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About to put down a deposit. Thoughts on my choice?

I have three bridesmen, and since they're scared to go to the bridal shop with me, I need opinions. What do you think about this dress? It would be in ivory and navy, not the green in the site pictures. It has a semi-cathedral train and I am wondering if that will make me look shorter than I already am (5'-2''). The dress is not overly Victorian, but the floral embroidery makes it fit into the very subtle Victorian elements that are in the wedding plans. I love this dress, but I need some objective opinions on it. I'm worried it's going to wear my petite frame. What do you ladies like and not like?

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Re: About to put down a deposit. Thoughts on my choice?

  • It is very pretty!  I am short and petite as well (5'1") and tried on a dress with the same length train.  When they bustled it I almost fell backwards it was so heavy.  I found a dress I liked much better so did not purchase it but that was a major concern for me when shopping.  I do not think it made me look shorter though.  Plus, if you are concerned about that you can always buy taller shoes for the ceremony and purchase some little slippers for when it is time for dancing.  
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  • Since you asked for our opinions, I'll be honest.

    That's an older style dress, and it looks dated to me.  I'm not a fan.  Regardless, you should wear it if you love it.

    I wouldn't worry too much about it making you look short.  It'll be hemmed the right lenght, and a-line dresses flatter pretty much everyone.
  • I thought this one was discontinued (I used to work at AA)....If you love it, go for it. All their dreses are cut for 5'9 however if you don't want to lose ALL that empbroidery opt to pay $50 extra and have it shortened at the factory by 3in...you will steal need some heels and might lose some in the hem line but not all.
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  • I'll be honest too - I don't like this dress. It's just not my taste. But if you tried it on and loved it..go for it! :)
  • I researched Victorian wear on the internet and in the university library, then consulted my history professor that is obsessed with everything Victorian/British to okay my choice for the dress. He said it works for the subtle Victorian elements we want. Yes, lace was a part of the Victorian era (lace is more popular during the Edwardian era), but embroidery and flowers were also popular in this time period and the train is covered with tiny beaded flowers. My prof mentioned the lack of sleeves, then continued to say that evening Victorian dresses often had straps that draped off the shoulder and sometimes, though rarely, did not have straps or sleeves at all.

    I agree it's not completely Victorian, which is why there are only subtle hints of the Victorian era planned. Both my fiance and I are history majors, so accuracy has been very important to us. I'm loving the honest opinions. They're why I am asking you ladies.
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    [QUOTE]I researched Victorian wear on the internet and in the university library, then consulted my history professor that is obsessed with everything Victorian/British to okay my choice for the dress. He said it works for the subtle Victorian elements we want. Yes, lace was a part of the Victorian era (lace is more popular during the Edwardian era), but embroidery and flowers were also popular in this time period and the train is covered with tiny beaded flowers. My prof mentioned the lack of sleeves, then continued to say that evening Victorian dresses often had straps that draped off the shoulder and sometimes, though rarely, did not have straps or sleeves at all. I agree it's not completely Victorian, which is why there are only subtle hints of the Victorian era planned. Both my fiance and I are history majors, so accuracy has been very important to us. I'm loving the honest opinions. They're why I am asking you ladies.
    Posted by Sydney91[/QUOTE]

    You don't have to justify your choice for us.  If you love the dress and feel good in it, you should absolutely wear it.

    But don't use your theme as an excuse for your dress choice.  As a PP showed you with links to those other two dresses, there are plenty of options out there for incorporating your theme with a dress that's not out of style (yet).  To me, that dress doesn't say "Victorian".  It just says "2003".

    Again, though, you should wear it if you love it.  It's not my place to make you feel bad about your choice.
  • Sydney91Sydney91 member
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    edited February 2012
    How am I using my theme as an excuse for my dress choice? Just curious. I was simply clarifying popular Victorian fashion. I agree the dress is out of style, but I just can't get on board with the 2012 lines with the ruffles and the lack of modesty. Thank you to everyone for your posts. I am definitely ordering this dress. 
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  • I will be honest I do not like it. But if you love the way it looks and love the way you feel in it then go for it! Everyone has different styles! 
  • Honestly, I really don't like it, especially since you said you have a larger bust. I think the colored band at the top could look very uflattering on a large-chested bride (just my opinion). And I agree with PP who said it looks dated (circa 2003 - not Victorian at all).
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    [QUOTE]Honestly, I really don't like it, especially since you said you have a larger bust. <strong>I think the colored band at the top could look very uflattering on a large-chested bride</strong> (just my opinion). And I agree with PP who said it looks dated (circa 2003 - not Victorian at all).
    Posted by trixie549[/QUOTE]

    This is exactly what I was thinking.  While I love the idea of a pop of color in a wedding gown, I am not a fan of a straight band across the top of this dress, espeically when you are large busted (um, btw, jealous!  :)  ).  One of my cringe moments is seeing large busted brides in certain strapless dresses.  Some can pull it off depending on the cut but some have, what I call arm pit muffin top and the band of color draws even more attention to this area.

    If you feel that the top is flattering and you love it, buy it, but beware the arm pit muffin top!  ::begin dramtic music::
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  • I'll watch for it! I'm getting the pop of colour to separate my ghastly pale skin from the ivory. My grad dress was strapless and was still flattering at the top. Since I've only gone up a cup size since then, I think I should be fine. I definitely saw that arm pit muffin top on a few girls at grad (sorry girls I'm twenty - high school is a recent memory and therefore the basis of my ideas most of the time). They were the heavier-set girls though and I'm skin and bones (I think I'm one of the very few brides trying to put on weight).
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