In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_cash-bar-really-bad?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding BoardsForum:9Discussion:6a18fbce-ee39-42a9-b76a-841267793064Post:a3e815fa-221b-41a4-9a2d-5116b8c12464">Re: is a cash bar really that bad?</a>: [QUOTE]Yes, many of the girls may already have their mind made up and are just looking for validation. But some are not, and I'd hate to think you are scaring well meaning girls away because you can't say something nicely. Posted by omgitscasey[/QUOTE]
There's truth to the old saying, "If you can't stand the heat, stay out of the kitchen." This board has the reputation (deservedly so) across TK of being blunt and brutally honest. You are tilting at windmills if you think you can change the tone of this board. Personally, I would rather be judged by an internet stranger than by my family or friends. Those internet strangers "disapper" when I log off. Not so much the IL's, whom I will have to see again across the holiday dinner table.
Ugh...first off the OP did kinda walk into this with no room for judgement or opinion so its going to start a flame war. If you post, you should try to be open for some kind of opinion.
2nd, you NO CASH BARS RAGGGGGGGGGGGGE! Ladies kinda fell for it, and yourself made yourself snarky...also arent half, if not 70 percent already married? WTF are you still doing on a wedding site? Just sayin, bro.
While I am lucky enough to afford an open bar, its a choice I made because I feel its a good treat for my guests. Its not mandatory they would love to be at my wedding bar or not because its about us getting together and being friends and having a good time, not about what centerpiece I have, or food im serving. Its about having a celebration with your closest. Why judge on that?
Casey had a right to say how she felt. Its a public board, just as the other lady did. Shipping wars are totally middle school.
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In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_cash-bar-really-bad?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:9Discussion:6a18fbce-ee39-42a9-b76a-841267793064Post:8ca8c6d8-ae38-4063-8f32-74a86c3bd8c3">Re: is a cash bar really that bad?</a>: [QUOTE]In Response to Re: is a cash bar really that bad? : If they weren't here I'd be getting advice from you (and others who have no experience having a wedding). No thanks. Posted by bree4305[/QUOTE]
You probably dont. Im having a DIY, religion free, comic book, geekfest wedding ;) Probably not what you want to grab inspiration from.
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Casey, READ, WOULD YA? I said THAT is stupid. And it is. Having your FULL NAMES on a national message board is not a smart move. It's stupid. I never once said she was stupid, now, did I?
Saying what someone is doing is stupid is the exact same thing as calling her stupid. Because you're calling her judgement stupid, thats an attack on the person.
In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_cash-bar-really-bad?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:9Discussion:6a18fbce-ee39-42a9-b76a-841267793064Post:d8fda209-efe4-4932-8d11-d8e8969be24d">Re: is a cash bar really that bad?</a>: [QUOTE]In Response to Re: is a cash bar really that bad? : You probably dont. Im having a DIY, religion free, comic book, geekfest wedding ;) Probably not what you want to grab inspiration from. Posted by kashiitan[/QUOTE]
Oh, my pearls, my pearls, they are clutched! No god???? And comic books??? Man, you are one edgy girl. I certainly don't want my wedding to be anything like yours.
ok, well, she's lucky I'm not crazy, because I know an awful lot about her and fiance right now that I'm pretty sure she wouldn't want me to share on a national message board.
But, not everyone is as nice as I am, and THAT is a very true story.
In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_cash-bar-really-bad?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:9Discussion:6a18fbce-ee39-42a9-b76a-841267793064Post:cdec78f9-5c1b-4577-9d28-95ba380a8e20">Re: is a cash bar really that bad?</a>: [QUOTE]Saying what someone is doing is stupid is the exact same thing as calling her stupid. Because you're calling her judgement stupid, thats an attack on the person. Posted by omgitscasey[/QUOTE]
In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_cash-bar-really-bad?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:9Discussion:6a18fbce-ee39-42a9-b76a-841267793064Post:b9003042-0404-4a9e-89cd-8a301457f110">Re: is a cash bar really that bad?</a>: [QUOTE]Casey, READ, WOULD YA? I said THAT is stupid. And it is. Having your FULL NAMES on a national message board is not a smart move. It's stupid. I never once said she was stupid, now, did I? Posted by crfische[/QUOTE]
nah no biggie. Its really not hard to just google a name. its really simple and easy to find someones stuff online. I mean and if that info is on a private national board what is going to be done with it, nothing.
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Kas, I'm just telling you because there's been a lot of crazy stuff that has gone down on the knot because of people posting their real identities including contacting workplaces, friends, and significant others.
It was honestly just a heads up to you that some people will take that info and FOR REAL use it against you.
In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_cash-bar-really-bad?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:9Discussion:6a18fbce-ee39-42a9-b76a-841267793064Post:38221b3b-e4b0-496c-8005-812d66344d0d">Re: is a cash bar really that bad?</a>: [QUOTE]Um, no such thing as a PRIVATE national message board. Posted by crfische[/QUOTE]
Its not private by any means personally, I meant more from vendors/selling/etc. that sort of thing.
