Guys... I'm aobut 40 days away and I'm having daily and nightly panic attacks, I'm iritable and overly sensitive and I"m just not coping well.
I realize I have a lot on my plate, I'm closing on a home next Friday, I'm trying to finalize the details of my wedding AND I'm trying to lose weight with very little success....
I have no idea what to do to help me cope. I have so much to do but for some reason I can't figure out what to tackle so I just sit here and stress and have panic attacks.
I haven't been on the board much due to the slowness and the fact that it keeps crashing my computer but I do miss it here... and I think I need the knotties now more than ever to assure me it's all going to be ok. I"m literally sitting in my bed trying to figure ou HOW to deal and figure out WHAT to do and I have no idea. I'm like frozen.
Ugh. I hate this feeling.
Thanks for letting me vent.
Re: I'm fully freaking out
Just take it one day at a time. It will all turn out beautifully!
This may sounds ridiculous, but do you have a planner? I use mine for work and wedding and it seriously helps keep me sane. I need to do lists on there and then I know EXACTLY what I have left to do...instead of laying in bed awake at night going "Oh fuuuuuck...I forgot to hire ceremony musicians!".
You do have a LOT on your plate my love. Maybe a little organizer would help?
Let me know if I can do anything for you!!!
In the meantime, pour the wine!
Thanks girls... Sorry to be so negative...
Sara, did you contact tropics entertainment for your ceremony music??? They are great and hve SOOO many options on Marischen music...
Your wedding day is 40 days away and there are a bunch of little tid bits that will come up but come day of it will be amazing and you will be a beautiful bride!
Your allowed to be irritable and sensitive. Your wedding only happens once and if you're A type like me then it should be as close to perfect as it can be!
Congrats on buying a home! At least now all you have to do is sign papers right? Buying a home is a huge accomplishment! At least to me it is! Just imagine, after a beautiful wedding you'll have a gorgeous home to go to to start your new life with your hubby. Amazing!
And as for losing weight....you have lost 16 lbs! I can't get the scale to move past the 7 I've lost. 16 lbs is a great start and I know that it's tough during the holidays but you can do it!
As for coping...focus on one task at a time. Maybe if you make a list of what needs to be finalized then you can go one by one and check them off? I'm not sure if that will help but you're way too sweet to be frantic.
Everything will be great!!
LIke, when I looked at it like this I Lost it.
Next Friday - Closing
Following Friday - Christmas Day
Following Friday - New Years Day
Then it's 3 weeks til the wedding. WTF??? Lol.
As for the weight loss so far, It's true I have lost 16lbs BUT... that is since March, I've been working at it for 10 months!! I'd have thought I'd be at my goal a long time ago. Thing is that I put ON weight right after getting engaged so I was way over weight to begin with... My goal is not that far of it's maybe 12lbs but I can't seem to get there and I'm a stress eater so yeah... it's hard.
But I'm having some wine right now and I"m gonna go through my to do list to see what else I can cross off (I have a list in my bio)
We did get some things done today... we bought frames for table numbers lol... that was a BIG thing ha ha ha. Seriously it's all small stuff it just SEEMS like a lot.
But I need to get some perspective and know how it's all good things and exciting stuff!
In the meantime, I agree - pour some wine or eat some dessert & remember everything will fall into place
I really appreciate the offers to help. I wish it were the kind of thing were I could delegate tasks but it's really all on me to just get things done.
It's just really overwhelming and I'm just freaked out by all the huge changes I'm about to face. I just have to keep reminding myself that it's all good stuff...
Matt's been trying to teach me the art of deep breathing lol but then he tells me to stop freaking out and that actually makes me more nutso! lol!!!
You do have a lot on your plate but you are right, they are all good and exciting things.
In the end, the closing will be over with. The wedding stuff will get done and you will be married to a great guy and in a new house. That's what's important.
If there is anything I can help with, don't be a stranger.
everything will get done. you look gorgeous - seriously thin (I just saw you a couple of weeks ago!!) - it's all going to come together, I promise. No more panic attacks - breath, make to do lists and worry about the most important stuff.
like I always say, at the end of the day you'll be married to Matt no matter what (and you'll be wearing the most gorgeous wedding dress ever).
RELAX!!
Its just to much at one time to take..But you look like a girl that can take it all!!!
Keep following your to do list.
Scratch things off and move to next one big thing is finish what you start that way you dont have to continue to go back and forth and everything gets done.
With paking and the move take it one at a TIME!! If your getting gifts place them all on one side make it a gift wall or room that way you dont loose anything and you keep it all together. On packing the other things place them also in another room keeping it all out of the way and together. When it comes time for the move just take it a room a day unpack and move to next. I move often for some dumb reason and with kids I think I have become a PRO at moving...lol
Lots of hugs and kisses your way
With the latest news surrounding my venue though, it's kind of a mess... so yeah, I'm just trying to stay calm and know it will all work out.
As I sit here with a 2nd or 3rd glass of wine (you know me), I am trying not to freak, but my list seems so long and I agree, people ask to help but its stuff I need to decide and do myself (which don't get me wrong, I enjoy) but yes, the days are getting closer and the holidays do not help. We got our tree on Thursday and I'm crossing my fingers for decorating tomorrow. The good news is, I printed all my Table #s tonight but they are no where near done, still need to cut and stock to cardstock, emboss, and fiinish the wine corks, bottle labels and wine bottles to complete them...it never ends.
If you want to get together for a drink (with all that time we have) let me know! Through my stress, I think about you b/c I know you are right there!
Love ya Girlie!
Cathy