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Seeing THE dress before the wedding
Who typically is acceptable or expected to see the dress before the wedding (either in pictures, in person, or links to the manufacturer's website)? Mother of the bride of course sees it. Any bridesmaids present during the process of shopping for the dress sees it. Groom does NOT. But who else should NOT? Who else is it typically OK if they do? Future mother in law? Wedding planner? Friends? Bridesmaids?
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Re: Seeing THE dress before the wedding
I think it just depends on who you want to see it. The only person NOT allowed to see my dress (or hear about it, or have it described to him, even the smallest little detail) is my FI. My mom, sis, FMIL, FSIL, co-worker, etc. have all seen my dress. It's not a big deal.
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I'm not telling/showing anyone but my Mom and my MOH (only sister), I want everyone to be surprised
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You have <em>no</em> idea... *sigh*
I don't like the idea of refusing to show it to people, especially if your friends and in-laws are excited to see it. I don't see a need for that, and I'm sure it'd hurt people's feelings. Plus to me the dress is not so special that it's a sacred thing that only certain people are blessed enough to lay their eyes upon. It's my CLOTHING, not the Ark of the Covenant.
I'm only showing my mom, dad and little brother.
3 of my good friends are getting married this summer, and I have already seen them all in their dresses (without asking). Personally, i think it's a little bit of a letdown when you've already seen someone in their wedding dress. But, to each their own!
Hmmmm, so I don't know what to do??? My wedding is in August and I have been searching for a dress for what feels like forever!! I have found stuff I like, but nothing yet that I love. I feel like my MOH is loosing patience with me, and my mom really hasn't made the time to come with me. I feel like when she does make an appearance, her attitude is I don't have time to keep going to stores so pick one already. Frankly, I don't know if it would help if I just went alone! I would love for my fiancé to come and help me, I value his opinion and I know he would kindly tell me the truth, but he is adamant about NOT seeing the dress! I don't know what to do!!!
show whoever you want. it doesn't matter, no one cares. i showed anyone who wanted to see, including my then fiance, but mostly, no one cared.
there are no rules.
I agree with everyone, to each their own. My Mom and FMIL went with me to the shop to try them on and help me choose. It was a fun and important bonding day for the 3 of us, and I really appreciated both opinions. My Bridesmaids went with me to pick it up from the store, and I tried it on for them, so they have also seen it. I want my girls to come with me for the final fitting too so that I have 3 people who can learn to bustle the train, hopefully one of us can remember on the big day. My Grandma also saw the dress. I am keeping it at her house so my FI doesn't see it, and I didn't think it was fair not to let her see it, plus we are very close. Other than that nobody else has seen it in person. Only a few more in pictures, but not pictures of me in the dress, just the website pic. It is very important to me that my FI doesn't see it. I just like the tradition!