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Wedding Etiquette Forum
ChristianeF
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Bridal Shower
I am getting married on an island just a small ceremony. About 30 people were invited. Some of my family members cannot make the ceremony and want to throw me a big bridal shower. They want me to invite everyone I know. I think it is rude to invite guests to a shower that are not invited to the ceremony. Any insight on this topic would be really helpful!
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Re: Bridal Shower
You're right.
Just say, "Thank you so much for the offer but I just can't go to a shower if people invited won't be invited to the wedding"
Agree with PP's. Explain to the family that you'll need to decline the shower.
Tell they you only want to invite those coming to the wedding. If they disagree, then decline the shower.
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No they aren't. Some people will say that if you have an AHR following a DW then perhaps you can make an exception and invite those people to the shower but thst still leaves a bad taste in the mouths of many. You should read up on your etiquette before you say things that are incorrect.
Since the people who want to throw the shower, were invited to the wedding, and can't make it, I think you are fine. People these days, understand the reasoning behind very small weddings. COST! If they are understanding to your reason as to why you are having a small ceremony and still want to "shower you", why not let them?
Thanks everyone!! I do feel absolutely rude. I think I will shave the list down.