So, to recap, one of my BM's refused to try on/buy a gown during dress shopping because she "didn't like the color". I told my FI the story. I was so upset I was crying saying that we had only 6 Fridays until our wedding. He decided to call his brother. His brother is her (BM) husband. He told him that he thought it was best that she wasn't in the wedding party. That it doesn't matter if she didn't like the color. That was the color! It turned out that him and his brother got into a HUGE fight. Now nobody is going to the wedding. (Brother, his wife, or children). Top it off, their daughter is a flower girl. I have a feeling she will no longer be a flower girl. How could you be so cold and tell a child they can't be a flower girl!!!!????? I am beside myself! She called me screaming saying that I was "shallow" to have the guys fight. That I made them all get into the argument. It was my FI's choice to call them! I told him I would call and handle it. He said Enough was Enough! Now, my FI is so depressed looking. I know he is so sad that this has happened. I don't know what to do or say. She told him and her husband that myself and my mother, and my MOH were ganging up on her! Excuse me! All I said was the color wasn't changing and she needed to find a dress! She completely made it obvious that she didn't even want to be there. She is playing victim, when I am the one who should be flipping mad because she was so difficult and uncooperative! She saI d that she was insecure and thats why she didn't want to try on anything. I asked her (at the shop) houw could you walk down an aisle, if you can't even try on a dress? She says that she is sorry she isn't a size 2 or a size 10. I am not even those sizes! I am a size 14!!!! My moh is a size 14. She's a size 16. Thats not much bigger then us!!!! I should have flipped out in the store, instead I sat there with my mouth shut BECAUSE I didn't want to cause problems between the men. Now its all screwed up. I asked FI if he could call them back in a few days to talk to them. He said absolutely not. He said he's tired of walking on egg shells, and there were things that needed to be said. Says he doesn't care, but clearly he is hurting inside. Its a mess! Now I need to worry about him - on top of normal wedding stress. Crazy!
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