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HELP! How to pick a venue now?!?!

acreasyacreasy
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Ladies,

Let me tell you, I was floored and speechless when my man dropped to one knee and proposed to me. It was a complete surprise, yes I hoped and wished and dreamed about that day, but he is an engineer (I LOVE HIM but it is true) and can need alot of hints sometimes. I figured it would be another year or two before he proposed. I was caught totally offguard and was so surprised.

That being said, I am ENGAGED to the most amazing and romantic man possible. We need to pick a date and look for a venue. We are getting together (he lives 6 hours away right now) in the next week and plan to set the date. I want to have multiple options available for venues that suit us. Can you help? I have looked on the list on vendors and the only one I am REALLY in love with - is ridiculous expensive.

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  • GoodLuckBear14GoodLuckBear14 member
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    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_just-engaged-proposals_help-how-to-pick-a-venue-now?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding BoardsForum:683Discussion:356b3c4a-9173-4905-bd2f-127919097c75Post:e420a37b-b601-4029-b1f6-9ee8b2da60c4">HELP! How to pick a venue now?!?!</a>:
    [QUOTE]Ladies, Let me tell you, I was floored and speechless when my man dropped to one knee and proposed to me. It was a complete surprise, yes I hoped and wished and dreamed about that day, but he is an engineer (I LOVE HIM but it is true) and can need alot of hints sometimes. I figured it would be another year or two before he proposed. I was caught totally offguard and was so surprised. That being said, I am ENGAGED to the most amazing and romantic man possible. We need to pick a date and look for a venue. We are getting together (he lives 6 hours away right now) in the next week and plan to set the date. I want to have multiple options available for venues that suit us. Can you help? I have looked on the list on vendors and the only one I am REALLY in love with - is ridiculous expensive.
    Posted by acreasy[/QUOTE]


    The very FIRST thing you and your FI need to do is set a budget.  There is nothing wrong with looking around to get an idea of what things cost but until you have that budget in place, no planning should be going on.
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  • bchampion35bchampion35
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    Congrats!  I'm right with you!  So surprised, so amazed and so overwhelmed.  Decide if you want to cater, decorate, supply it yourself or find a venue that does it all for you and you can start narrowing it down to a place that takes your breath away.  
    That said, I'm still lost :) 
    Good luck!  
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  • acreasyacreasy
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    Thanks Ladies - We set a budget this weekend. $12,000-13,000. All floral work is NOT included in that and will be taken care of by my LOML (love of my life's) parents. We also do NOT drink so we will not have a bar which will save money.

    Now What? I see him next week to try to set a "date" ... I want to have a few wedding ideas to give him - ie. beach and cost, local and cost, etc.
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  • DMoore421DMoore421 member
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    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_just-engaged-proposals_help-how-to-pick-a-venue-now?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding BoardsForum:683Discussion:356b3c4a-9173-4905-bd2f-127919097c75Post:e420a37b-b601-4029-b1f6-9ee8b2da60c4">HELP! How to pick a venue now?!?!</a>:
    [QUOTE]Ladies, Let me tell you, I was floored and speechless when my man dropped to one knee and proposed to me. It was a complete surprise, yes I hoped and wished and dreamed about that day, but he is an engineer (I LOVE HIM but it is true) and can need alot of hints sometimes. I figured it would be another year or two before he proposed. I was caught totally offguard and was so surprised. That being said, I am ENGAGED to the most amazing and romantic man possible. We need to pick a date and look for a venue. We are getting together (he lives 6 hours away right now) in the next week and plan to set the date. I want to have multiple options available for venues that suit us. Can you help? I have looked on the list on vendors and the only one I am REALLY in love with - is ridiculous expensive.
    Posted by acreasy[/QUOTE]


    My first suggestion is to come up with the date you really really want, but a back up date as well... My first date was booked already (well over a year out ) at the venue I really wanted - so I had to shift to a week earlier. 


    I looked at venues and menues and things or caterers that worked with the different venues and ruled out a lot of places that way.  If I didn't like the food they offered they were immediately rejected - then i made my initial guest list and started looking at prices per person at the venues (catering hotel/ or outside places that worked with the venues ) to rule out a few more places just because of cost.  

    I was left with I believe 4 places after all that were really contenders, 1 was ruled out as soon as we walked in the door - the colors of the place online were gorgeous, in person they looked really different and just didn't fit with the vibe I had in mind.

    Another place was in a hotel, but parking would have been really rough AND the ceilings were really low, my dad had a hard time standing in there because he is tall and i knew he wasn't the tallest guest going to be there so they were ruled out because of that . 

    my last 2 places basically came down to where you get more for your money , for basically the same amount per person the place i ended up choosing had more options for cocktail hour as well as more included, same goes with the actual food AND i could have the ceremony and reception there - in different rooms of course without it costing too much more... 


     
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  • catrb89catrb89 member
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    When picking your venue, just make sure you're looking at what the cost covers. At first, I was thrown off by the cost of our venue, but found out it includes food, linens, parking (which in this area of town is HUGE) etc. Just make sure you're looking at all of the factors. Sometimes that's only acheived when you visit the venue itself. You can set a preliminary date without booking the venue, if you're looking to get married in under a year or so, that might make it more difficult.
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  • CateringExpert11215CateringExpert11215 member
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    Congradulations on your engagement. I see you are looking for a venue for your wedding. I am a Wedding Planner at the Grand Prospect hall in Brooklyn, N.Y and I would like to invite you to come take a look at our hall to host your wedding. If you are interested please give me a call at 718-788-0777 and ask for Michael D. Thanks and congratulations again.
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  • erinlin25erinlin25 member
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    good advise to look at what cost entails, b/c I just fell in love with a venue thinking it was a certain cost and almost had a hard attack when they gave us breakdown cost that added additional venue costs for having both ceremony and reception, plus linens, food was a huge expense, plus lighting, plus this and that... needless to say I had to go back to square 1 and find a new venue; My parents were all for putting down the deposit an I had to stop them b/c it was ridiculous amount and we hadn't even added in flowers, cake, dj, etc!!  But it was a blessing in disguise cause the venue we are using now is perfect!  This time the cost was ALL INCLUSIVE so I know exactly what I will be getting and there no hidden fees :)  It can be stressful, but its a lot of fun, and you will know when you the find the perfect venue!
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