Do I have to provide someone to do the hair and makeup of my bridesmaids? We're having a very, very casual wedding, and I'm planning on doing my own hair and makeup.
I have a short cut, so it's not like I can do a whole lot with it; I actually might let my hair stylist, who's also a friend, and invited to the wedding, do it. But, makeup, I'm doing that myself.
I'd like my bridesmaids to look like themselves. I don't necessarily want some fancy shmancy girls that I don't even recognize walking down the aisle.
I mentioned this to my FI and he said he thought it was considered a nice thing to do for my girls, to kind of pamper them. Money is an issue, too, so if I don't have to do it, I'd rather not.
Re: hair and makeup manners
[QUOTE]In the three weddings I've been a part of, the<strong> brides have told me their own plans (i.e. who was doing their hair/makeup, if anyone, and how formal they were going to be), and then told me that I could either do my own or pay to have it done</strong>. I was completely fine with that and in each case I paid to have my hair and makeup done because I rarely do my own hair or makeup beyond bare minimum, and I wanted to be at least a BIT more dolled up than my everyday look. I think the only bad etiquette in terms of hair and makeup is for you to say, "you HAVE to do this hairstyle/have this makeup, get it done professionally, and you have to foot the bill." If you have strict guidelines, you should pay, if you're letting them choose and they choose to get their hair done professionally, it's fine for you not to pay.
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This is what I did and my girls were all happy with it. I chose to get my hair done and to do my own makeup. I told them salon info and appt times and even made an extra appt if anyone wanted it. None did and that was ok with me. Everyone looked great and we were all happy.
There is no rule that you have to "pamper" your girls by paying for beauty treatments. That is something propogated by the wedding industry. You are 100% ok to not pay for things that you are not requiring.