Will you upgrade your engagement ring?

Goldlie11 · December 2009

So, I'm not sure what's up with my coworkers, but I had one tell me that she upgraded her engagement ring twice in less than five years. So, are you planning to upgrade in the next 5 years?

Goldlie11 · December 2009

My ring is not small, nor big (3/4 carat solitaire on a really big ring size). Upgrading is not that important to me, but I might do it eventually. I can't image upgrading so soon. I think FI would kill me.

ggmae · December 2009

I got it reset earlier this year because the metal (platinum) was too soft and had too many dings in it. I would like to get it reset again in the future, but I'll be keeping my diamond.

julezlee · December 2009

Never gonna upgrade. Later on DH will buy me a diamond band if I want to be more blingy but there's no reason for me to get a bigger e-ring, mine's plenty big enough.

AmoroAgain · December 2009

You should have made it "Hell yes". I don't know when, but it will happen. Hopefully within the next couple of years. I wanted a diamond, but H got me a ruby instead. He's not happy with it- I'm not happy with it.

janedoe1113a · December 2009

My FI talked about upgrading my ring on a huge anniversary later in life. I would always keep this one though.

Brie2010 · December 2009

No. Never.

I don't like bigger stones than what I have. They look obnoxious on my hand and I chose the size I have because it's perfect the way it is.

I'd never want to change the ring he gave me at that period in our lives--I'm too sentimental.

redheadfsu · December 2009

My setting was free with the diamond, so he is planning on upgrading the quality of the setting when we get married. (white gold to platinum)

I want to upgrade to a Past (current diamond) , Present, Future ring in 10 years. He knows I love expensive jewelry & is completely ok with giving each other nice gifts.

TeresaLovesDave · December 2009

I won't ever upgrade; my engagement ring was my grandmom's (made in the 1930's) and I love it.

I should also mention that if my ring was changed, my mother and aunt would come after me with torches, but luckily I'm too sentimental to alter it in any way.

kikibaby · December 2009

Mine is a fakey mcfakerson, so yes- I love the setting, but we'll gradually stick real diamonds in there (it's a 3 stone).

Goldlie11 · December 2009

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[QUOTE]I won't ever upgrade; my engagement ring was my grandmom's (made in the 1930's) and I love it. I should also mention that if my ring was changed, my mother and aunt would come after me with torches, but luckily I'm too sentimental to alter it in any way.
Posted by TeresaLovesDave[/QUOTE]
I saw your ring in your bio,Teresa. It's stunning!<div>
</div><div>Julie, I think your ring looks really cool too. I love vintage rings. Yum!</div>

ggmae · December 2009

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[QUOTE]My setting was free with the diamond, so he is planning on upgrading the quality of the setting when we get married. (white gold to platinum)...
Posted by redheadfsu[/QUOTE]

Haha. I downgraded the setting (platinum to white gold) because I am way too clumsy and was hitting the ring on everything. It had so many dings and scratches, so we had it reset to a harder metal.

ootmother2 · December 2009

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[QUOTE]So, I'm not sure what's up with my coworkers, but I had one tell me that she upgraded her engagement ring twice in less than five years. So, are you planning to upgrade in the next 5 years?
Posted by Goldlie11[/QUOTE]

And I bet $10 that she's a New Yorker

I see that done a lot here and don't like it at all

Goldlie11 · December 2009

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[QUOTE]In Response to Will you upgrade your engagement ring? : And I bet $10 that she's a New Yorker I see that done a lot here and don't like it at all
Posted by ootmother2[/QUOTE]
Yep. I didn't know that it was common here in NYC.

polichik · December 2009

FI has expressed that he wants to upgrade my diamond later. I love it, but there are pretty noticible specks in it (you can't see them from above, but whenever I rest my chin on my hand I see them). I really don't mind, because I'm so glad he didn't break the bank buying it. However, if it really means a lot to him, I wouldn't say no to getting another stone of the same size and having the current stone made into half of a pair of earrings someday

TurtlesAllTheWayDown · December 2009

Nope, I picked out my ring. I love it. It's vintage, so I'm sure it will continue to last for a long time. It's also plenty big enough. Not HUGE, but I don't wear a lot of jewelery, so having a 5 carat diamond would look really odd on me. And this one is special. Since the setting is antique, I wouldn't want to upgrade it. The setting is as important as the stone, to me. And it symbolizes our engagement. It's not just a piece of jewelery. It represents a part of our life together.

