So my wedding's in March and last June one of my bridesmaid offered up her house as the setting for the bridal shower since obviously I can't host it, I didn't want my mom to feel like she has to host it, and my FMIL may be selling her house before then. My MOH had said she would be hosting the party back when I first got engaged, but as she lives in a small apartment that wouldn't have enough room to host it there, I thought it would be great for her. My MOH was fine with having it at my bridesmaid's house until my bridesmaid came up with all these ideas for it that my MOH didn't like to the point where my MOH said she'd just look for elsewhere to host it. Both of them called me up to ask me which one I wanted hosting, I tried telling both of them I wanted to stay out of it, but my MOH offered to host it first so I felt like I should honor that.
Now it's September, family members have been asking me for weeks when the shower's going to be (I have a lot of out of town family) and when I asked my MOH if she's picked out a date for it so I could start telling people she just shrugs and said "I haven't thought about it yet." and changes the subject. My FMIL at this point wants to take over on it because she's worried if we leave it up to the MOH that I won't have one, or it will be so short noticed most family members won't be able to make it. I'm just not sure what to do cause everyone looks at me as if I'm supposed to make these decisions and I feel like as the bride this is the one thing that I'm supposed to just show up for. Any advice?
