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Bornaleo819
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Be a Rock Star at my wedding??
I absolutely LOVE Christina Aguilera!!! I was thinking....this is totally just a thought and I doubt I would have the guts to do it but I was wondering if it would be a crazy move to perform at my wedding reception!!! What if I got on stage and performed "Ain't No Other Man", believe me I can't touch her high notes but I don't think I would sound like the clowns on the first episodes of American Idol either. I want to do this because I seriously love singing and just figure, its MY wedding, why the heck not right?? Especially since I've seen that show that represents married couples doing crazy stunts like dancing to thriller and such at their reception. Any thoughts?? Thanks much!
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Re: Be a Rock Star at my wedding??
If you like the song, play it during your entrance. With the pro singing it.
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But I have absolutely no intention of singing at my own wedding. Despite all my experience, I still get nervous when I perform, and emotions will already be running high, so I wouldn't trust my voice at all. We're investigating the possibility of hitting a karaoke bar after the wedding, and we may be doing Rock Band in our hotel suite the night before the wedding (if the TV has the right hookups).
I wouldn't recommend to professional-caliber singers to perform at their own wedding. If you're admittedly not professional-caliber, I would definitely, definitely reconsider. Yes, you can do whatever you want at your wedding, but your guests don't have to like it.
This is a belated married bio, with no reviews yet because I'm lazy.
Sometimes I feel like people think that brides are delicate little flower princesses who get all dressed up and pretty for one special moment of their dreams, when really they're just normal people who just happen to be getting married. Things shouldn't have to be sugar-coated for grown-ass women. -mstar284
[QUOTE]I absolutely LOVE Christina Aguilera!!! I was thinking....this is totally just a thought and I doubt I would have the guts to do it but I was wondering if it would be a crazy move to perform at my wedding reception!!! What if I got on stage and performed "Ain't No Other Man", believe me I can't touch her high notes but I don't think I would sound like the clowns on the first episodes of American Idol either. I want to do this because I seriously love singing and just figure, its MY wedding, why the heck not right?? Especially since I've seen that show that represents married couples doing crazy stunts like dancing to thriller and such at their reception. Any thoughts?? Thanks much!
Posted by Bornaleo819[/QUOTE]
How about just having the DJ play it at the reception and you dance to it instead? You can sing along to your husband while you're dancing if you want. Your wedding probably isn't the best place to have a karaoke moment. And...it's not YOUR wedding; it's yours and your FI's.
"So I sing a song of love, Julia"
06.10.10
BFAR:We Defined Our Own Success!
As far as your guests are concerned, most people are taught to have enough class to not say anything to the couple if they don't agree with it or like it. But that doesn't stop anyone from talking behind your back. So you may never know if they like it or not since they know better than to say anything directly to you if anything goes wrong.
Again, don't pretend to be someone you're not. Nothing wrong with serenading your fiance on any other occasion but the reception is not the time or place to do so.
This is a belated married bio, with no reviews yet because I'm lazy.
Sometimes I feel like people think that brides are delicate little flower princesses who get all dressed up and pretty for one special moment of their dreams, when really they're just normal people who just happen to be getting married. Things shouldn't have to be sugar-coated for grown-ass women. -mstar284
[QUOTE]So why did you bother asking for our thoughts and wasting people's time with responding, if all you wanted was 100% validation that this is a fantastic idea and you were going to do it no matter what we said?
Posted by mbcdefg[/QUOTE]
^THIS
Try being a bride, that's what the day is all about
For the record, my fiance thinks it's a great idea since he's heard me and he's a dj himself so he will be playing/performing himself at the wedding. I can't believe how negative all the comments are, I come from a family of musicians and passionate souls, everyone in my family is supportive and thinks it would be fun and a great idea. I have NEVER been to a karaoke bar where people sounded decent or nice (which I have heard a few) and still was "uncomfortable". That's so sad. Just because we ourselves have nerves and fears of being on stage doesn't mean we should discourage others from doing so. I haven't made the "100%" decision to do it, I just know I want to try. So basically weddings should be traditional, predictable, and safe? No way. Lots of people opt to do unique things at their weddings and are left with many memories to share with their family (most recently I read about a couple that did a Peter Pan wedding). I WOULD LOVE to know what you mean about trying to "be a bride". What does that mean? Our day is ours and that's why we plan it the way we want it to be. I hate that I'm defending this idea of mine, I thought it would be fun, period. I guess the thought of doing a 4 minute performance to express my love is just too much for the general public to handle.