In retrospect I think I just kinda went off the handle because I think this is getting out of hand from both parties, and that was just basically my point. If people have to track me down because of a point then..woah...thats just out of the realm!
Im not being all PUPPIESRAINBOWSKITTENS either for everyone to get along because believe me, theres reality checks that need to be checked.
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Well this has been super fun ladies, but I gotta work now. We will have to argue about stupid stuff again sometime. Maybe fische will bring her margaritas...
btw. loved the blackup one. that made me crack up.
CASEY ARE YOU SUCKING UP TO ME?!?! BECAUSE I FALL FOR THAT TOO EASILY.
No, really. I do. I have to give anna O. the credit for blackup.
Kas, for real. If you keep it to your local, names aren't AS big of a deal, but if you keep posting on the national boards, I won't be the last one to tell you that you should take that info out of your bio. But I will probably be nicer to you than most. True facts.
In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_cash-bar-really-bad?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:9Discussion:6a18fbce-ee39-42a9-b76a-841267793064Post:57459c3e-e4d1-4103-8461-8a721b6e34e7">Re: is a cash bar really that bad?</a>: [QUOTE]In Response to Re: is a cash bar really that bad? : Its not private by any means personally, I meant more from vendors/selling/etc. that sort of thing. In retrospect I think I just kinda went off the handle because I think this is getting out of hand from both parties, and that was just basically my point. If people have to track me down because of a point then..woah...thats just out of the realm! Im not being all PUPPIESRAINBOWSKITTENS either for everyone to get along because believe me, theres reality checks that need to be checked. Posted by kashiitan[/QUOTE]
I don't think anyone needs to let go of their handles. Mostly this is a bunch of people hanging around who are bored on a Sunday morning, and this is the fastest-updating thread. Nothing to get upset about.
I'm still curious about why you think we won't want to take your advice because your wedding has some sort of counterculture cred. Tell us about that, please.
Nah. I'm being serious fische. I didn't realize it was you til I clicked on the margarita evolution.. then i was like oh its the lady with the hilarious siggy.
AWW!! It's really Ragnar, but an awesome photoshopper made it for me. I have some other ones that she made too that I wasn't able to use because the Twins lost, but they were awesome too.
Fishy stole my identity once from my knot info, then sent porn links to my parents and wrote an "I like it on..." status on my FB. It was horrible. The more you know...
Also, to whoever is having the super-unique geeked out wedding, you know Sarahnumbers is getting married inside an elephant, right?
Taco cat: Always a palindrome. ALWAYS, okay J&K?
"cool......insult my size 2 body or my natural brown hair...or the fact that my parents own a country club, I have no budget for a wedding, and I have horses. I really dont care. Its better then having roots." ~ futurepivko
In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_cash-bar-really-bad?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:9Discussion:6a18fbce-ee39-42a9-b76a-841267793064Post:b52b4d0d-7d3e-4d88-ba86-e77ee2e12e83">Re: is a cash bar really that bad?</a>: [QUOTE]CASEY ARE YOU SUCKING UP TO ME?!?! BECAUSE I FALL FOR THAT TOO EASILY. No, really. I do. I have to give anna O. the credit for blackup. Kas, for real. If you keep it to your local, names aren't AS big of a deal, but if you keep posting on the national boards, I won't be the last one to tell you that you should take that info out of your bio. But I will probably be nicer to you than most. True facts. Posted by crfische[/QUOTE]
I appreciate the kindness. I dont go into national boards..well ever. This was the first and it was just to say that the OP was in the wrong, and everyone else just kinda following suit. Im only on here for my date board (my local board is dead so I dont go there) because the girls on there are pretty awesome. Im not saying Ett. board is good/bad, its just not my cup of tea, but I do appreciate the service sometimes you guys do deliver to people.
And with that its time for me to eat some lunch! :) Nice talking and I appreciate the advice.
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Re: is a cash bar really that bad?
Yeah. I don't really listen to anything coming from a Vikings fan. =] /sarcasm.
And no Sarah, you won't find that on the Illinois board..
[QUOTE]Yes, many of the girls may already have their mind made up and are just looking for validation. But some are not, and I'd hate to think you are scaring well meaning girls away because you can't say something nicely.
Posted by omgitscasey[/QUOTE]
There's truth to the old saying, "If you can't stand the heat, stay out of the kitchen." This board has the reputation (deservedly so) across TK of being blunt and brutally honest. You are tilting at windmills if you think you can change the tone of this board. Personally, I would rather be judged by an internet stranger than by my family or friends. Those internet strangers "disapper" when I log off. Not so much the IL's, whom I will have to see again across the holiday dinner table.
No. No you haven't.
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2nd, you NO CASH BARS RAGGGGGGGGGGGGE! Ladies kinda fell for it, and yourself made yourself snarky...also arent half, if not 70 percent already married? WTF are you still doing on a wedding site? Just sayin, bro.
While I am lucky enough to afford an open bar, its a choice I made because I feel its a good treat for my guests. Its not mandatory they would love to be at my wedding bar or not because its about us getting together and being friends and having a good time, not about what centerpiece I have, or food im serving. Its about having a celebration with your closest. Why judge on that?
