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GypsySoul01
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Anyone else's family difficult about Vegas?
So we are really excited to get married in Las Vegas and all of our friends have been enthusiastic. The problem....our families. My sister is angry because I am "putting everyone out" by "forcing" them to travel to see us get married. FI's mom is mad because "weddings are for families" and her (very, very large) extended family won't be able to go to Vegas. My dad says it's not a "real" marraige if we don't do it in a church. I'm just so upset. I don't know what I really wanted, I think I just needed to vent so I don't cry. Thanks for listening.
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Re: Anyone else's family difficult about Vegas?
Your wedding is not their day, it's your day, it's certainly not a family reunion like a lot of people tend to want to turn it into. Don't let them get you down.
Married in Vegas - June 2011
Try not to worry-- I know it is easier said than done. Your wedding is about what you want, and who ever can make it will come. I realize the concerns seem valid to other family members, but they need to cool it when it comes to hurting your feelings. Hope you get it all worked out!
[QUOTE]So we are really excited to get married in Las Vegas and all of our friends have been enthusiastic. The problem....our families. My sister is angry because I am "putting everyone out" by "forcing" them to travel to see us get married. FI's mom is mad because "weddings are for families" and her (very, very large) extended family won't be able to go to Vegas. My dad says it's not a "real" marraige if we don't do it in a church. I'm just so upset. I don't know what I really wanted, I think I just needed to vent so I don't cry. Thanks for listening.
Posted by GypsySoul01[/QUOTE]
Are you kidding me!!! People have been driving us crazy. My family has been great. No debates, no questioning our decisions. FI family complain that we are shutting them out because they cant afford it, and some just simply do not feel they should have to travel. Its so annoying. Friends are more excited. Even if for some reason they cant swing it, at least I know they tried and are supportive. As of now he has no family who he can say will definitely be there.
I wouldn't worry too much about it. It is your day and that's all that matters. The people that really matter will be there and those that can't will get over it.
[QUOTE]Your wedding is not their day, it's your day, it's certainly not a family reunion like a lot of people tend to want to turn it into. Don't let them get you down.
Posted by vegasgroom[/QUOTE]
I completely agree! Do what you want to do. People that want to be there will come and your sister is just worried that her friends won't come.
FI's mom wants to show off her boy to the extended family. I can understand this but if her side of the family won't be able to come out, she will be showing off the photos just as enthusiastically and she won't have to put up with having to entertain all of them in one night.
If pops wants a Church well there are plenty in Las Vegas. We had our ceremony in a church:
<a rel="nofollow" href="http://www.sherylandart.com/2012/02/16/ceremony-at-the-guardian-angel-cathedral-las-vegas-nevada/">http://www.sherylandart.com/2012/02/16/ceremony-at-the-guardian-angel-cathedral-las-vegas-nevada/</a>
We went throgh similar things and it all turned out well.
Don't cry!! It'll be fine..
My FI's family isn't supportive at all, they bowed out when we were planning a wedding at home, so we decided to go to Vegas which is what we wanted originally. Now they are using Vegas as their excuse not to come, even though they weren't anyway. I've given up on trying to please people!
It's your wedding, so do what you and FI want to do. Those who matter most will find a way to be there to share it with you.. and like VegasGroom said, you will start seeing everyones true colors... Enjoy planning your special day
[QUOTE]On that day it's not going to matter if it's in a church or in Vegas or on the moon,
Posted by klsatlin[/QUOTE]
I bet Cashman photography already has an exclusive contract for moon weddings.
Married in Vegas - June 2011
[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Anyone else's family difficult about Vegas? : I bet Cashman photography already has an exclusive contract for moon weddings.
Posted by vegasgroom[/QUOTE]
And if you think their USD rates are expensive, wait until you see their lunar rates!
[QUOTE]Don't feel bad- I pissed off more family with my wedding then u can comprehend. By having it in a different country all the cousins with criminal records can't come, any family that I haven't seen in 2 years didnt get asked, and the ones I have seen.but did not want to come couldn't afford it. It's all the master plan. :) If they are stressing u out, just ignore them, or just dont invite them. If they want to pay, then they can make decisions. <strong>Until then it's your dime, and the less douchbaggery that attends means more $$$ to treat those that actually care.</strong> Once I figured this out, my plannin has been pretty stress free.Good luck, and don't stress.
Posted by ambrose132[/QUOTE]
THIS cracked me up...and THANK YOU. As an update: Tonight my parents (who are divorced and haven't presented a united front on anything in 25 years) told us that if we would skip this "whole crazy Vegas idea" that they would give us some money so that we could have "real" wedding. Uh...we aren't having a Vegas wedding to try to get money out of you. We aren't getting married at the drive-thru chapel (although that is fine too for those who do) and no, mother...I am NOT pregnant so we don't need to get married "cheap and in a hurry." We WANT to have a wedding in Vegas. It will be FUN! Good grief.
We are supposed to take a scouting trip in May. I'm thinking it may become the wedding trip.
I came to the desicion to do Vegas after lots of bitching about me from other people and you know what? All the grumpy people can come to the party after we come home after ive said i do . They cant travel to vegas to ruin my day , my moment. Your grumpy folks can be left behind too.. so much easier
hope you have a fantastic wedding 