My fiance and I are not registered. We're having a destination wedding and kindly mentioned on our website that our gift is having people come to the wedding, and if they still feel like giving a gift, we offered up a couple charities they can make a donation to in our honor. We are not having a stateside reception after the wedding either - our families are so spread out, there wouldn't be a good place for one where we would include everyone that can't come to the destination, hence why we are getting hitched afar! So, my dilemma is that my future mother in law wants me to travel to her hometown about 4 weeks before the wedding so she and her friends can throw me a small shower. Im not sure how to respond/handle the situation. Anyone been in my shoes? There aren't many couples that forego registries any more... Help!