Casey had a right to say how she felt. Its a public board, just as the other lady did. Shipping wars are totally middle school.
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That's why us married bitches stick around here.
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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: is a cash bar really that bad? : If they weren't here I'd be getting advice from you (and others who have no experience having a wedding). No thanks.
Posted by bree4305[/QUOTE]
You probably dont. Im having a DIY, religion free, comic book, geekfest wedding ;) Probably not what you want to grab inspiration from.
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Saying what someone is doing is stupid is the exact same thing as calling her stupid. Because you're calling her judgement stupid, thats an attack on the person.
[QUOTE]In Response to Re: is a cash bar really that bad? : You probably dont. Im having a DIY, religion free, comic book, geekfest wedding ;) Probably not what you want to grab inspiration from.
Posted by kashiitan[/QUOTE]
Oh, my pearls, my pearls, they are clutched! No god???? And comic books??? Man, you are one edgy girl. I certainly don't want my wedding to be anything like yours.
<---- that was sarcasm.
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But, not everyone is as nice as I am, and THAT is a very true story.
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[QUOTE]Saying what someone is doing is stupid is the exact same thing as calling her stupid. Because you're calling her judgement stupid, thats an attack on the person.
Posted by omgitscasey[/QUOTE]
You obviously need a hug.
*hug*
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Likewise, I bet you do a bunch of stupid stuff, but that doesn't make YOU stupid now, does it.
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[QUOTE]Casey, READ, WOULD YA? I said THAT is stupid. And it is. Having your FULL NAMES on a national message board is not a smart move. It's stupid. I never once said she was stupid, now, did I?
Posted by crfische[/QUOTE]
nah no biggie. Its really not hard to just google a name. its really simple and easy to find someones stuff online. I mean and if that info is on a private national board what is going to be done with it, nothing.
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Thank you for the sarcastic hug Sarah. Greatly appreciated.
It was honestly just a heads up to you that some people will take that info and FOR REAL use it against you.
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[QUOTE]Um, no such thing as a PRIVATE national message board.
Posted by crfische[/QUOTE]
Its not private by any means personally, I meant more from vendors/selling/etc. that sort of thing.
In retrospect I think I just kinda went off the handle because I think this is getting out of hand from both parties, and that was just basically my point. If people have to track me down because of a point then..woah...thats just out of the realm!
Im not being all PUPPIESRAINBOWSKITTENS either for everyone to get along because believe me, theres reality checks that need to be checked.
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Well this has been super fun ladies, but I gotta work now. We will have to argue about stupid stuff again sometime. Maybe fische will bring her margaritas...
btw. loved the blackup one. that made me crack up.
No, really. I do. I have to give anna O. the credit for blackup.
Kas, for real. If you keep it to your local, names aren't AS big of a deal, but if you keep posting on the national boards, I won't be the last one to tell you that you should take that info out of your bio. But I will probably be nicer to you than most. True facts.
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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: is a cash bar really that bad? : Its not private by any means personally, I meant more from vendors/selling/etc. that sort of thing. In retrospect I think I just kinda went off the handle because I think this is getting out of hand from both parties, and that was just basically my point. If people have to track me down because of a point then..woah...thats just out of the realm! Im not being all PUPPIESRAINBOWSKITTENS either for everyone to get along because believe me, theres reality checks that need to be checked.
Posted by kashiitan[/QUOTE]
I don't think anyone needs to let go of their handles. Mostly this is a bunch of people hanging around who are bored on a Sunday morning, and this is the fastest-updating thread. Nothing to get upset about.
I'm still curious about why you think we won't want to take your advice because your wedding has some sort of counterculture cred. Tell us about that, please.
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Nah. I'm being serious fische. I didn't realize it was you til I clicked on the margarita evolution.. then i was like oh its the lady with the hilarious siggy.
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Also, to whoever is having the super-unique geeked out wedding, you know Sarahnumbers is getting married inside an elephant, right?
Taco cat: Always a palindrome. ALWAYS, okay J&K?
"cool......insult my size 2 body or my natural brown hair...or the fact that my parents own a country club, I have no budget for a wedding, and I have horses. I really dont care. Its better then having roots." ~ futurepivko
[QUOTE]CASEY ARE YOU SUCKING UP TO ME?!?! BECAUSE I FALL FOR THAT TOO EASILY. No, really. I do. I have to give anna O. the credit for blackup. Kas, for real. If you keep it to your local, names aren't AS big of a deal, but if you keep posting on the national boards, I won't be the last one to tell you that you should take that info out of your bio. But I will probably be nicer to you than most. True facts.
Posted by crfische[/QUOTE]
I appreciate the kindness. I dont go into national boards..well ever. This was the first and it was just to say that the OP was in the wrong, and everyone else just kinda following suit. Im only on here for my date board (my local board is dead so I dont go there) because the girls on there are pretty awesome. Im not saying Ett. board is good/bad, its just not my cup of tea, but I do appreciate the service sometimes you guys do deliver to people.
And with that its time for me to eat some lunch! :) Nice talking and I appreciate the advice.
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