Will you upgrade your engagement ring?

LesPaul · December 2009

Never going to upgrade. It is unique - the diamond is big enough (3/4 carat), and the band is a little hard to describe, but wide yellow gold with a white gold mountain range set all around it. That particular mountain range is very special to us because of the amazing backpacking trips we took there while dating. It is geographically correct around the band, and we can find our 'special' places. His ring is the same without the rock. We added a plain gold wedding band when we got married, and I want to add a diamond anniversary band at 5 years. And probably a bigger diamond anniversay band at 10 year.

lyndausvi · December 2009

I will not upgrade because (1) the diamond is a good size now and (2) the diamond was given to us by my MIL.

I might however reset it because when designing my e-ring we did not take the wedding band into consideration. So I wear them on different hands. I might reset both rings into on.

My dad 'upgraded' my mom's ring after 30 years. They were young and poor when they got married. They had come a long way in 30 years and my dad wanted this for her. Now what he did was take her first diamond and the diamonds from her first pair earrings and pendant and designed a necklace from that. That piece is so important to her. Her e-ring diamond looks 10x better has a pendant than it did as an e-ring. So mom has both the original diamond and an upgrade.

So while I would not upgrade... If DH sugguested it, I would only agree if I could have both and not trade the first one.

Ciaram22 · December 2009

My ring isn't worth upgrading. It is certified but for the price we paid for it I wouldn't be able to get anything as nice. If I ever want something different I will just wear this one on my right hand.

thesuninherhead · December 2009

My fingers are tiny and I pointed out this ring to H before he proposed because it didn't look ridiculous on my witch fingers. I do wish we had more access to vintage platinum rings here (hard to come by in Australia comparative to the states, and admittedly I didn't look too hard for it as I wasn't 100% aware of the upcoming proposal), but I am happy with my ring and it matches the band I've got, which I also adore. The only time I'd ever change it is if it were lost/stolen, although that would be somewhat difficult to have happen given that I wear it constantly.

There's far more that I'd like to spend money on (more o/s trips, a new kitchen, time off for babies etc); jewellery doesn't even make it onto my wish list.

jinxed8605 · December 2009

The main diamond in my ring is FI's mothers. She upgraded her ring about 7 years ago and passed on the diamond to my FI. I plan to make that a tradition and pass it on to my son (or grandson if I don't have a son). It's such a beautiful stone with no inclusions.

banana468 · December 2009

I'm not resetting or upgrading. It's just what I love.

Ggmae, keep in mind that platinum isn't a soft metal. It just develops a patina over time because the scratches are movement in the metal. Even if you have the e-ring band in white gold, the setting is probably platinum as that's much harder.

And keep in mind the white gold will need to be re-plated (redipped) from time to time and it is softer than the platinum.

parowe · December 2009

I'm way late on this, but no, I will never upgrade my engagement ring. I love it just the way it is and would never switch out the diamond. DH looked at lots of diamonds and this is the one he picked out for my ring.

The only way I would replace it is if it were to fall out and get lost, and I would be devastated if that happened.

e_jakiela · December 2009

No. The ring is amazing, and the diamond is .82 carat. The jeweler explained to me that it has the best clarity and cut (I don't really understand these things, but I want to know that there are diamonds that are less clear than mine

)

The setting is exactly what I wanted, and my wedding band will match the shape (they lock in) so if I was ever looking to upgrade, I would need to change both.

It's funny that you asked this question though - my FSIL is married to a neurosurgeon that makes ridiculous money. But, they got married when she was the one making money and he was a poor student (FI says her diamond is worth less than mine, thought he same carat, because hers is less clear)... Anyways, now, that he makes all that money (and he has been for 3 last years) they made new - richer - friends and his friend surgeon got engaged to this stripper girl and gave her a 2 carat ring... suddenly, my FSIL wants an upgrade... weird. I met the stripper, the gilr is so cute and nice, no wonder the guy loves her... she is so cute I would take her home, and give her and play with her like with a kitten... seriously, she is like the nicest person I have ever met, but, does her 2 carat ring make me want one? NO

mags0607 · December 2009

I would like to upgrade my stone one day, but I will not change my setting for the world. I will put my mom's stone in my ring one day, it was my great grandmother's but my mom is not ready to part with it yet. When/if that time comes that she is, I would love to put that stone into my setting. Fi is completely fine with this, as they actually discussed this before we got engaged. But, if it weren;t for a family heirloom, I would never replace my stone, and I might just move this one to a right hand ring if the situation ever presents itself.

LarissaAnn · December 2009

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_will-upgrade-engagement-ring?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:9Discussion:2b82d26f-3081-4490-83be-1dbfb406994aPost:807f1d04-230f-42dc-bfdb-d53d4df52c68">Re: Will you upgrade your engagement ring?</a>:
[QUOTE]You'll have to pry this ring off my stone cold, deader than hell finger. He picked it out with my daughter, bought it and gave it to me to ask me to marry him. It's on that finger until the day I die. It's perfect, and it's my engagement ring. No other ring will ever be an upgrade. This one's too valuable to me. Now the RIGHT hand, well that's a different story entirely. He can decorate that hand however he likes. :)
Posted by BecW2be[/QUOTE]
Except for the part about the daughter, this could've come from my mouth.

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