does work. :)
Posted by SKP82[/QUOTE]

No ma'am. It is just more waxing. Vinegar, eh? What about "Rice Vinegar"? That is all we have in the house right now....

SKP82 · August 2012

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Unpop Opinons/Confessions/Flames/Whatevers. : No ma'am. It is just more waxing. Vinegar, eh? What about "Rice Vinegar"? That is all we have in the house right now....
Posted by jenjenniferf[/QUOTE]

Haha. I suppose rice vinegar would work.

Peaseblossom55 · August 2012

Late confession, I went with my sister for her wedding dress fitting last night. I didn't find the dress flattering on her at all, and the alteration so far looked kind of crappy, she still has one more fitting so I hope it fits better.

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