Debating getting a new dress...

Re: Debating getting a new dress...

• JenJo54

  

  February 2012

  I went through the same thing-  tried on a ton of dresses, they all started to look alike & so I tried on something that was really different & liked that the most so I ended up getting it.  I had a picture taken with me in a sample that was a few sizes smaller than what I normally wear (A line dress) & it wasn't pretty.  When the dress came in, the first time I tried it on I felt like a big marshmellow. I'm having a beach wedding & ended up picking out a dress much fuller than what I thought I'd get.  I didn't really like it & considered going to look for something else.  I saw so many others online that I thought I might like more.... but I had to stop looking around & not worry about it.   Over the holidays I didn't really think about it at all.  I went back 2 weeks ago for my first fitting & like the way it looked much more. Now I'm anxious to see what it looks like after alterations!   I suggest looking at a picture of the dress on a model instead of yourself.... that dress was fitted to them & eventually yours will be fitted to you & will look good once you have your hair & everything else done.

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• AurorasEnvy

  

  February 2012 edited February 2012

  It's really common to have 2nd thoughts.  I mean, you could literally shop forever and not try on every dress out there.  #1 advice after you buy your dress: stop shopping!  Especially since they all look so gorgeous on the models, it's easy to have 2nd thoughts - it sounds to me like you already know this though, since 2 that you LOVED on the models you didn't like on you.

  
  

  If you are really questioning, I might make a "deal" with yourself - allow yourself 1 more shopping day.  If you don't find anything else that day that totally tops the dress you have, then stop - no looking for dresses online, no more shopping, nothing.

  
  

  I love my dress, but I've also seen photos of other gowns that I'm like "OMG!"  (Not that I was actively looking, but sometime it is hard to avoid).  You just have to forget about it, and remember why you bought the dress you bought in the first place.  Also, now that my dress is altered to actually fit me, I love it a whole lot more!

  
  

  I know a lot of girls talk about their dress being "the one", but to be quite honest, if I had shopped a lot more, I know I could have found dresses that I loved just as much (maybe even more!).  It's kind of like men - you found one you love in your FI, and you are committing to him even though there *might* be someone else out there if you dated all the men in the world.  Sometimes you just have to love the one you have (men & dresses

  
  

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• gymbugmj2k member

  

  February 2012

  i have doubts about my dress every so often, but every time i put it on, i LOVE IT... so, now when i look at photos of me in it and start second guessing, i yell at myself and remind myself how much i love it on me. i also have to remind myself that it's not altered yet, and so parts of it do still look odd.
  
  of course it helps that i hate just about everythnig that's out right now, so i dont have too much temptation to find something new....
  
  the best thing i can tell you is to constantly remind yourself why you love it, and how the dress makes you feel, its comfort, etc.  there are lots of ways a photo can make you look bad even when you're stunning, so it could just be the photo you're looking at! =P

  
  

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• Avion22 member

  

  February 2012

  Could you possibly post the pic that your MOH took of you in your dress?  We're really good at telling people how amazing they look in their dresses:-)

  

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• Steph029 member

  

  February 2012

  Have you taken it to a seamstress yet? I purposely bought a dress that I didn't totally love because it had two of the three features I absolutely wanted but couldn't find in a total package. The dress was on sale and the two features it had would have been very expensive to do so I opted to buy this particulae dress because the third feature will be an easy alteration.
  
  Currently the dress is not that flattering on me but when it's done it will be exactly what I wanted (and still well within my budget). I would suggest taking it to a seamstress and telling her what you don't like about the dress and what you envision it to be. You might be surprised at what they can do for you.

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• 73jewels member

  

  February 2012

  I felt (and feel) the same way.  I just had my 1st fitting on Saturday, and the dress is pretty, but I feel like it's not right.  I actually do have another dress in mind, and went so far as to contact people selling their dresses to try to buy that specific one, but then I realized if I had the new dress, I probably still wouldn't be happy and then where would it end.  I agree with PP who said that there are tons of dresses out there, and if you keep shopping, you will NEVER be satisfied!
  
  I've talked to a lot of my already married frineds who have said the same thing. Also, like another PP said, maybe if there is something specific about the dress you are not happy with, they can alter it for you?  I am having a few things done to my dress (for one, I am taking some of the poufiness out of it b/c I feel it drowns me as well since I'm 5'1), and I think I'll be much happier with the dress when I am done!

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• mnols

  

  February 2012

  Thanks everyone.  Wedding is about 8 months away, and I think some of the areas that aren't flattering could be solved by getting in better shape (my backside & hips look waaay bigger in the pictures than usual), so tempted to wait 2 months and try it on again after I've (hopefully) lost a few pounds and toned up.  If it still doesn't accentuate/play down the appropriate areas, is 6 months too little time to get a new dress?

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• 73jewels member

  

  February 2012

  I purchased my dress on October 31 and it came in 2 weeks ago - so that's about 3 1/2 months.  I would say that's relatively quick, but 6 months should be fine, depending on your designer.

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