Hump Day Wednesday!

BlissPhilly · May 2012

It's Hump Day...Now’s the time for Vents, Open Letters and Confessions....Get it off your chest!

angelstar975 · May 2012

Vent - I'm in a wedding this summer and the bridal party has to get together next week to do some stuff for the shower. My best friend, A, also in the wedding party, was like "oh, we could do this date at J's (which is close to her and an hour away from where we're from) or this date at C's (our area) because I'll be home that day anyway." It's always about what's most convenient for her. She's always been this way, we used to always have to hang out at her house in high school and college, so I should be used to it, and I am, but I guess it's frustrating when she words it in a way to make it obvious she's concerned about her convenience. For the record, I have no problem going to J's, it actually makes the most sense bc J has a baby and she needs to be able to feed him at bedtime. It was just the way A said it that frustrated me. Can't get into too much more detail since the bride might read this, but just needed to vent that!

Also, I'm at work and the dad seems to be working from home today. I don't like that. He's in the basement so he's out of sight, but it's awkward to work with the parents in the house unless it's the mom at my main job because she's awesome and I'm very comfortable with her.

BlissPhilly · May 2012

Confession: I snuck over to the May 2012 because I really like looking at new brides recaps and pics...like in April I lurked on the April 2012 board and in March I lurked on the March 2012 board..you get the point LOL. Well today I read this post and I just wanted to scream "RUN and don't marry that dude until he get's his ish together" but that would have been VERY inappropriate and "judgy"...plus I've got my own problems I need to focus on LOL..here is the post, I hope I don't get flamed

http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/
wedding-club-boards_may-2012-weddings_ready-to-strangle-my-fi

angelstar975 · May 2012

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/local-wedding-boards_pennsylvania-philadelphia_hump-day-wednesday-14?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Local%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:105Discussion:3532580f-8bde-4277-97cc-80797d4895ffPost:f952e456-ee45-457f-8f40-e41d75af9205">Re: Hump Day Wednesday!</a>:
[QUOTE]Confession: I snuck over to the May 2012 because I really like looking at new brides recaps and pics...like in April I lurked on the April 2012 board and in March I lurked on the March 2012 board..you get the point LOL. Well today I read this post and I just wanted to scream "RUN and don't marry that dude until he get's his ish together" but that would have been VERY inappropriate and "judgy"...plus I've got my own problems I need to focus on LOL..here is the post, I hope I don't get flamed <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/">http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/</a> wedding-club-boards_may-2012-weddings_ready-to-strangle-my-fi
Posted by BlissPhilly[/QUOTE]

My FI is kind of like hers... I mean, it's a little different since he literally has almost no money, but whenever he gets a little bit, it's gone. He says that when he was working full time, he was really good at saving, but now that's in law school and broke, he likes to be able to do things when he does have money, since it's so rare. Then again, FI lives at home with no expenses, so it's not a huge deal right now. I think he'll be fine once we're out on our own, but we have agreed that I'll handle the money and bills in the beginning, since I'm pretty used to it. I don't have many expenses either right now, but I have a car payment, I've had credit cards... I'm used to budgeting and paying bills. Luckily, we already agreed on a hypothetical budget (it could change depending on what kind of job FI gets) and we're on the same page about not spending unnecessary money while we're starting out. I think the biggest problem in that post is that the girl offered to handle the money to make sure it's going where it needs to and the guy told her to F off... that's not a good sign that he doesn't even want to be more financially responsible. Financial responsibility can be learned (I certainly learned it after getting myself into credit card debt) but not even wanting to do anything about it is NOT good. Yeah, she should probably run.

BlissPhilly · May 2012

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/local-wedding-boards_pennsylvania-philadelphia_hump-day-wednesday-14?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Local Wedding BoardsForum:105Discussion:3532580f-8bde-4277-97cc-80797d4895ffPost:b5d4a621-3e95-4f62-b760-fb3deaa0b31f">Re: Hump Day Wednesday!</a>:
[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Hump Day Wednesday! : My FI is kind of like hers... I mean, it's a little different since he literally has almost no money, but whenever he gets a little bit, it's gone. He says that when he was working full time, he was really good at saving, but now that's in law school and broke, he likes to be able to do things when he does have money, since it's so rare. Then again, FI lives at home with no expenses, so it's not a huge deal right now. I think he'll be fine once we're out on our own, but we have agreed that I'll handle the money and bills in the beginning, since I'm pretty used to it. I don't have many expenses either right now, but I have a car payment, I've had credit cards... I'm used to budgeting and paying bills. Luckily, we already agreed on a hypothetical budget (it could change depending on what kind of job FI gets) and we're on the same page about not spending unnecessary money while we're starting out. <strong>I think the biggest problem in that post is that the girl offered to handle the money to make sure it's going where it needs to and the guy told her to F off</strong>... that's not a good sign that he doesn't even want to be more financially responsible. Financial responsibility can be learned (I certainly learned it after getting myself into credit card debt) but not even wanting to do anything about it is NOT good. Yeah, she should probably run.
Posted by angelstar975[/QUOTE]

