Speeches....

Shari 86 · April 2012

I need you guys help!

Are you guys making your parents or wedding party do speeches??

I know you need some but how many are you having? What would you consider to be the bare miniumum??

I have public speaking phobics and don't want to push people to do things they are too uncomfortable with.

TIA

LDW0225 · April 2012

We are having just our MOH & BM give speeches at the reception. I'm not sure but FFIL will probably give a speech at the rehearsal dinner the night before. FI and I will probably say something at the rehearsal as well.

I would say 2, one from each side would be the bare minimum IMO

classykat22 · April 2012

We actually are not having speeches at the wedding. We decided to have them during our rehearsal dinner instead. We just felt this would work better overall. FI and I plan on saying a short thank you to all of our guests for sharing in our day, right before we cut the cake.

Melissa51212 · April 2012

Just BM and moh.

Killa2979 · April 2012

We are having our MOH and BM give speeches during the reception.

caitlinc09 · April 2012

I think the minimum would be BM and MOH like PPs have said. I am going to ask my dad and FFIL if they would like to speak as well, but I'm definitely not going to try to make anyone speak. I think FMIL and FFIL will say something at the RD because they are hosting it.

Bett2012 · April 2012

My dad (my parents are hosting) - TY to guests
FI's dad and/or brother(s)? - undecided who and what really, but generally a welcome me to the family and "yay FI" speech

My brother - toast to the Bride
FI and I - TY to guests, parents, WP.

MOH didn't approach me about a speech, and I didn't want to ask non-family, I figured they would take the initiative to ask if they wanted to, so we're not doing that (plus, we wanted it to be minimal, which is apparently not even minimal compared to you ladies!)

mandi921vh · April 2012

You don't need anyone to make any speeches. If people offer that's great, usually it's the BM and MOH, but it can be other people as well. You can ask people if they would like to make a speech, but if they say no you can't force them...

mandydc0509 · April 2012

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-club-boards_may-2012-weddings_speeches?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20Club%20BoardsForum:f0ca0bc1-9255-4120-8042-b40e7f3e99c5Discussion:337ee404-6680-4ace-b4f4-f0e90d014b38Post:994323c8-81d1-4836-82ec-854dc374ddcb">Re: Speeches....</a>:
[QUOTE]You don't need anyone to make any speeches. If people offer that's great, usually it's the BM and MOH, but it can be other people as well. You can ask people if they would like to make a speech, but if they say no you can't force them...
Posted by mandi921vh[/QUOTE]

Yeah, I don't think they're required. Our BM and MOH willl prob give one, and I know my dad will want to say something. Our DJ actually specifically told us not to have more than 3 and to keep it short so that the schedule flows well. Smart man haha

COSmitty · April 2012

Do it by person not title...

RD- most likely I'm going to ask FI to say something. FFIL is not coming to the wedding and FMIL is hosting the dinner and she hates pubilc speaking.

Reception- I will do the welcome and blessing. My mom is hosting the reception (the dinner/fees). She has the option but it's rare she public speaks.

MOH and one of the groomsmen are doing toasts (BM hates public speaking and we assured him he didn't have to).

Just pick people who fit the role and ask people if they are comfortable instead of assuming- I have been surprised by people.

SunshineShades · April 2012

BM (my sister)
BM (FI brother)
My dad
My mum (they are divorced so my mum insists on speaking as well)
Possibly FFIL if he chooses to
FI & I

This is typically the way things are done around here. I dont think I have ever been to a wedding where the parents dont speak as well. Possibly because most RD arent a big deal, just grabbing food after rehearsal.

MsAmeera25 · April 2012

Best MAn and MOH only

sfylstra · April 2012

I was thinking, that FI and I would probably give a quick thank you to everyone and all toast together, because I'm not a fan of speeches

I would rather any be done at the RD if anyone really wants to give a speech. Knowing our families though, I'm thinking they will be glad to not have to speak in front of everyone, lol.

S0095042 · April 2012

Minimum:
1)Who ever is hosting the reception needs to give a speech
2) BM & MOH
3) You or the FI (or both) should also welcome your guests

We're doing prewedding toasts (the venue needs time to set up the buffet) so here are pre-wedding speeches:
1. Welcome from the host (my parents)
2. Welcome from the FI & I
3. Best Man Speech
4. MOH Speech

Then towards the end of dinner a few more speeches:
1. FOG
2. A groomsman who was the FI's roomate

bpphoto785 · April 2012

I agree that no one is REQUIRED to make a speech. We've asked my parents, FILs, MOH and BM but also gave them the option to say no if they feel uncomfortable or to make their speech at the rehearsal if they're more comfortable in front of a smaller crowd.

I would just ask who you would like to make a speech and let them know that there's no pressure and they can say no.

DianaL616 · April 2012

We are having one of my BM give a toast, not a full speech. One of our GM will do the blessing of the meal/toast. That's all we are having...I'm not a fan of speeches.

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