Okay so several people have been beebee crowned by the board late. I've said things, engaged girl have said things, and married girls have said things. Good advice. The thing with this board is that it's all about staying cool and preventing a wave of BSC and bridezilla infection. (And fun, and cake, and much more, but that's for later.)
The thing is, this is the internet. It's unfair. If we give good advice, there's no way we expect people to follow it unfalteringly. You are entitled to resent, disagree, accept, reject, or ignore the combined wisdom of the board. However, if you get defensive or beebee, you've put yourself out in a public forum and we're entitled to voice our opinion. Therefore, if for any reason you aren't really clicking with this group for your needs, there are many boards and many websites that might be a good fit. I'm not telling anyone to leave, so don't PM me flamethrower drawn. I'm not pointing anyone out, just voicing MHO. How am I to know what needs you have?
On the other hand, this board is like a collection of new friends that I feel like I've known a lot longer. It's helping me to keep my head on straight when I know I'll be entering a new stage in my relationship (though this is the 2nd time for me). For me, NYE is being close to an engagement (like him saying within a year) and focusing on your excitement and cherishing the natural emotion high of knowing that you have found your mate and getting ready to shout "We're getting MARRIED" from your soapbox/fb page/office swivel chair/back of your unicorn. And knowing he feels the same.
awww I think Jeana's pictures just made me all dreamy and such.
Love isn't how you feel. It's what you do.
--Madeleine L'Engle in "A Wind in the Door"