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Newport Difficulty

edkrohnedkrohn
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My fiance and I live in Boston and I would love to have our reception in Newport.  I love that it's near the water and still has some old world charm.  Unfortunately, my fiance's parents live in New York and he believes that 3.5 hours is too far for them to drive for our wedding.  I believe that this is a perfectly reasonable drive for them for the wedding, considering that my parents have a 2.5 hour drive.  Nothing that is exactly between the two groups is desirable.  How do I convince my fiance that Newport is the perfect place for our wedding?
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Re: Newport Difficulty

  • eacosta1120eacosta1120
    100 Comments
    edited December 2011
    Have you looked at venues in Newport yet? I sold my fiance on Newport by showing him all the mansions and nice venues that I had found. I showed him pics of Newport and the venues that I liked the best. I told him that there was a lot in the area for people to do etc. Then, when I took him there to look at venues, he was sold on the idea. Tell him and his parents that it will be like a destination wedding-where people go and spend a weekend in Newport and you host a few events instead of just doing the wedding that way everyone will feel entertained etc. On another note, have you looked in to Newport at all to see if there are venues that you like and that are within your budget? The rental fees at some of the venues are extremely expensive. It's just something to consider beforehand. Oh, and we made a list comparing Newport vs Disney World which was the other location that we were considering. After seeing it all laid out on paper with pros and cons-we both thought Newport would definitely be the best option.
    Also, how many people are traveling from each side? Maybe you could justify the drive a bit more if your family has a lot more people in it-so they have to drive less. Good luck!
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  • s2bmrsjeffersons2bmrsjefferson
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    edited December 2011
    is boston that much further than newport? are they footing the bill? if they are then maybe they have a right to complain. most brides get married in their hometown or area nearby and most grooms sides of the family have to come longer distances. they just have to suck it up!
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  • jlsimon56jlsimon56
    500 Comments
    edited December 2011
    If you've got your heart set on Newport, remember that a lot of hotels there have a two-night minimum, and it's extra-busy there in the summer. 

    PP is right, usually the wedding is in the bride's hometown.  Haha - I got married in the same town my ILs live in, and my poor parents had to drive two hours and stay in a hotel for 4 nights. 

    Make a list of all the options, and make sure to include EVERYONE who's contributing money to the wedding.  They do get a say.
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  • jaz0822jaz0822 member
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    edited December 2011

    well, since he thinks newport is too far, I'm assuming he thinks Boston is too far too... does that mean he wants a NY wedding?  Even though Newport venues are expensive, they pale in comparision to NY!!!  Work the cost savings angle! 
    Good luck! :)

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  • moshi's pawmoshi's paw
    500 Comments
    edited December 2011
    gently show them alternative methods of transit from NYC- the train is a great option, and flights from LGA to PVD might be pretty cheap depending on when you are having your wedding.  once they see how awesome newport is, hopefully they'll understand that it's gorgeous and unique and the perfect "middle ground" to have the wedding.  good luck!
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