Can I have a girl as a ring bearer?

Re: Can I have a girl as a ring bearer?

• CA2MT4EveR member

  

  April 2010

  In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_wedding-party_can-girl-ring-bearer?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:37Discussion:596ca82d-dd94-49d6-8fab-9b78e4b3690dPost:0ddad52d-9824-40eb-8d19-3879c7e37633">Can I have a girl as a ring bearer?</a>:
  [QUOTE]My 12 year old almost step-daughter is an important part of my wedding. First I thought about having her as a junior bridesmaid but then, since we don’t have a ring bearer, I thought maybe she could deliver the rings to us.<strong> I think it’s such an important job </strong>and she would like to do it. Is having a girl as a ring bearer totally weird?
  Posted by val_vazquez[/QUOTE]
  
  Why is it so important?  You do realize they carry fake rings and are merely a prop, right?

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• tidetravel member

  

  April 2010

  If she were 6 it would be ok, but at 12, she may think she's too "old" for the position.
  
  You can still make her a Jr. BM AND have her carry the rings.  You don't need a ringbearer.

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• suz62984

  

  April 2010

  I think 12 is a little too old to be a ring bearer or flower girl. I don't see any reason why a girl couldn't be a ring bearer. I would just ask her since she is old enough to decide what roll she would be comfortable with in the wedding.
  
  Also, CA2 is right. They usually carry fake rings because the real ones could be lost while tied on a pillow. She is old enough that the real ones could be put on their; however if they get lost she will not be to blame.

  

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• CA2MT4EveR member

  

  April 2010

  For internet safety, I suggest you take your future last name off your ticker.  I assume your SN is your current name, and with the combination of the two, someone could get really crazy and find you.

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• mbcdefg member

  

  April 2010

  If she wants to do it, then that's fine. The Ring Bearer need not be a boy. Ask her and see what she says.
  
  Also, if she's doing everything an adult bridesmaid is required to do (wear a certain outfit - age appropriate, of course - walk down the aisle, stand/sit quietly during the ceremony and pose for photos), then there's no need for the "junior" title.

  

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• stina93446 member

  

  April 2010

  I agree with pp. Have her be a bm AND carry the real rings. What an honor for her!

  
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• trix1223 member

  

  April 2010

  ditto malphabet and stina.  Make her the bridesmaid who also carries the rings.  However, at most weddings, the Best Man and/or MOH hold the rings for the ceremony.
  
  However, to answer your OP:  RB is not a gender specific role.

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