What would you do? Bridesmaid Drama

kaimah · July 2011

Here's my story. I told all of my bridesmaids that I was sending them something in the mail. I sent out bridesmaids invitations to 8 of my dearest friends and family members. The card read "Will you be my bridesmaid". 7 out of the 8 responded yes. The 8th, my sister has not acknowledged that she even received the card.

Ok, maybe it got lost in the mail. WRONG. I sent a certified return receipt with her card. She just moved into a new place, so I wanted to make sure she got it. The card was received by her front desk and given to my sister. That was early June. I have talked to my sister since then, and she has not said anything about the card. My other sisters don't want me to ask her about it.

What would you do?

wallacje · July 2011

Ask her if she got it? You need to know in the event that you are either one short or you need to find a replacement.

Why don't your other sister's want you to ask her?

Baesmom · July 2011

honestly, i would ask her if she received anything from you.. Do you think she has said something to your other sisters about not wanting to be in the wedding? If so, SOMEONE needs to say something to you. Im sorry

simbidi · July 2011

Do you have any reason to believe there is a problem between you and your sister?

Soon2BSand · July 2011

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/cultural-wedding-boards_african-american-weddings_would-bridesmaid-drama?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Cultural%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:400Discussion:51c0b198-2aaa-4239-b769-e20daa9fc21aPost:70b343db-8854-4390-b992-4c572547ee46">What would you do? Bridesmaid Drama</a>:
[QUOTE]Here's my story. I told all of my bridesmaids that I was sending them something in the mail. I sent out bridesmaids invitations to 8 of my dearest friends and family members. The card read "Will you be my bridesmaid". 7 out of the 8 responded yes. The 8th, my sister has not acknowledged that she even received the card. Ok, maybe it got lost in the mail. WRONG. I sent a certified return receipt with her card. She just moved into a new place, so I wanted to make sure she got it. The card was received by her front desk and given to my sister. That was early June. I have talked to my sister since then, and she has not said anything about the card. My other sisters don't want me to ask her about it. What would you do?
Posted by kaimah[/QUOTE]<div>
</div><div>Where is the drama?</div><div>
</div><div>Maybe she hasn't opened it? Do you think she'd ignore you on purpose? Instead of assuming the worst just ask her about it. Stress eliminated.

</div>

MrsBrown2Bein2011 · July 2011

Why not just ask her? Seeing is though she just moved alot more may be on her mind.

djscat · July 2011

I agree just ask her about it. It will clear the air for both of you. Don't just assume the worst. Us Brides have a habit of doing that and sometimes what we think is not even close to what is really going on.

MrsAllenToBe1123 · July 2011

I would remind her and ask her. She may have placed it down and forgot about it

kaimah · July 2011

Thanks ladies. I will give her a call. I love her and she is my sister, I should give her the benefit of the doubt.

My other sisters don't want me to ask her because when I got engaged she took a week to call me back. During that time she was writing all over Facebook about going to the Prince concert and other things. On top of that when my fiance had ananeurysm last year, she never called me, she just sent a text message once.

Soon2BSand · July 2011

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/cultural-wedding-boards_african-american-weddings_would-bridesmaid-drama?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Cultural%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:400Discussion:51c0b198-2aaa-4239-b769-e20daa9fc21aPost:1721b3e1-be3c-46a1-b22b-ef68220fd4e3">Re: What would you do? Bridesmaid Drama</a>:
[QUOTE]Thanks ladies. I will give her a call. I love her and she is my sister, I should give her the benefit of the doubt. My other sisters don't want me to ask her because when I got engaged she took a week to call me back. During that time she was writing all over Facebook about going to the Prince concert and other things. On top of that when my fiance had ananeurysm last year, she never called me, she just sent a text message once.
Posted by kaimah[/QUOTE]

<div>All the more reason her lack of response shouldn't be a surprise. It doesn't sound like she's ignoring you on purpose. Maybe she's bad with returning calls (or doesn't like to talk on the phone).</div>

lil01 · July 2011

Agree with ladies.....just call & ask her. I wouldn't even go off of what your sisters said re: her calling you a week later when you got engaged. I wouldn't care about that....its about what's going on now.

Fabbiegirl · July 2011

Like the PP's, I would call her and ask.

missowens · July 2011

It doesn't hurt to ask...go ahead and give her a call

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