GRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRR I am SOOO mad right now.
I'm a bridesmaid in this girls wedding this weekend (she is not one of my birdesmaids). She used to be my friend, but now I really just never want to speak to her again. Yes, its that awful. We were best friends 4 years ago for about 2 years, then we just drifted apart. Then we stopped talking all together for about 6 months. I texted her to see if she wanted to get lunch one day and she blew me off so bad that I actually thought, well she obviously doesn't want to be my friend anymore. But then a month later she asked me to be her bridesmaid and I stupidly said yes. That was in july.
Since then she has not spoken to me more than 2 times about anything other than her wedding. And even when she does talk to me about her wedding its usually through a mass facebook message to all of the bridesmaids. She's maybe only talked to me about 10 times in person, on the phone, or through text. I've been really bitter behind her back, but i would never do anything to ruin her day on purpose. I think our outfits are awful and I think her wedding is just an attention ploy, (she's done really extreme things like this before just to get attention) but I'm not gonna tell her that, because as much as I hate her I don't want to purposefully cause any negative memories of her wedding for her.
One of the times that we were actually in person talking she basically told me that I was just a place filler in her wedding. She said, "Well I was only going to ask person x, y and z, but then FI just kept asking more people and I wanted it to be even so I ended up asking you and person b."
So far for her wedding I have driven 3 hours both ways for her engagement party and her shower. I brought a gift to both. Now I'm taking thrusday and friday off of work for her wedding, because her rehersal is on a thursday. I get paid hourly, so thats 16 hours that I'll be missing out on for that paycheck. And I'm driving 3 hours again to get to the wedding. Booking a hotel room. Paying to get my nails done. Paying to eat at a restaurant for a bridesmaids luncheon on friday. And now she tells me TODAY, 4 days before her wedding, that I have to wear a pearl necklace, and that I have to buy it for myself. (I don't think she's doing that to be an a$$hole, I think she really just forgot up untill now to tell us, but COME ON)
But after all of that I decided that I would just make it through the wedding and after that just let our relationship drift apart on its own. But now I don't even want to go to her wedding and I definately don't want to be her friend because she didn't come to my shower saturday!!! Which I can slightly forgive because she's totally selfish and gluing ribbon onto bubbles is totally more important than your bridesmaid's shower. Honestly, I really didn't expect her to come because it IS a week before her wedding. I understand that, but it was the only weekend I had available and I had to schedule it around her shower and wedding. But what really makes me mad is that she didn't even say anything. I at least expected a "sorry I couldn't be there." It didn't matter if it was by text or phone call or just a comment on a facebook picture from the day. But the only thing I got monday morning from her was an itenerary for the day of her wedding. She didn't even acknowledge that my shower happened.
I'm not really asking for advice but if you have some that would be great. I just needed to get that out somewhere, because I don't know how I'm going to make it through 3 days with her without blowing up. What she is doing to me is not how you should treat your friends, especially the ones that you claim are the most important girls in your life.
