When my FI and I did our guest list we ended up with around 65 give or take a few people on each side and around 40 friends invited. I knew out of the 180 invited around 140-150 would attend. I just got off the phone with my mom and she was telling me about the family BBQ they had this weekend (we had already told my FILswe would go to their place or we would have gone to my families) She was asking around to get a feel of who was going to the wedding and out of the 65 people on my side of the family only 10 are coming. I started to cry. Some of the excuses they gave were even worse. My Aunt who is also my godmother, said she didnt know the date of wedding and booked a party at her restuarant that day. She has know the wedding date for over a year. Then my cousin and his wife have a friend getting married the same day. It hurt that they picked friends or family. Then there was the aunt and uncle and their 4 daughters (who are all grown up and have families) say that the hour drive was just too far to drive. That if the wedding closer they would have. But yet they drive here all the time to go shopping.
It hurts to know I will only have one table of people for my side of the family. It hurts even more knowing my parents are paying for a reception where it will mostly be my FI side of family and friends.