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should the FI go or not go to the bridal shower?!?

jcrosenbergjcrosenberg
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my bestie had her FI go to her bridal shower, I've seen other guys go as well. Not the whole time, but they make an appearance at some point.

well I mentioned that to my FSIL which then tells my FBIL and he texts my FI saying that he's a queer and to reconsider. he told him that's like me going to his bachelor party n what not. he's never heard of that n all this crap.... umm.... a bridal shower is different than a bachelorette or bachelor party! n he's making fun of my sex and the city theme.
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what are u doing or have done in regards to this?

TIA!


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Re: should the FI go or not go to the bridal shower?!?

  • MariposaRoseMariposaRose
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    edited December 2011
    I'm having a good old Cuban "Despedida de Solteros" (Bridal Shower) so it's mixed women and men.

    But I've done plenty of all women showers where the FI shows up at the very beginning, takes a few pics, they get introduced.. say a few words about them and then he dips.

    I say do what makes you happy, forget everyone else!
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  • jthom001jthom001
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    edited December 2011
    thats totally something FBIL would say to my FI haha - do what you want, only that matters. :) 
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  • Dee729Dee729 member
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    edited December 2011
    My FI should up towards the end to see some presents and then say hello to everyone, take pictures, EAT FOOD AND DRINK a bit...then helped load all the packages into his car and my car!!  so it was a give and take...he got free food and drinks....I got an extra hand and a car to load all the gifts!
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  • Natalie97Natalie97
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    edited December 2011
    My Fi is planning on attending at some small point of the shower and I'm really excited about it!
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  • lisabill8lisabill8
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    edited December 2011
    I have seen lots of FIs show up at some point to say hi or load up presents. I don't see anything wrong with it.  I say do what makes you happy :)
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  • MariMac84MariMac84 member
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    edited December 2011
    I'm not sure what we'll be doing. FI works on weekends so he may not be there at all. If he can, I'd probably ask him to stop by towards the end to help out.
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  • RachAisleRachAisle member
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    edited December 2011
    My FI didn't want to go but his mom made him come halfway through & to help w/ gifts :-)

    We had several guests who kept asking if it was a couples shower b/c they wanted to bring their guy, and one person who didn't come down to Orlando b/c it wasn't a couples shower & she didn't want to drive down alone. The only reason it wasn't a couples shower though was b/c FI hadn 't initially planned on going.

    I think if your Fi comes halfway through or toward the end that's fine; you aren't marrying your FBIL (thank goodness!) ;-)
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  • ohyouhavemyheartohyouhavemyheart
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    edited December 2011
    i had a mixed shower and most of FI's friends went and they actually had a good time (my MOH picked some entertaining games lol and made sure there were lots of treats: cupcakes, french macarons) but im cuban and my parents insisted that it had to be co-ed. anyways, its more common now. i think its silly for guys to be all uptight and think its gay to go to a shower. thats immature and to me shows that your not confident in your masculinity to be "seen" at a sex and the city themed shower.
    the only thing we didnt do was open presents there. but it was a simple afternoon lunch with friends and family. :)
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  • jcrosenbergjcrosenberg
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    edited December 2011
    thank u ladies for ur feedback! i completely agree and think there's nothing wrong with him stopping by! i will do what makes me happy! thank u!!

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