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BEEN CRYING FOR DAYS…..

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Re: BEEN CRYING FOR DAYS…..

  • TeamBabyTeamBaby
    100 Comments
    edited December 2011

    Wow, for a minute I thought I was back on the "Military Brides" board. LOL  FYI  for the regulars on here, this thread is almost exactly like every conversation on the military brides board, a lot of the posters are like the OP of this thread- full of immature drama.  Read it if you want to be entertained.  ;)  I love this board!

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  • schroeadschroead member
    500 Comments
    edited December 2011
    What's the point of arguing with her over this?
    Yes, some relationships with a big age difference work, but the truth is most do not. If you two are at the point where you want him to buy a new ring and start over, you should definitely not be planning a wedding.
    You really should sit down and think long and hard about this. I got engaged when I was 19, but we have waited 2 years to get married...and we've been dating for 7 years. Never have we once needed to "start over'".  If there are little things that bother you about the relationship now, it will only be amplified over time.
    Best advice I can give you is to not get caught up in the whirlwind of wedding planning...and really REALLY focus on your relationship. Do you really see potential long term with the SAME person...50 years from now? Or are you just seeing yourself marrying him?

    Anyway, that's my little advice... :)

    !Happily Married!
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  • RobbihRobbih member
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    edited December 2011
    "Touche", exactly what I was thinking.
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  • sambarnettsambarnett member
    10 Comments
    edited December 2011
    Ok, wow... this thing has gotten way out of hand. BUT, I am going to offer my advise anyway! I was 19 when I got married (over 8 years ago), we are still married and happy with 2 small girls; but this is rare. Based on your first post it sounds like neither of you are really ready. CLEARLY he is not, and by the things you have said you are not. So why push it? I understand that you love this man and want to spend the rest of your life with him but if you try to force him into a marriage he is not ready for no one will be happy and it won't last long. Relax and give it some time (I know easier said than done), but what do you have to gain from pushing the issue right now? The ring thing is a bit silly. If you are proposed to without a ring that does not mean you are loved less, so why refuse to use an engagement that already belonged to you? Does it have any less value (emotionaly)? Now, if it were a ring he had used to propose to another woman then I could understand about wanting something that he would have picked out with only you in mind. If you want to marry him so badly... why does the ring even matter?
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  • spechtholdnspechtholdn
    100 Comments
    edited December 2011
    My input.... Please don't get married until you know the difference between the words "marry" and "merry". That's all.
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