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How to word that co-workers can't bring a guest in email

heamcgheamcg
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Hi all,

so I opened my big mouth when I got engaged and basically invited my entire shift at work (8 ppl) since then there have been various complications such as 2 poeple getting transferred to a different shift in the last 2 months and one who I did get along with pretty well but now I almost feel weird giving him an invite cause we aren't really that close.

Basically I've only worked with these people for a year and Iam only close with 4 out of the 7 of them. We work in a tight nit work enviroment (The Fire Department) so I thought I would invite all 7 of them even though 3 I would rather not invite. I know it's my day but I don't know if it's worth it to leave 3 people out (one is my senior Captain) It's not that I don't like them, it's just that we're not that close.
 
My solution is that I don't think it's fair for them to bring a guest also. It's going to be a nice wedding and they're the group who has known me the least amount of time (A year and a half at the time of the wedding) and I don't see why they can't all sit together. I want to send them an email saying that although the budget couldn't accomidate their guest for dinner, they would be welcome to join us for the dance. These are the only people who we aren't allowing to bring a guest so it's not in the invitation. We found ourselves over by numbers and this was the only group we could potentially cut.

Would an email be ok? How should I word this?

Thanks in advance Laughing
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  • banana468banana468 member
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    You can't do this unless these people aren't in relationships. If they have SO's then those partners must be invited. Tier invitations are the height of rudeness.
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  • acmj11acmj11
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    Don't send the e-mail, that's kind of awkward.  When you do send out the invitations, just address them to the person you're inviting.  If they call and ask, then explain why guests  aren't invited.  However, if these people are married or in serious relationships this is kind of a sticky situation...
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  • TurtlesAllTheWayDownTurtlesAllTheWayDown member
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    If you invite someone to the wedding, it has to be ALL of the wedding. The "dance" isn't a separate event.

    If you invite someone who is in a relationship, you have to invite their significant other.
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    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_invites-paper_word-co-workers-cant-bring-guest-email?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:cd062f89-8272-496a-b0ab-225e1f87acecDiscussion:2a96f71f-7308-4377-9572-3fb19e5c2566Post:e26cc395-ef68-44a9-adca-16aef3bc6b22">Re: How to word that co-workers can't bring a guest in email</a>:
    [QUOTE]You can't do this unless these people aren't in relationships. If they have SO's then those partners must be invited. Tier invitations are the height of rudeness.
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  • vicki0508vicki0508 member
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    In addition to being rude - venues also frown upon inviting guests just for the dancing portion.  Will these guests eat cake?  Will they consume any beverages?  I assume you're at least hosting water and pop, so if these people show up later you haven't paid for them, yet the venue is supposed to serve them.  Is there a max capacity at your venue for fire code reasons?  Where are these guests supposed to sit?

    Plus, they might feel obligated to bring a gift.  So you're essentially telling them that while they weren't important enough to see you get married or eat dinner with you, they are important enough to bring you a present.
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  • heamcgheamcg
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    Thanks for the replys- you've given me a lot to think about. Good thing  I still have a week until the invites go out.
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