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Advice on BM's moving slow at picking up their dresses

bre92882bre92882 member
Knottie Warrior 10 Comments
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Hi,

I've always considered myself to be laid back and easy going. Far from a "Bridezilla" but some ppl make want to go that far.

My BM's dresses came in on January 11th, a text and email were both sent out that day letting them know they had to pick them up within 15 days (the boutique said this) so far only two have gotten their dresses...one is in ATL so I went ahead an picked hers up and my future sis-in-law got hers.

I have 4 others who have not gotten theirs...one told me if she has the money before the 15 days she will get hers...two others have "forgotten" and thanked me for sending a reminder last Thursday. I sent a text to both who forgot on Saturday one replied to me and said she was busy all day and had not gotten around to get it she would get it on Sunday, I told her the shop was closed on Sunday, she replied that she would most likely get it today -__________-

I'm at the point now where I'm not saying any more my Matron of honor and Fiance are telling me I shouldn't be stressing at all about this. It's upseting me, I actually cried about this last night. I feel like out of all 6 BM's 3 are excited and the rest are just dragging their feet.

How do I deal with BM's like this though without being a bitch?

Also if the girls don't pick up their dress according to the boutique it's my responsibility to get them which means I will have to pay for them.
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Re: Advice on BM's moving slow at picking up their dresses

  • MrsSmith2Be02MrsSmith2Be02 member
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    Don't stress about it! Seriously.......that's where delegation comes in. I am working my wedding like its a party with committess. LOL. So my MOH and Matron are the Bridesmaid committee chairs and they handle everything dealing with BM stuff. I'm not sure if that is an option for you, but it may be worth a try.

    OR you can just tell them the truth of the shop policy, the funding, etc. Next time, for anything else that is deadline related, shorten the deadline by a week. Example: Even though my wedding date is 11/11, in my head I'm thinking it is 10/11, so everything has to be done, paid for, and settled by that date. The next 30 days after that I don't want to think about anything.
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  • bre92882bre92882 member
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    Thanks :)
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  • 2010Bride2be2010Bride2be
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    They're adults, if they don't pick up their dresses and/or don't have them before the wedding, they don't walk. Also, Alfred Angelo told us the same for BM dresses.....and they kept them til the girls picked them up.
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  • bre92882bre92882 member
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    I don't have to pay for them *wipes sweat from eyebrow* The store said they will charge them a storage fee if they don't pick them up in time.
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  • jonekajoneka member
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    Im in the same situation..but responsibility falls on the girls..i was easy breezy..with my only request being the color and material (so it was cohesive)..so its on them.to buy and pick up their dresses...im not stressing...no dress..no walk...just like that...they can give blessings from the pew
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  • bre92882bre92882 member
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    *Update

    Thanks to the ladies who responded. The shop said they would charge them a storage fee if they didn't get their dresses by Thursday. I sent them an email letting them know this. One who was off today went and got hers.

    I've washed my hands of this situation, I'm not going to continue to tell women who are close to 30 to get their dresses...LOL!!!!

    They don't get them they don't walk that's that!
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