[QUOTE]For the record, my fiance thinks it's a great idea since he's heard me and he's a dj himself so he will be playing/performing himself at the wedding. I can't believe how negative all the comments are, I come from a family of musicians and passionate souls, everyone in my family is supportive and thinks it would be fun and a great idea. I have NEVER been to a karaoke bar where people sounded decent or nice (which I have heard a few) and still was "uncomfortable". That's so sad. Just because we ourselves have nerves and fears of being on stage doesn't mean we should discourage others from doing so. I haven't made the "100%" decision to do it, I just know I want to try. So basically weddings should be traditional, predictable, and safe? No way. Lots of people opt to do unique things at their weddings and are left with many memories to share with their family (most recently I read about a couple that did a Peter Pan wedding). I WOULD LOVE to know what you mean about trying to "be a bride". What does that mean? Our day is ours and that's why we plan it the way we want it to be. I hate that I'm defending this idea of mine, I thought it would be fun, period. I guess the thought of doing a 4 minute performance to express my love is just too much for the general public to handle.
Posted by Bornaleo819[/QUOTE]
You know what? Do what you want. We're not coming to your wedding so whatever. Is that what you wanted to hear?
"So I sing a song of love, Julia"
06.10.10
BFAR:We Defined Our Own Success!
[QUOTE]Wow, I'm pretty shocked at the response. I am going to consider it. My dad is a professional singer and I have until late November to practice. He will let me use his studio equipment plus teach his band the music so they can back me up. I don't think at all that it will be a tough thing to "put my guest through". How horrible. It is my wedding since I will be paying a nice chunk of the expenses. I don't depend on my fiance and our families are not pitching in (at least not that as far as I know). I am going to practice big time to try to perfect the performance, it's going to be kept top secret so if I choose to change my mind I'm totally entitled to. I think that I could rock the house if I get the right training and have a great band with all the right instruments in the background. Well, anyway, I will continue to prepare and just keep my idea hush hush. Even though I'm not Christina the purpose of this is to serenade my new husband and do something that I've always dreamed of doing, CARPE DIEM - I'm only going to live once.
Posted by Bornaleo819[/QUOTE]
"So I sing a song of love, Julia"
06.10.10
BFAR:We Defined Our Own Success!
However, this is the same chick who tried out for American Gladiator the morning of her wedding, and didn't tell her H until the honeymoon. They ended up going on the show and she won. I think the performance was silly, but silly and impulsive are characteristics of her personality that her family and friends love, and they thought the performance was funny. Her H actually showed a tape of it at their Christmas party this year and we all thought it was very cute and very "her"
If you are not a karaoke goddess, and are thinking about doing a serious serenade that is NOT meant to be tongue-in-cheek, then get some outside, unbiased critiques of your singing ability. And take their advice. Not everyone is a singer, and there is no auto-tune on stage. Prepare to be embarrassed.
Look, I tell my FI that he's a good singer. He's not, really. He's not bad, but has trouble staying on key. But unless I'm actually working with him on vocal training, I'm not going to give him an honest critique of his skills, because I don't want to hurt his feelings. Your loved ones may actually think that something is a bad idea, but they wouldn't ever tell you that. That's why people come here for unbiased advice.
Again, I really don't understand why you posted here. If you don't want to hear what people think, post to your blog and disable the comments. Or record yourself singing and post it to YouTube. Then you'll REALLY see how negative people on the Internet can be.
This is a belated married bio, with no reviews yet because I'm lazy.
Sometimes I feel like people think that brides are delicate little flower princesses who get all dressed up and pretty for one special moment of their dreams, when really they're just normal people who just happen to be getting married. Things shouldn't have to be sugar-coated for grown-ass women. -mstar284
The reception i went to that had singing, everyone left EARLY and no one wanted to sing, or very few..until they had a few drinks in them, and you couldn't dance. I understand that you are doing just one song, but that still 4 mins or so that your guest will have to sit and watch you "perform" ..is that really the point on your wedding day?
