I just found out the a friend/colleague just lost her baby. I'm in shock- it not only affects her, but two other friends...
It's a long and confusing story. My friend broke up with her boyfriend (I'll spare this long story) yet they would still have some "fun". Last year she got pregnant and he told her to abort. She did. This year she got pregnant again, but she did not want to go through the pain and emotional torture that she did the last time. While she did not know if she could raise the child, she went along with the pregnancy. Our other friends had been looking to adopt a baby and when they heard this, they asked if she would consider it. She loved the idea! However, in the state of Florida two gay men cannot adopt a child legally. They hired the best lawyer they could to fight the state if it came to that.
Pregnancy continued along. We were worried that in the end she would not want to give up the baby, but since they were all good friends she knew that she would not only give them a child, but also still be able to see her baby. They had a baby shower and had the baby's room painted in Winnie the Pooh theme, baby boy was named. They were set.
She was due last week. She went into labor on Saturday night and when they went to the hospital, the doctor found the baby had died. She had no amniotic fluid left and they were looking into why. She had to wait a day before they could perform a c-section. They baby was a stillborn last night. She is having major health issues now and is under constant watch as they do not know what went wrong. She is feeling as though it is her fault and is blaming herself. My two other friends won't talk to anyone they are so devastated.
I guess I'm just in shock. You would think that being healthy a week before the due date would mean you were in the clear. Of course there are times like these, but it's just so scary that this could happen the last week of your pregnancy. You never think it will happen to you, but this just proves it can happen to anyone.