Potluck?

puppetrick · June 2012

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_reception-ideas_potluck?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding BoardsForum:5Discussion:f398feb3-92b9-4225-8143-fef5d2c0d29aPost:24617ae3-0fa0-4545-9059-3f3ef1736c0d">Re: Potluck?</a>:
[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Potluck? : Holy effin crap!!!! You dug up a thread from April 2011?!?!?!?! In answer to your question, if it were an acquaintance, no I would not go. If it were a good friend, I'd probably pony up the money myself for some sort of catering, even if it was sandwiches or chik-fil-A just to keep her and her husband (or vice versa) from making total asses of themselves by holding a potluck reception.
Posted by GoodLuckBear14[/QUOTE]

Yes, I did. So...?? Just seeing if women were as snarky back then as they are now.

SugarFoote · June 2012

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_reception-ideas_potluck?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:5Discussion:f398feb3-92b9-4225-8143-fef5d2c0d29aPost:f706929a-1e22-4bc8-b8f2-60b915c88147">Re: Potluck?</a>:
[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Potluck? : Yes, I did. So...?? Just seeing if women were as snarky back then as they are now.
Posted by puppetrick[/QUOTE]

I really hate to burst your delicate little bubble, but no one was "snarky" to you. If that is what you consider snarky then maybe you shouldn't play on the internet anymore.

puppetrick · June 2012

Snarky: critical, cutting, snide, disrespectful - Criticism, not celebration, is what you guys thrive on in regards to this subject. Who would ever think to say to someone, "Oh, that's not something I would do..." or heck, how about not saying anything at all? However, I know why I like responding so much - it's fun to see people freak out. The reactions are pretty funny now. It might be childish to keep going, but again...if it bothers you, don't respond. Just walk away.

For the record, my high school students think the responses are funny too - I've been showing them and I'm using the posts now as "effective or ineffective persuasive writing?" examples. Thanks for the input.

GoodLuckBear14 · June 2012

You teach persuasive writing? Okay. Persuade us. Why is it good etiquette to ask you guests to do the catering for your wedding?

puppetrick · June 2012

I will bullet point my reasons, w/o writing a full-fledged essay. In no way are the bullets in an order of any sort, and I know this will not be void of a critical (yea verilly, "snarky") remark afterwards.

*It's traditional
*It's a simple wedding, therefore a simple reception. No frills, just fun and fellowship!
*I don't consider it tacky/low-budget to ask friends/family to contribute a small piece of themselves to share with each other
*It builds community amongst friends/family
*I understand people might freak out about potlucks and the food-bacteria/whatever which might come with it, but at all the gatherings I've gone to, I have yet to have gotten ill from a potluck (we use chill tables, too...)
*Even though my parents offered initially to pay for catering, I said no. My dad loves to cook (and cooks well!) and it's my choice for this; and my parents aren't talking behind my back about it
*A variety of people already have told me what they want to bring - we have people with "specialty" dishes that they love preparing - so I'm not fearing that NO one will come and there won't be a supply of food
*I'm in charge of beverages and meat, so there will be items to quench the parched and fill the protein-lacking (in other words, it won't just all be potato salad and chips-and-dip)
*Even if people that seemingly think things are "tacky" at first, initially the same people don't have THAT bad of a time during the event
*My friends love me and enjoy the fact it's going to be simple, especially in the chaos we call "the first week back to school" - heck, my reception cards had a picture of Hello Kitty barbequing! They know I'm eclectic and love that I'm not doing something formal for the celebration!
*With the community in which I live, we love love love potlucks! We had one last night! No one was bitching about it - and it wasn't just a "get-together" - it was a mini-after-the-factor-celebration-reception for a newly wedded couple.
*If asked to bring something to a potluck reception, I would DEFINITELY be elated to bring a dish...but then again, I love to cook. But even the people I know who don't like to engage in being over a stove, still bring something - and enjoy their time spent with the company around them. Heck, if one doesn't want to attend, then he/she doesn't have to.

GoodLuckBear14 · June 2012

you still haven't answered the question, how is it proper etiquette or even acceptable etiquette to ask your guests to work your reception by acting as the caterers.

puppetrick · June 2012

I'm going to do what works for my event, and if it's not perfect etiquette (or etiquette at all), oh well. I'm quite sure the etiquette police aren't going to come after me. If invited guests don't want to come b/c they think it's "unacceptable," they won't. No biggie. Thank God, I have gracious, generous people in my social circle, who love and support me (and don't shun me because of how I am planning an upcoming wedding). And, they aren't patronizing/pitying me. They really ARE excited for it.

SugarFoote · June 2012

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_reception-ideas_potluck?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding BoardsForum:5Discussion:f398feb3-92b9-4225-8143-fef5d2c0d29aPost:43eb7a3a-5a27-4c21-b1cf-378cf7dfa3d7">Re: Potluck?</a>:
[QUOTE]Snarky: critical, cutting, snide, disrespectful - Criticism, not celebration, is what you guys thrive on in regards to this subject. Who would ever think to say to someone, "Oh, that's not something I would do..." or heck, how about not saying anything at all? However, I know why I like responding so much - it's fun to see people freak out. The reactions are pretty funny now. It might be childish to keep going, but again...if it bothers you, don't respond. Just walk away. :) For the record, my high school students think the responses are funny too - I've been showing them and I'm using the posts now as "effective or ineffective persuasive writing?" examples. Thanks for the input. :)
Posted by puppetrick[/QUOTE]

Did you just admit to being a troll? Because it sounds like you are just trying to get drama started and you are enjoying doing so.

NikishaMcFall · June 2012

Ok. So far I've just been lurking and laughing my a$$ off at all this. But I would like to weigh in.

I am a high school teacher as well, and using internet forums based on your personal life to teach children makes me cringe. I can literally see you showing this to your students to validate your reasoning under the guise of "teaching" by throwing in something remotely educational such as "hey class, here's a random example of effective/ineffective persuasive samples.

Use some real educational materials for God's sake.

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