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TiffannieF
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Traditions that you don't agree with
Sorry for posting on E but....
What are some American Wedding traditions (sacred or secular) that you wish no longer be part of the "tradition"?
What are some American Wedding traditions (sacred or secular) that you wish no longer be part of the "tradition"?
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Re: Traditions that you don't agree with
[QUOTE]Garter tosses. They're squicky.
Posted by Jill9288[/QUOTE]
I also agree with the garter toss: ew.
Fall Wedding Bio
Cake smashing. I was 100% against it and said NO but H did it anyway. I didn't want my nice makeup messed up by frosting and it just looks childish.
I agree on the tosses. I got vetoed on them and we did them anyway.
I also hate WP dances. We didn't have one and our whole WP was thankful.
I think a neat bouquet toss that doesn't bring out single women is to make one with silk flowers (guess they could be real), with sayings or fortunes tied to each stem. They are held like a regular bouquet, and when the bride throws them, they spread out and everyone should be able to get one. No need to call for "single ladies only" for this one.
Monogrammed napkins
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[QUOTE]Cake smashing. I was 100% against it and said NO but H did it anyway. I didn't want my nice makeup messed up by frosting and it just looks childish. I agree on the tosses. I got vetoed on them and we did them anyway. I also hate WP dances. We didn't have one and our whole WP was thankful.
Posted by graysquirrel[/QUOTE]
Confession: I totally smashed cake in H face but ran away immediately to avoid make up getting messed up. Why did I do it? Have no idea, seemed like a good idea at the time. ;oP
I told DJ no garter toss and the photog but somehow we did one...I didn't know what to say in front of 100 people "no"?
And ditto on the WP dance..pointless and rude.
Fall Wedding Bio
BIL and SIL did that for the wedding, H said he would have died if I tried to make him do that. Neither of us can really dance, so that was absolutely out.
Books read in 2012: 21/50
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ETA: Favors....the pointless ones.
Fall Wedding Bio
[QUOTE]Head tables: I still see them at weddings and feel so bad for the couples that are split up for it. ETA: Favors....the pointless ones.
Posted by TiffannieF[/QUOTE]
<div>How could I forget that one? I HATE head tables</div>
cake smashing - detest that
bridal party dances - pleeeze don't make me sit through that and don't make your WP suffer through it
choreographed WP dances
Favors with your names and dates on them. Sorry, but I"m not taking it home. Just give me some Hershey kisses and we'll call it good.
Sorry - I live in Dollar Dance Central and can't remember a family wedding in the last couple of generations (on my side) that didn't have one. They don't phase me.
[QUOTE]I told H that if he smashed cake in my face, he would forever be known as The Man Who Made His Wife Ugly Cry on Their Wedding Day. I genuinely think I would have lost my shiit, and it didn't have anything to do with the makeup. I just think it's extremely disrespectful.
Posted by specialk84[/QUOTE]
I told DH, dead seriously, "If you smash cake in my face, I'm tracking down our officiant and lighting the marriage certificate on fire before he has a chance to file it."
For me the big thing was "I'd be so beyond pissed and embarrassed if you smashed cake in public under <strong>any</strong> other circumstances ... why the hell would it being our wedding day suddenly make it okay?"
[QUOTE]Bouquet/garter tosses cake smashing - detest that bridal party dances - pleeeze don't make me sit through that and don't make your WP suffer through it choreographed WP dances Favors with your names and dates on them. Sorry, but I"m not taking it home. Just give me some Hershey kisses and we'll call it good.<strong> Sorry - I live in Dollar Dance Central and can't remember a family wedding in the last couple of generations (on my side) that didn't have one. They don't phase me.</strong>
Posted by kmmssg[/QUOTE]
Ditto.
Fall Wedding Bio
Books read in 2012: 21/50
[QUOTE]Also, speaking as a frequent wedding musician, if I hear/play "Canon in D" during one more processional, my head will EXPLODE. I know it's beautiful, and I understand why brides choose it, but it's starting to run its course. There are so many lovely classical pieces to choose from; pick another one. ;) Corinthians - I'm with SpecialK. I loved when "Wedding Crashers" made a joke about that.
Posted by burntofferings[/QUOTE]
Agreed! I'm also a musician and the overplayed/overuse of this piece kills me. It will not be making an appearance at our ceremony.
No garter toss either. Creepy.
I think garter tosses are gross.
[QUOTE]Bouquet/garter tosses cake smashing - detest that bridal party dances - pleeeze don't make me sit through that and don't make your WP suffer through it choreographed WP dances Favors with your names and dates on them. Sorry, but I"m not taking it home. Just give me some Hershey kisses and we'll call it good. Sorry - I live in Dollar Dance Central and can't remember a family wedding in the last couple of generations (on my side) that didn't have one. They don't phase me.
Posted by kmmssg[/QUOTE]
<div>Completely agree except for the dollar dance. </div><div>
</div><div>Also, the patriarchal elements of the ceremony: father giving away the daughter, the 'obey' line in vows (i think that that's usually taken out). </div>
He did it to my mom and he has regretted it ever since. You spend money/hours on your makeup, to have frosting smeared on it. No thank you.
Other than that, I'm a HUGE sucker for traditions. All of them!
Life is good today.
When we cut our cake, I repeated the price of my dress over and over again to H until he agreed to be nice.
I'm pretty over clinking glasses to get the bride and groom to kiss. It felt like every time someone did that at our wedding I was in the middle of something and had to tell whoever I was talking to to hang on for a minute while I went to find H.
I'm still a fan of receiving lines. H's cousin didn't do one and I pretty much ended up interrupting her dinner to give her a hug because we did not see or talk to her at all for the entire night.
All that being said though, I was "given away" and I promised to obey. I don't know why, those two just don't bother me.
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