What has been your most challenging wedding related choice?

kkidd28 · May 2010

What was your hardest wedding pick & why? For me - it has probably been the florist - I still haven't picked any flowers and my wedding is just under 4 months away. I have always been a t shirt & jeans type of girl. I like flowers, but have never really paid much attention to them and can only tell you the names of like 3 or 4 of them total! Plus, I was once in a friends wedding where the pastor began having an asthma attack during the service because of the flowers, so that's all I'm afraid of!
Anyone else have a hard time picking something?

fpaemp2011 · May 2010

This may seem ridiculous (and long), but for us, it was time of day. I go to a college where it is very common to get married in the month after graduation, so in the last 4 years, i've been to 6 weddings that were smaller, afternoon church ceremonies and either fellowship hall or garden receptions. The weddings were beautiful and fit each brides' personality. I thought that was what I wanted, because it's what I had become accustomed to. We had even talked about an afternoon wedding before and early into our engagement. However, about a month into the engagement, I was looking at pictures of cakes, and realized that an afternoon casual wedding isn't what I want. (Side story: my parents gave me a crystal Princess House cake topper when I was 16, and it's been in my hope chest just waiting for my wedding). As I was looking at cake pictures, I realized that the cake topper just wouldn't work (in my mind) for an afternoon wedding, I wanted the evening candlelight wedding and an evening reception with jazz music. I was so afraid that mom and dad wouldn't be ok with the change (at this point, we had not made a single wedding related purchase or reservation), but I was convinced they would tell me that we had to stick with the smaller wedding. Thankfully, mom "knew" (mother's instinct, I guess) that I wanted the evening wedding, and they're ok with it. It's been interesting planning an evening wedding on a limited budget, but I'm learning what's really important to us. Oh, I feel like not mentioning FI in all of this is odd, but when it came to this detail, he was using his "I have no strong convictions," line...

katanne9 · May 2010

My veil.

I've spent hours and hours and hours pouring over veils.

I still haven't chosen one and I REALLY need to figure it out soon. Sigh.

TysWife2Be · May 2010

My VENUE!

And the choice still isnt made yet...ha ha ha

It just seemed like so much with my daughters birthday coming up this month, FI opening a restaurant, and 10-10-10 being such a popular date and options being limited.

Although pushing the wedding back was not what I originally wanted, it was better that way.

Now, we have a chance to see all kinds of venues that were unavailable for us had we still been getting married in October.

iamjoesgurl · May 2010

It was the venue for me too. I wanted to get married in the Adirondacks (NY) and near my grandmother's house but there were no indoor venues that could fit our wedding size and budget.

As a back-up, I started expanding my search to other areas of NY. I fell in love with a venue that was about 90 miles from my grandmother's house, but they had no availability for the months that we wanted to get married (May/June/July).

Once I had my heart set on that venue and it wasn't working out, I decided that I HAD to get married/have reception by a lake, in a stone chapel with the reception inside (not in a tent). I agonized over this for a few weeks and then finally called the venue back to ask them to contact me if they got any cancellations. On that call, they said they just got a cancellation for October and would I consider that. It didn't take us long to make the decision and push the date back. We got married in my dream location and it was gorgeous because it was just about the time that leaves were changing.

I really feel that God had the better plan and I'm so glad that it all worked out!

jsimm · May 2010

ours have been the centerpieces. we're having a fall beach wedding, with an early afternoon reception. we have a small budget, so i don't want to use flowers. my mom and i have been butting heads for the last 2 months about them; she likes one thing, while i'm not totally stoked and not so comfortable with what we have. its been a constant argument. meanwhile, FI doesn't care, but will make a decision if i beg him to. so far, this has been the biggest decision to date.

aneresRN · May 2010

The favors. They can be so expensive and I am being incredibly picky. I know I want something edible, but I also know I don't feel like cooking it. I will be way to busy leading up to the wedding to worry about cooking anything. I really don't want to spend more then a couple bucks a person on the favors. I'm way over thinking this....

Brashley08 · May 2010

FOOD. I am SUCH a foodie- but FI couldnt care less!!! We decided on a buffet style as a compromise. Turkey, ham, warm sides, salad and bread. All cooked and served by my step mother to save some money. I would have preferred a sit down meal with a full three courses. YUM.

On_Cloud_Nine · May 2010

Honestly....I'm just so tired of making any choices at all!

At 2 days out, I don't even want to make a decision on what to have for lunch! I just want someone to bring it to me so I don't have to think about it. I can't wait until I don't have to make any more wedding decisions/choices.

I don't think there have been any that were really challenging, though. There's just been so many.

Jeffie86 · May 2010

1) I thought the photographer was going to be hard, because I know what to look for, and no one in the area could offer that in our price range. Some of my friends had gone with a guy that I absolutely loved but was out of my budget, so I was waffling between three people I wasn't crazy about. Then my sister sent some $$ to help out, and the photog gave us some great discounts! I am so thankful.

