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Alright ladies I have a tricky "wording" question for you...
My mom and I (FI has chosen not to be interested 
) are at the point of ordering invitations. We've found the ones we all like and are now trying to figure out wording. Here's the tricky part:
) are at the point of ordering invitations. We've found the ones we all like and are now trying to figure out wording. Here's the tricky part:My parents are at the very tail end of a divorce (it may have been finalized in the last month or so, my parents don't care to update us) and my mother has decided to take back her married name. Her name hasn't switched yet and I've asked my mom if by the wedding it'll have changed, and she shies away from the subject. SO originally for divorced parents hosting a wedding, I think the wording goes:
Mr. John Smith and
Ms. Jane Smith
Reguest the honour...
Would it be awkward looking if her name's changed (and would it cause controversy within family) if it's worded
Mr. John Smith and
Ms. Jane Walker
Request the honour... ?
Our concern is that it may appear to, for people who don't know my parents/our family (FI's family friends) be my dad and his GF hosting the wedding rather than my mother. Thus being said, my mom was thinking to just do:
The parents of Kate Smith request the honour of your presence... but I can't figure out how the rest of the invite would read without being repetitive? Especially for formal invitations.
What do you think would be least confusing and proper? We don't want to change it to "Together with their parents" because we're all VERY traditional and my parents are paying for and fully assisting in the planning of the entire wedding so it's important to us they have acknowledgment of hosting the day. Any and all ideas are appreciated!!
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Re: Alright ladies I have a tricky "wording" question for you...
I don't think people will think it's your dad and his GF, but if you're worried about it, you could put your mom first, because I think it's unlikely that you would say Ms. GF and Mr. Dad.
Ms. Mom Smith
Mr. Dad Smith and Ms. Step Jones
request the honor of your presence
Everyone gets their name exactly as they want it and we're all happy. Familes are what they are nowadays.
One note though,definitely take out the 'and' between their names, that implies marriage. Just list them on separate lines.
My parents are divorced and my mom is remarried and has a new name, but my step father isn't on the invitation. Just my mom and dad, with no different names and no "and" inbetween. I'm sure everone will figure out they're both my parents.
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Ms. Jane Doe
Mr. John Smith
request the honour of your presence at
the marriage of their daughter
Susan Elizabeth
Can't say whether or not her name change will cause controversy in your family because we don't know your family :-)
[QUOTE]My parents are divorced but my mom kept her married name. My dad is remarried but my stepmother DIDN'T take my dad's last name. So it looks kind of wonky but ours read: Ms. Mom Smith Mr. Dad Smith and Ms. Step Jones request the honor of your presence Everyone gets their name exactly as they want it and we're all happy. Familes are what they are nowadays. One note though,definitely take out the 'and' between their names, that implies marriage. Just list them on separate lines.
Posted by Irishcurls[/QUOTE]
that's my exact situation! all my parents think it's funny (they have an odd relationship - my mom and stepmom chat weekly on the phone)
probably strange for people who dont' know them but oh well
[QUOTE]I agree that you can use either name for her, but there wouldn't be an "and" between their names on the invite because that indicates marriage. You'd just list them separately on different lines.
Posted by lovethebeach16[/QUOTE]
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