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Who should walk me advice

So my parents have both passed away and I am only left with my stepdad who has never really been there for me or my sisters. When he found out about the wedding plans he had his new wife talk to me about if he was going to get to walk me down the aisle. I avoided the question because I have yet to decide how to tell him no. My family and fiance's family, who I am very close with, want me to stick up for myself and tell him no because of all he has put us through ahe doesnt deserve to. He can also be very mean to my fiance. I thought about having my grandpa walk me, however, my stepdad can be an emotional bully and I am afraid of the drama he will cause if I not only tell him no but that someone else is walking me. I think the only real way to handle the situation is to walk myself halfway and have my fiance come the other half to meet me. That way I can include my stepdad in other small things such as the dance but not allow him the important role of walking me down. Any suggestions on how to make everything less stressful or how to still tell him I want to walk myself or with my grandpa?

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Re: Who should walk me advice

  • Do what your heart tells you, this its your day, not your step dads. No obligation. If you love your grandpa and that's what you want in your heart than that is what you should do. Your Grandpa, I am sure would endure a thousand days of bullying just to talk you down the isle. He is a grown man. Good luck and ccongratulations.
  • hellebhelleb member
    100 Comments Second Anniversary
    I think your grandpa should.  I agree w/ pp that he would be willing to deal with some crap in order to have the honor of walking you down the aisle.

    It may not be a fun discussion with your step dad but don't let someone bully you out of what you deserve.  I dont think it would be right to give up something as important as having your grandpa walking you down the aisle to doing it alone just to avoid confrontation.

    Hope this helps!
  • I am having a tough time deciding too ! it seems your grandpa is the best fit especially if hes always been there for you ....
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