Yes!! Financial Issues is one of the 1 reasons for divorce...and the fact that he doesn't give a "F" is really bad. She seems like she's okay with dealing with his attitude right now but I think it's going to comeback to bite her really bad later...that's sad

Teep · May 2012

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/local-wedding-boards_pennsylvania-philadelphia_hump-day-wednesday-14?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Local Wedding BoardsForum:105Discussion:3532580f-8bde-4277-97cc-80797d4895ffPost:f952e456-ee45-457f-8f40-e41d75af9205">Re: Hump Day Wednesday!</a>:
[QUOTE]Confession: I snuck over to the May 2012 because I really like looking at new brides recaps and pics...like in April I lurked on the April 2012 board and in March I lurked on the March 2012 board..you get the point LOL. Well today I read this post and I just wanted to scream "RUN and don't marry that dude until he get's his ish together" but that would have been VERY inappropriate and "judgy"...plus I've got my own problems I need to focus on LOL..here is the post, I hope I don't get flamed <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/">http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/</a> wedding-club-boards_may-2012-weddings_ready-to-strangle-my-fi
Posted by BlissPhilly[/QUOTE]

I do this too! I love seeing the pictures!

Teep · May 2012

I confess that I bought my dress ridiculously early, like almost 18 months out. On Sunday his sister was showing him some pictures on her phone, she forgot she had a picture of me in my dress from one of my fittings. FI saw it. I manage to keep it hidden him for 17 months and then less than a month out he sees it? Fuuck. I cried. I ugly cried. It was bad.

angelstar975 · May 2012

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/local-wedding-boards_pennsylvania-philadelphia_hump-day-wednesday-14?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Local%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:105Discussion:3532580f-8bde-4277-97cc-80797d4895ffPost:d2c9fb18-a7ea-422d-b410-75e42f52d6af">Re: Hump Day Wednesday!</a>:
[QUOTE]I confess that I bought my dress ridiculously early, like almost 18 months out. On Sunday his sister was showing him some pictures on her phone, she forgot she had a picture of me in my dress from one of my fittings. FI saw it. I manage to keep it hidden him for 17 months and then less than a month out he sees it? Fuuck. I cried. I ugly cried. It was bad.
Posted by Teep[/QUOTE]

I don't blame you one bit. Did he see it really well or did she quickly switch pictures? Ugh, I would be so upset. I'm sure your FI felt terrible too! That reminds me, I should probably save the pic of my dress to my computer and then delete it from my phone, just in case.

tdmaus · May 2012

@Bliss: I'm on the May 2012 board! LOL I did the same thing though. I sneaked over the April 2012 and looked at the pictures of the brides.. all so beautiful... and soon, it's my turn to post my pics... can't wait!

@Teep: There is a chance, he didnt get a good look at your dress, right? Pictures on phones are not great quality though, so he probably didnt see the details, etc... AND: He is a man = forgetful! You still have a few weeks til the wedding.. I'm pretty sure, your FI will forget the dress by then... and he only saw the dress.. not when you get dressed up with all your make up, veil and hair done, etc... my FI saw my dress before...but he totally forgot how it looks now... see? Men = forgetful...

Teep · May 2012

It's pretty ironic because it wasn't even a big deal to me to keep the dress a surprise, it was a big deal to him! I guess after all this time it became a big deal for me too. Thanks girls, it was only a couple of seconds. He was looking at it and says "What is this? Oh, it's Jess in her wedding dress" and he laughed a little. He says he doesn't really remember what it looks like. I didn't even look cute in the picture!
Angel - DEFINITELY delete the pics off your phone lol
tdmaus - I can't wait to see your pictures, your dress is stunning!

20pearls16 · May 2012

Vent-I really feel some sort of way that my FI doesn't want to do a honeymoon, stating we can't afford it BUT is moving hell and high water to get money together to go see the Eagles play the Saints in New Orleans 3 months after the wedding with his boyz.

angelstar975 · May 2012

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/local-wedding-boards_pennsylvania-philadelphia_hump-day-wednesday-14?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Local%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:105Discussion:3532580f-8bde-4277-97cc-80797d4895ffPost:20411ad9-9f5c-47c6-ae61-269790882395">Re: Hump Day Wednesday!</a>:
[QUOTE]Vent-I really feel some sort of way that my FI doesn't want to do a honeymoon, stating we can't afford it BUT is moving hell and high water to get money together to go see the Eagles play the Saints in New Orleans 3 months after the wedding with his boyz.
Posted by 20pearls16[/QUOTE]

That would seriously annoy me. Actually, I'd just be straight up pissed.

