My fiancé and I just found out his father's cancer is back (after 5 years of remission) and he may be undergoing a transplant and heavy radiation in the next 6-8weeks. His recovery is expected to be debilitating and is expected to take over a year. His parents insist that we should stick to our mid-summer date and keep trying to encourage us to "do it the way we want." The only reason my fiancé and I are even having a 'big wedding' is because our parents (particularly my mother) insist it is what we want. We both know that we don't want to hold a Summer date and invite friends and extended family if his folks won't be there. My bridezilla mother insists that his father is not going to 'ruin it for us'. She's hellbent on throwing a weddin on shorter notice and only inviting my side of the family and just expecting his folks to turn up. His family is currently unaware of his cancer situation since they still don't know exactly how things will pan out. I'm at such a loss for what to do at this point. ::sigh::