If you want to embarrass yourself, that's your perogative. But you've already said you can't hit the notes, so why would you pretend you can? Save it for karaoke night.
If you have any reservations about it, why don't you sing it at the rehearsal dinner instead? That way you could perform in front of your close friends and family, which may aleviate some of the nerves of singing in front of your whole guest list...
Go ahead sing to him, I really do not care. I'm sure you are AWish in real life so your family and friends would not think twice at you doing this.
psst: Does anyone else thinks she wants this preformance to hit You Tube so she can become 'famous'??
this is the dumbest, most cheesy idea ever.
Actually, do it. And tape it. And then come back here and prove us alllll wrong. I'd love to see it.
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[QUOTE]For the record, my fiance thinks it's a great idea since he's heard me and he's a dj himself so he will be playing/performing himself at the wedding. I can't believe how negative all the comments are, I come from a family of musicians and passionate souls, everyone in my family is supportive and thinks it would be fun and a great idea. I have NEVER been to a karaoke bar where people sounded decent or nice (which I have heard a few) and still was "uncomfortable". That's so sad. Just because we ourselves have nerves and fears of being on stage doesn't mean we should discourage others from doing so. I haven't made the "100%" decision to do it, I just know I want to try. So basically weddings should be traditional, predictable, and safe? No way. Lots of people opt to do unique things at their weddings and are left with many memories to share with their family (most recently I read about a couple that did a Peter Pan wedding). I WOULD LOVE to know what you mean about trying to "be a bride". What does that mean? Our day is ours and that's why we plan it the way we want it to be. I hate that I'm defending this idea of mine, I thought it would be fun, period. I guess the thought of doing a 4 minute performance to express my love is just too much for the general public to handle.
Posted by Bornaleo819[/QUOTE]
What in the world was the point of your post? We told you what we thought of your incredibly lame idea. You need to understand that your family loves you and will say things that they think will make you happy. How do you think all of those idiots get all the way to American Idol auditions thinking they sound like Mariah Carey? It's because someone that loved them blew a bunch of smoke up their asss and convinced them it was a good idea. We are not going to do that and you should be thankful for the honest opinions that you received.
It's not your Super Sweet 16, it's your wedding, FFS.
What you're doing may turn out great however you began your first post saying that you can't even hit all the high notes...and "not" hitting the notes sounds really bad to almost all ears.
FWIW, I've seen people signing at a wedding on TV once and at the wedding ceremony IRL once. On TV, the bride sang to her groom as she walked down the aisle and it was REALLY bad.
And when my friend's MIL decided to sing the Wedding Song at the ceremony, it was awful and even now, almost 6 years later the song makes me snort.
Many people here are trying to make sure that you know what you're doing, Because at your wedding people may smile and clap but if they're still snorting at the Christina Aguilera song 6 years later, it's a sign that you signing was just not a great idea.
And remember, you are inviting all these people there for a reason and the reception is your gift to them.
The difference between them and us ... they won't say their true opinion to your face if they don't like it. They'll just talk about it behind your back.
People here have nothing to lose by giving you their true opinion. We'll never meet you in real life so we're not afraid of an awkward meeting with you in the supermarket if we shoot down your idea, and we don't know you so we have no reason to purposely make you feel bad as some kind of personal vendetta. It's just plain, honest advice.
Having saif that, I AM a professional singer, and have sung at more weddings/funerals/concerts than you'll ever attend. Did I sing at my own wedding? Nope. Did I sing at either of my children's weddings? Nope.
If this is really for your FI and not for your own ego, you have the perfect venue and opportunity to sing the song for him: in your hotel room on your wedding night.
That way it will be a private, personal moment for the two of you, which, come to think of it, is what your intent should have been all along.
[QUOTE]You know why Christina sings that song? So you don't have to. If you want to embarrass yourself, that's your perogative. But you've already said you can't hit the notes, so why would you pretend you can? Save it for karaoke night.
Posted by MyNameIsNot[/QUOTE]
Bahahahaha!
And to the OP: Honey, no. Just no.