2) We had to choose our date based on reception venue availability. There isn't much around here with character, and most of our first choice days were taken. I really wanted to have our reception at this neat ,historical mansion in town, but my mom couldn't be there without a/c and she didn't want to plan a wedding in another town. So it's our second choice and the day ended up working out great--you get discounts on Fridays!

mrb5000 · May 2010

We went back and forth and back and forth between buffet dinner and served dinner. A served dinner at our venue is actually $2-3 cheaper per person (which surprised us!) but we liked the idea of guests being able to eat all they wanted, and also not dealing with meal choices on RSVPs. We eventually decided that a served dinner would appear a little classier, and we were over budget, so the $2-3/person made a difference! So, we're having a served dinner, with choices of NY Strip Steak, Chicken Abruzzio, and Stuffed Flounder (plus a veg and kid's option). I'm happy with the decision!

mokim84 · May 2010

everyone think im very weird for this, but the bridesmaids dresses. i am paying for the dresses and also choosing them (taking into consideration their opinions of course). but having everyone to agree on one is very difficult. i think choosing their dresses is taking longer than my own dress. mine took a while too but i decided on one. bridesmaids dresses is still in the process..

CourtneyBC · May 2010

Flowers were hard for me, too... I'm not really a flower girl. I really like candles, though. So our centerpieces have a lot of candles and mirrors (so it looks like there are hundreds of thousands of candles!). Anyway, we have three different sizes of mirrored boxes that will go onthe table. Two boxes will have candles set on top of them; one will have flowers in them. They will have hydranga in most of the box, and tucked in the corner of the boxes, there will be just a small bit of color--either purple or lime green. They'll be nice and short too so everyone can see over the arrangement.

SO I didn't actually have to choose very many flowers. I found a picture of two bouquets I liked. A purple one for me and a lime green one for my BMs. But yeah, flowers were difficult, but at least I avoided having to pick very many of them!

The hardest thing has been dance lessons. As it turns out, I hate dancing. Who knew? I tried to cancel the first dance/father-daughter dance/ etc, but it turns out FI actually likes dancing and my dad would be mad because he went through five dance lessons for me.

CourtneyBC · May 2010

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/cultural-wedding-boards_christian-weddings_challenging-wedding-related-choice?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Cultural Wedding BoardsForum:464687ae-7bc1-4360-9aea-999e11f1e1adDiscussion:0bfe871f-7180-4844-8149-9a6d42c5917aPost:0f59d5a5-7561-417e-bb14-0637c4b9ffef">Re: What has been your most challenging wedding related choice?</a>:
[QUOTE]The favors. They can be so expensive and I am being incredibly picky. I know I want something edible, but I also know I don't feel like cooking it. I will be way to busy leading up to the wedding to worry about cooking anything. I really don't want to spend more then a couple bucks a person on the favors. I'm way over thinking this....
Posted by aneresRN[/QUOTE]

Go try cookies at your favorite local grocery store. I know that sounds crazy, but one day, I was grocery shopping and REALLY craving a cookie. So I bought a HUGE heath cookie at the grocery store. It was honestly the best heath cookie I've ever eaten (which really bothered me, because that kind of cookie is my specialty). Anyway, I asked what it would cost per person for them to make 100. They said $75 plus tax. We're wrapping them up in cellophane (sp?) (which is dirt cheap) and tying with a pretty purple ribbon. That puts us at roughly $0.80 per person, AND we don't have to cook anything!

WFH · May 2010

To me is has and still is hard to accept late additions to the wedding party.
Today. My FI has come up with an idea to invite a friend. Our RSVP date is 23rd of May and we even haven't got any invitation to send out.
We talked about inviting him a few months back and we both agreed no. I dont like the friend because he is using people, because he is just lazy. For example - he lived in my FIs house for a month (at first it was going to be a few days) without paying or helping with anything and so on. The only thing I could do in my FIs house, when I was there after school, was cleaning after him. And it was too hard for my FI to say no to him:/
Well.. Today, my Fi has changed his mind. All the seating is already done and I'm a bit stressed now.
I even didn't invite my best friend, because we don't have any room. Well, I've known that girl for 2months, but we are totally best friends.
Lately, I've been having a dilemma, wether to invite the girl or not because we just dont have any room.
Now I'm having second thoughts. I even told my FI if he's going to invite that friend then I'm inviting mine also and i don't care where he will sit.

We even started arguing about it and we ended with a situation where my Fi started counting my friends and his friends. Even though a very large majority of the invited ones are very good friends of both.

Any help?:/

FutureMrsMcDaniel · May 2010

I guess my most difficult decision would be a reception dress. I love my wedding gown but am trying to be realistic. I wanted a gown that had a lot of lace on it, but let's face it, lace itches like crazy! I know I'm going to go nuts wearing the dress for that long, so I decided to buy a simple dress for the reception.

sarahjarvi · May 2010

Ours has been rebooking vendors and a pastor.
first our Pastor informed us like 3 1/2 months before the wedding that he could no longer be our officiant. Then 2 1/2 weeks before our wedding our DJ and photographer cancelled on us. I am so happy that its all gonna be over with here in a few days, I just want to be his wife! :-D
All in all everything has gone smoothly with the rebooks and its truly turned out to be a blessing from God that we have booked the people we did, we are much happier with them!!!

CHarley2B · May 2010

For me thus far it's been picking the colors and my bridesmaids. Both of which I still haven't committed to. Hopefully, the rest of the decisions come easier after I make those....I'm still early in the planning stages.

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