kids... no kids HELP

adrisias · February 2012

my wedding guest list is big...
my family has a lot of kids which the are going to bring to the wedding.
but i wanted to make it to where friends that we are inviting cannot bring their kiddos,,, thats just too kids
what would be the proper way to handle this

thanks

[Deleted User] · February 2012

What? In English please.

maribeth721 · February 2012

I think I would do no kids or all kids. It's hard to justify having some kids and not others. You could limit to immediate family, like your nieces and nephews, but anything beyond that you could run the risk of offending people. When you are addressing an invitation and you want to make it clear that you are not inviting their children you would address "Mr. & Mrs. Smith" instead of "The Smith Family." Like PP said, you will just have to call and explain is someone RSVP's with children.

[Deleted User] · February 2012

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_kids-kids-6?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:9Discussion:5addf5d7-239e-441a-a131-2e840d771117Post:769706c4-c9b3-432c-b745-d4c843b1dabf">Re: kids... no kids HELP</a>:
[QUOTE]I think I would do no kids or all kids. It's hard to justify having some kids and not others.
Posted by maribeth721[/QUOTE]
I don't agree with this. For starters, nobody has to "justify" it. Also, there are reasons like cost and space and the fact that family and friends aren't the same thing.

If anyone gets offended at their kid not being invited, that's on them. And they're a dipshit.

Daria42 · February 2012

If you want to keep a limit on the number of kids at your wedding, I think I would invite only immediate family's kids and thats it--or--you could always look into setting up a babysitter for those wanting to bring their kids and have them set up in a different room. If you go with the former and people ask why their kids aren't invited, just be honest and tell them that you are sorry but that to keep the guest list reasonable you have decided not to invite whole families beyond those in your immediate family. Good friends should understand where you are coming from and respect your wishes. Also, so long as they are given enough notice, that provides them ample time to find a sitter if they still want to attend.

sarabellam · February 2012

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_kids-kids-6?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding BoardsForum:9Discussion:5addf5d7-239e-441a-a131-2e840d771117Post:7a2dab18-6cf7-40bd-bcd6-38fa6261d118">Re: kids... no kids HELP</a>:
[QUOTE]In Response to Re: kids... no kids HELP : I don't agree with this. For starters, nobody has to "justify" it. Also, there are reasons like cost and space and the fact that family and friends aren't the same thing.<strong> If anyone gets offended at their kid not being invited, that's on them. And they're a dipshit.
</strong>Posted by daffodil_jill[/QUOTE]

Have I mentioned lately just how much you rock? And not just because you play bass now.

lyndausvi · February 2012

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_kids-kids-6?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:9Discussion:5addf5d7-239e-441a-a131-2e840d771117Post:7a2dab18-6cf7-40bd-bcd6-38fa6261d118">Re: kids... no kids HELP</a>:
[QUOTE]In Response to Re: kids... no kids HELP : I don't agree with this. For starters, nobody has to "justify" it. Also, there are reasons like cost and space and the fact that family and friends aren't the same thing. If anyone gets offended at their kid not being invited, that's on them. And they're a dipshit.
Posted by daffodil_jill[/QUOTE]

<div>I agree with this. </div><div>
</div><div>I would have gone ape shiit if someone was offended that my nieces/nephews were invited and not some co-worker's kids. Just like adults you do not need to justify who you are inviting. (lucky for me people in my group assume kids are NOT invited. If we do see kids it's assumed they are part of the family.)</div><div>
</div><div>That said a clear line tends to work better (first cousins, siblings, nieces/nephews, WP, etc.. ) Picking this person's kids and not that person's kids when they are part of the same 'category' gets a little tricky.</div>

tpender13 · February 2012

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_kids-kids-6?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:9Discussion:5addf5d7-239e-441a-a131-2e840d771117Post:71aa76d6-1589-4d0c-b23a-4710067d7031">Re: kids... no kids HELP</a>:
[QUOTE]In Response to Re: kids... no kids HELP : It is not the bride's responsibility to find a sitter or provide entertainment for someone else's kids.
Posted by burntofferings[/QUOTE]

Also, your guests may not want to leave their kids in the care of a stranger.

RaptorSLH · February 2012

[QUOTE]That said a clear line tends to work better (first cousins, siblings, nieces/nephews, WP, etc.. ) Picking this person's kids and not that person's kids when they are part of the same 'category' gets a little tricky.
Posted by lyndausvi[/QUOTE]

<div>This. Family kids yes/friend's kids no is a clear line.</div>

[Deleted User] · February 2012

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_kids-kids-6?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:9Discussion:5addf5d7-239e-441a-a131-2e840d771117Post:464fde80-295b-4641-b052-e40d8ebff1ab">Re: kids... no kids HELP</a>:
[QUOTE]In Response to Re: kids... no kids HELP : Have I mentioned lately just how much you rock? And not just because you play bass now.
Posted by sarabellam[/QUOTE]
:)

adrisias · February 2012

Thank you everyone!!! Sorry my rambling, I should have proof read what I was submitting.

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