Sending invites to overseas relatives you know won't come?

delisadawn · November 2012

My fiance is from Poland, and most of his extended family lives over there. I know most likely none of these relatives will come to our wedding because it would be too expensive and time consuming (and my fiance's sister just got married, and none of them came to hers), but I am considering sending them a Save the Date and/or invitation with our wedding website information on it, to at least make them feel included. Do you think this is a good idea? I don't want it to seem like we are asking for a gift or urging them to spend money on traveling.

JoanE2012 · November 2012

I would send. If you don't extend the invitation they will probably wonder why they weren't invited and it could cause hard feelings. Let them make the decision whether to attend or not.

OliveOilsMom · November 2012

Also, make sure that you have enough money in the budget and space to accomodate these guests if they decide to make the trip afterall. But I would go ahead and send STDs and invites to them.

Jen4948 · November 2012

If you would really like these people to come, regardless of whether they actually can or do, then send them invitations.

Loveandmangos · November 2012

One or the other may be sufficient depending on the cultural context. My fiancees family are all overseas and they had never heard of save the dates. It caused mass confusion and they all ended up calling to ask what these strange postcards were for. An email advance notice may be sufficient just in case they want to travel, followed by the formal invite.

delisadawn · November 2012

Thanks guys, I was most likely going to send invites, I just thought I would get a second opinion, especially since I will be making these invites seperate, since I will be writing them in Polish.

Getting2Vowels · November 2012

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[QUOTE]My fiance is from Poland, and most of his extended family lives over there. I know most likely none of these relatives will come to our wedding because it would be too expensive and time consuming (and my fiance's sister just got married, and none of them came to hers), but I am considering sending them a Save the Date and/or invitation with our wedding website information on it, to at least make them feel included. Do you think this is a good idea? I don't want it to seem like we are asking for a gift or urging them to spend money on traveling.
Posted by delisamarcin[/QUOTE]

I have family from Poland as well and sent STD's, also will be sending invites. They 99% won't be able to attend and I am NOT expecting them to even try, but I want them to know I want them there :)

maribeth721 · November 2012

I would send them. Just because you invited them doesn't mean they have to give you a gift. Honestly you would be surprised, you don't know if they are coming or aren't until they actually tell you they are or aren't. My cousin from Australia came up for my wedding and I was shocked when we got her RSVP. I almost didn't send her an invitation because of the same reasonsing your saying. I'm glad I did or she would have been heart broken.