So, necessary backstory. My parents got divorced around the time I graduated high school when we all lived in AZ. I went to college in CA, Mom moved to CO and got married halfway through my freshman year. Stepdad has three kids, two perfectly nice and polite daughters who I've met a couple of times, and an immature douchebag of a son who I've met a couple more.
They were on our initial guest list, but once we realized that we had to make some drastic cuts and relocate the whole thing, I wasn't intending on inviting them. A couple of months ago, Mom mentions that Stepdad's kids had been planning on coming until they found out it was a Friday. "Oh," was my only response. I thought I'd dodged a bullet there.
So yesterday, I sent a mass text to people for mailing addresses, because I'm klassy like that. Mom and I talked for a bit, and then she drops this one on me:
Mom: btw [douchebag] wants to come with his new girlfriend
Me: I thought they couldn't make it...
Mom: (I cleared these out already, so I can't remember what she said here.)
Me: I'm not sure we had room, I hadn't planned on inviting [Stepdad's] kids because we're not that close.
Mom: we'll make room
Me: Honestly, I'm not sure I trust [Douchebag] in Vegas. It just seems like a bad combination.
I didn't get a response to that. The whole thing really upset me; I hardly slept last night because of this, so I was too tired to take FI to work this morning, meaning I couldn't get the car so I could run some necessary errands, including scouting AHR venues. I'm wicked pissed.
Thing is, I know that Douchebag wouldn't be making the effort to come to my wedding were it still in Yosemite. He just wants to go to Vegas. And frankly, of anyone who might even be considered for an invitation, he's the only person who I wouldn't trust to behave like an adult and not get completely shiitfaced, make a scene, and terribly insult all of my friends. I wouldn't worry about it if we were having a larger wedding, but in a hotel room with only 30-some other people, that's the sort of thing that's hard to ignore.
So, do I call Mom and lay it all out, or do I just let my last text be the end of it? I'm tempted to compromise and invite him with no guest (I've never heard of this girl before yesterday, it's clearly not serious), in which case I'm sure he'd lose interest. Ultimately, I just don't like him, and the thought of having him there has really upset me.
Cliffs Notes: Douchebag stepbrother is trying to talk his way onto the guest list, Aerin is ready to start strangling people indiscriminately.
This is a neglected planning bio.This is a belated married bio, with no reviews yet because I'm lazy.
Sometimes I feel like people think that brides are delicate little flower princesses who get all dressed up and pretty for one special moment of their dreams, when really they're just normal people who just happen to be getting married. Things shouldn't have to be sugar-coated for grown-ass women. -mstar284