My fiance joined the air force. We found out his ship date a couple of days ago (October 12th). Up to now I had been planning a tenative wedding hoping he'd still be here, etc.--the recruiter told us it could be up to a year of waiting; turns out he didn't have to wait very long.
Everyone in our families has fed us the idea of doing the JOP and then holding a wedding ceremony later. My gut instinct on this has always been no, I just flat don't wanna do it. I don't want to get married after I'm already married that is just strange to me. I don't care if other ppl do it at all, though, btw. I think everyone should do what they and their families feel comfortable with.
I've decided I'd like to have a small ceremony (in early October) in a local park at sunset with immediate family members only--with the exception of Grandparents if they are able to attend; followed by a 3 course meal that Fi and I will treat everyone to.
My issue with this is obviously many ppl wont be invited. My two bestfriends whom I've already asked to be bridesmaids wont be able to attend. We will let everyone know we plan on throwing a reception for everyone at a later date but I feel awful saying...hey come celebrate our marriage with us eventhough you weren't invited to the wedding, though...I feel its a better option than not including the families in anything.
thoughts?