20pearls16 · May 2012

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/local-wedding-boards_pennsylvania-philadelphia_hump-day-wednesday-14?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Local%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:105Discussion:3532580f-8bde-4277-97cc-80797d4895ffPost:3033af59-3dc8-4ea9-9646-15a5a7dcc021">Re: Hump Day Wednesday!</a>:
[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Hump Day Wednesday! : That would seriously annoy me. Actually, I'd just be straight up pissed.
Posted by angelstar975[/QUOTE]

<div>He feels we don't need one because we just came back from St. Martin a month ago. Go figure.</div>

broodc2 · May 2012

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/local-wedding-boards_pennsylvania-philadelphia_hump-day-wednesday-14?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Local Wedding BoardsForum:105Discussion:3532580f-8bde-4277-97cc-80797d4895ffPost:20411ad9-9f5c-47c6-ae61-269790882395">Re: Hump Day Wednesday!</a>:
[QUOTE]Vent-I really feel some sort of way that my FI doesn't want to do a honeymoon, stating we can't afford it BUT is <strong>moving hell and high water to get money together to go see the Eagles play the Saints in New Orleans 3 months after the wedding with his boyz.
</strong>Posted by 20pearls16[/QUOTE]

At the risk of getting flamed, I sympathize with your FI. I wouldn't sacrifice our honeymoon but on my list of top 5 loves in the world, my FI is number one but I can't deny that the eagles don't fall somewhere behind her on the list. I'm going through hell and high water (but within budget!) to give my FI the wedding she's always dreamed of. Unfortunately for us guys, that means 4-5 figures for an engagement ring (let's be real...one she can show off to all her friends), and keep adding if the couple is paying for all or part of the wedding and honeymoon. That to-die-for photographer that costs $1000 more than a different photographer that would suffice that you insisted on booking?...yeah, there's your eagles tickets, hotel room, and at least one plane ticket. You want the upgraded centerpieces that are only $25 more per table?  With 10 tables that's another $250. So on and so forth.

Your situation may be different and if you're the one footing the bill for all or most of everything then OK, you've got a point. Your FI probably should not be using all his money for eagles tickets. But if it's a shared responsibility and he put out some $$ for a ring you've always wanted, or is agreeing to use joint funds for some upgrade that isn't necessary (but one you MUST have), etc. then I think it would be nice to work out a compromise. Maybe do a mini-moon and then go to a home eagles game or one where you could drive to instead of fly.

Just my 2 cents. Flame away.

20pearls16 · May 2012

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/local-wedding-boards_pennsylvania-philadelphia_hump-day-wednesday-14?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Local Wedding BoardsForum:105Discussion:3532580f-8bde-4277-97cc-80797d4895ffPost:0bffefc5-1822-49d9-9b6d-fbe61f5fb9f1">Re: Hump Day Wednesday!</a>:
[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Hump Day Wednesday! : At the risk of getting flamed, I sympathize with your FI. I wouldn't sacrifice our honeymoon but on my list of top 5 loves in the world, my FI is number one but I can't deny that the eagles don't fall somewhere behind her on the list. I'm going through hell and high water (but within budget!) to give my FI the wedding she's always dreamed of. Unfortunately for us guys, that means 4-5 figures for an engagement ring (let's be real...one she can show off to all her friends), and keep adding if the couple is paying for all or part of the wedding and honeymoon. That to-die-for photographer that costs $1000 more than a different photographer that would suffice that you insisted on booking?...yeah, there's your eagles tickets, hotel room, and at least one plane ticket. You want the upgraded centerpieces that are only $25 more per table? With 10 tables that's another $250. So on and so forth. Your situation may be different and if you're the one footing the bill for all or most of everything then OK, you've got a point. Your FI probably should not be using all his money for eagles tickets. But if it's a shared responsibility and he put out some $$ for a ring you've always wanted, or is agreeing to use joint funds for some upgrade that isn't necessary (but one you MUST have), etc. then I think it would be nice to work out a compromise. Maybe do a mini-moon and then go to a home eagles game or one where you could drive to instead of fly. Just my 2 cents. Flame away.
Posted by broodc2[/QUOTE]

LOL I won't flame you. I LOVE the Eagles. I even surprised him a couple of years ago and took him to Oakland when they played the Raiders (his real favoriate team) . I would even go with him to NO if the kids weren't in school. It's a Monday night game. I agreed to foot the bill for the wedding since he did buy a nice ring. The only thing he is responsible for is his suit and the liquor. THAT IS IT! I am paying for everything else. I even said let's go to AC for a couple of days after the wedding. He bi***ed about that saying we just came back from a trip. I don't mind him going to NO. I would go too if I could, but don't bit** about doing a honeymoon if you still have funds and the time to go away with your Boyz. BTW he just went with them to see the Eagles in MIA in December so technally he just went away with them too.

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