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accessories driving me crazy

I guess this is more of a vent than a plea for advice, but I am just getting so frustrated with my indecision regarding my accessories. I have always wanted and planned to wear my hair up, with a gorgeous comb in the back, and wear big chandelier glamorous earrings. The vibe I am going for is very red carpet glam. The problem began when I went to pick out my veil and I tried on a jeweled headband for fun, and my mom fell in love with it. I liked it too and decided to get it when she offered to buy it for me. I don't know if I was just excited or what, but I totally disregarded my entire mental image that I had previously.

The headband recently came in and I realized just how much I will have to change my whole look to accommodate it. I only like it with my hair half-up, and now with all the bling on my head I will have to wear much smaller earrings. I am a big earrings girl, especially when getting dressed up, and this has just been nagging at me. I also feel like I can't wear as sparkly of a bracelet b/c the headband makes my whole ensemble look very over-accessorized and more bridal than red carpet. My dress is a Pnina that is mostly plain but has crystals on the sweetheart neckline, and that is another reason why I feel like I will be over-accessorized.

I guess my question is, can I just not wear the headband and go back to my original look? I feel so guilty that my mom bought it for me, and it wasn't that cheap ($200.00). She says its ok, but I can tell she is a little dissapointed. But I also feel like she will quickly forget about it (she's like that) and I think I'd much rather disappoint her a tiny bit than worry on my wedding day that I don't feel like myself and that I don't match my vision of myself. I do think the headband is gorgeous, but it just isn't me.

Note: If I don't wear the headband I will sell it and/or reimburse my mom

Anyone else struggling with your look being different than what you intended?
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Re: accessories driving me crazy

  • itzMSitzMS member
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    It sounds like you really, REALLY need to have a hair trial with your stylist.
  • Is there a possibility of an updo that would look nice with the headband? Then maybe you could accessorize as you would like for most of the day, then change into the headband for a short period of time at the reception.
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  • I agree w/pp, schedule trial hair appointment ASAP. Go get a comb like you described & take both with you to hair stylist w/veil. Tell stylist your vision and give her both hair accessories & see what she can come up with. Make sure to take photos if she gives you mutliple options to accomodation both looks.

    I had a blinged out headband (I have very short hair & that was really only option for anything besides veil), wore medium size chandalier earrings and a nice blinged out bracelet & it looked nice. The bracelet was far enough away on my body from the other pieces that they didn't fight for attention with each other.
  • Definitely go for a hair trial. Take pictures of your hair with both accessories so you can look at it the next day and decide. I think you can go with medium sized chandelier earrings and it will look nice. The bracelet will be far enough from your head that it won't look like too much. I'd stay away from any necklace if you have a sparkly top, earrings and a headband though.
  • Thanks guys. I am going for my hair trial friday, and then my first fitting after, so i will be able to see how everything looks together. I am definitely not wearing a necklace. I think I am going to forgo the headband too since it is causing me so much grief. Who would have thought this would be such a pain?
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  • I agree. Have a hair trial and then make your decision.
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