FMIL doesn't wear her e-ring anymore, but she sort of replaced it with her mother's 50th anniversary ring. (FI was supposed to inherit his grandma's original e-ring, but it was stolen.) It's a huge diamond on a plain gold band. But the color is really off. The only good thing about it is that it's huge. But if FMIL's mother was anything liker her, I'm not surprised that she wanted to upgrade, as did FMIL.

TeresaLovesDave · December 2009

Thank you Goldie. I love vintage rings too.

And Julez -- your ring is absolutely stunning!

ootmother2 · December 2009

My niece got a 2 carat diamond when she got engaged. 4 years later she upgraded it to a 3 carat when their first child was born and had the 2 carat set in a necklace

IMO, a bit much

WildRumpus · December 2009

I LOVE my ring, and am planning on wearing it as my wedding ring-it would look weird w/ a band. With that in mind, I will probably get a bigger center stone put in before the wedding, and have the existing stone put into a necklace for the wedding.

julezlee · December 2009

Thanks, Goldlie and Teresa!

EDIT: Teresa, our rings are like cousins. Mine's from the 30s too. But, no great family history like yours.

ThePinkSuperhero · December 2009

No need for an "upgrade" here. The ring I got was perfect for me. That said, if he should ever want to buy me more jewelry, I'll always accept

sarah0725 · December 2009

Never! I love my delicate sapphire ring, and it fits my skinny witch fingers perfectly. FI bought me the perfect ring, and I'd never want to exchange it for something else.

TeresaLovesDave · December 2009

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[QUOTE]Thanks, Goldlie and Teresa! EDIT: Teresa, our rings are like cousins. Mine's from the 30s too. But, no great family history like yours.
Posted by julezlee[/QUOTE]

Haha, I love it -- I believe my grandfather actually bought it in NY, so that's a definite possibility. And while your ring might not have family history, I'd bet there's a great history behind it. I think that's my favorite part of vintage rings -- romanticizing the stories of previous owners.

squirrly · December 2009

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[QUOTE]No. Never. I don't like bigger stones than what I have. They look obnoxious on my hand and I chose the size I have because it's perfect the way it is. I'd never want to change the ring he gave me at that period in our lives--I'm too sentimental.
Posted by Brie2010[/QUOTE]

Brie & I are not just date twins - apparently we're thought twins too. This sums it up perfectly.

jaimelody · December 2009

Most likely not. I love my e-ring the way it is. However, bc of the razor edge, we had to go with two rings (one on either side) to match rather than one, so there's not much more you can upgrade to that. It's blingy by itself.

SarahPLiz · December 2009

Never Ever. Ever. He picked it out on his own, and it was exactly what he wanted me to have. Its platinum, so i will have to get it polished more often, but I love it and wouldn't change anything about it. But then again I am not a big jewelry person in the first place, so I see no reason to adorn my hand any more than it is. Like a PP said, it will be my wedding ring too.

[Deleted User] · December 2009

hell no. not possible, anyway.

BecW2be · December 2009

You'll have to pry this ring off my stone cold, deader than hell finger. He picked it out with my daughter, bought it and gave it to me to ask me to marry him. It's on that finger until the day I die. It's perfect, and it's my engagement ring. No other ring will ever be an upgrade. This one's too valuable to me.

Now the RIGHT hand, well that's a different story entirely. He can decorate that hand however he likes.

ootmother2 · December 2009

OP, have you ever noticed that women on the subway seem to e waring two wedding bands? That's because they turn their rings so the diamond is on the inside

If you have to do that, it's too damn big!

Goldlie11 · December 2009

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[QUOTE]OP, have you ever noticed that women on the subway seem to e waring two wedding bands? That's because they turn their rings so the diamond is on the inside If you have to do that, it's too damn big!
Posted by ootmother2[/QUOTE]
Yes I have. I couldn't imagine walking around, taking the buses and subways with a big honking rock. But that's just me. I don't have anything against those who like more bling.

saschaduran · December 2009

Oot...we got engaged in NYC and I wore my ring backwards for the rest of the trip when we were on the subway!

My H got me a ring almost 3 times bigger than I had hoped for, so definitely no upgrade. He said he did it because he knows I don't really wear jewelry and it was the only expensive piece he would ever have to buy.

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