Im having my wedding at 2:30 in the afternoon and my reception doesn't start until 6:30. I tried to move the ceremony to 3 but was told we would not have any time for pictures or recession line and MUST be out of the church by 4:00 since confessions start then for 5:00 mass. Is it necessary for me to plan somewhere for the guest to go in-between? My grandmother lives about 3 minutes from the church and the reception hall is only about 15 mins from there. Some guests will be checking into the hotel then but i don't know what to do with the random.... i hope this makes sense! i dont know! haha helpp
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Is there anyway to move the cocktail hour up? I'm not a history buff but I think it's called a cocktail hour for a reason.
Can you move the reception time up? At all? I can't speak for all your guests but like pp said...I would end up napping back at my hotel room...
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I would ask your grandmother if you could use her house for refreshments for your guest. Do coffee, soda, water, beer and wine if you would like. then some chips, veggie tray etc.... have it all ready to go that who every can open up the house that all they need to do is take out the veggie tray. hope this helps.
I was stressed about it but...if theres nothing you can do, theres nothing you can do.
People get an invitation to your wedding - they can see before they even RSVP that there will be a gap, and RSVPed yes anyway, so unless your guests cant read, they have no excuses to complain.. The people that want to be at your wedding will be at your wedding, gap or no gap. Theyre adults, if they cant find something to do to kill a couple hours, thats pretty pathetic.
I would suggest maybe on the back of the program, or on a seperate paper listing things to do in the area? if you have the money to host one of those things for your guests, great! if not, your ADULT guests can find something to do and kill time, just expect that most will chose to go to a pub and drink so you may have some intoxicated guests before the reception even starts.
[QUOTE]<strong>This is always the issue with a full catholic mass.</strong> we are also getting married at 2:30 because we cannot get married any later due to 5:00 mass. our reception starts at 6pm the earliest we could start since there is a party in the afternoon. My parents live 5 minutes from the church and 10 from the venue. My parents are opening up the house for light refreshments and light snacks for anyone who needs a place to go. if your family and friends are caholic they are use to this. My FI family will be traveling an hour or so to be with us that day and I want to make sure they have a place to go after the ceremony. most of my famiy are local and will most likely go home. I would ask your grandmother if you could use her house for refreshments for your guest. Do coffee, soda, water, beer and wine if you would like. then some chips, veggie tray etc.... have it all ready to go that who every can open up the house that all they need to do is take out the veggie tray. hope this helps.
Posted by roxiems75[/QUOTE]
No, it's not always the issue. I have been to multiple Catholic weddings with full mass and never was there a gap between the ceremony and reception.
[QUOTE]ya this is rough - i have to have a gap too - for a different reason though - our ceremony and reception are at the same place, so we need to have the gap so the staff have time to change the space from ceremony to reception. I was stressed about it but...if theres nothing you can do, theres nothing you can do. People get an invitation to your wedding - they can see before they even RSVP that there will be a gap, and RSVPed yes anyway, <strong>so unless your guests cant read, they have no excuses to complain</strong>.. The people that want to be at your wedding will be at your wedding, gap or no gap. <strong>Theyre adults, if they cant find something to do to kill a couple hours, thats pretty pathetic</strong>. I would suggest maybe on the back of the program, or on a seperate paper listing things to do in the area? if you have the money to host one of those things for your guests, great! if not, <strong>your ADULT guests can find something to do and kill time</strong>, just expect that most will chose to go to a pub and drink so you may have some intoxicated guests before the reception even starts. :) GL!
Posted by stefaniewattie[/QUOTE]
The way people think about and treat their nearest and dearest is truly stunning to me sometimes.
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[QUOTE]ya this is rough - i have to have a gap too - for a different reason though - our ceremony and reception are at the same place, so we need to have the gap so the staff have time to change the space from ceremony to reception. I was stressed about it but...if theres nothing you can do, theres nothing you can do. People get an invitation to your wedding - they can see before they even RSVP that there will be a gap, and RSVPed yes anyway, so unless your guests cant read, they have no excuses to complain.. The people that want to be at your wedding will be at your wedding, gap or no gap. Theyre adults, if they cant find something to do to kill a couple hours, thats pretty pathetic. I would suggest maybe on the back of the program, or on a seperate paper listing things to do in the area? if you have the money to host one of those things for your guests, great! if not, your ADULT guests can find something to do and kill time, just expect that most will chose to go to a pub and drink so you may have some intoxicated guests before the reception even starts. :) GL!
Posted by stefaniewattie[/QUOTE]
I did one Catholic wedding like this and won't do another one. We were in the middle of BFE, didn't know anyone else and I"m sorry, but we don't do the bar thing. I should not have to kill 3 hours due to poor planning.
We found an Applebee's where we stayed for an inordantly long time and then went to the reception. Any couple CAN arrange a wedding and reception without the gap, it's just that they don't want to give up the evening reception so the rest of us have to deal with it. If I get another invitation like that, I will certainly send a lovely gift, but I will certainly decline.
[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Gap btw ceremony and recepti : I did one Catholic wedding like this and won't do another one. We were in the middle of BFE, didn't know anyone else and I"m sorry, but we don't do the bar thing. I should not have to kill 3 hours due to poor planning. We found an Applebee's where we stayed for an inordantly long time and then went to the reception. Any couple CAN arrange a wedding and reception without the gap, it's just that they don't want to give up the evening reception so the rest of us have to deal with it. If I get another invitation like that, I will certainly send a lovely gift, but I will certainly decline.
Posted by kmmssg[/QUOTE]
Its not poor planning or a want for an evening reception its the venue telling me they need "x" amt of time to change over from ceremony to reception..im sorry, but your not going to satisfy everyone and if the people ive invited because i love them are mad because they have to kill a bit of time, cmon. if they want to rsvp no because of it, clearly they didnt want to see us get married and id rather them stay home if thats the reason they decide to not attend. :s
and somehow i doubt that if someone you loved dearly was getting married, you would decline the invite because they had to have a gap. :s
[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Gap btw ceremony and recepti : Its not poor planning or a want for an evening reception its the venue telling me they need "x" amt of time to change over from ceremony to reception..im sorry, but your not going to satisfy everyone and if the people ive invited because i love them are mad because they have to kill a bit of time, cmon. if they want to rsvp no because of it, clearly they didnt want to see us get married and id rather them stay home if thats the reason they decide to not attend. :s and somehow<strong> i doubt that if someone you loved dearly was getting married, you would decline the invite because they had to have a gap. :s
</strong>Posted by stefaniewattie[/QUOTE]
You're right, I'd go to the ceremony and skip the reception. There is no need for a gap, ever. You made a choice to use a venue that requires it, and that's just rude to your guests.
[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Gap btw ceremony and recepti : You're right, I'd go to the ceremony and skip the reception. There is no need for a gap, ever. You made a choice to use a venue that requires it, and that's just rude to your guests.
Posted by DramaGeek[/QUOTE]
This exactly Drama! I would not go to both as I'm not killing a whole day like that and having to figure out what to do in the interim.
[QUOTE]I just want to thank everyone out that actually offered me advice and gave helpful tips. I appreciate it a lot. We can not move up the reception because there is a party in the afternoon at our venue so asking my Grandparents to host a small refreshment time seems great. It will also give time for guests to check in the hotel if they haven't done so yet and take the shuttle over. As for the people with the negative comments, im here for suggestions and help not to hear that i have poor planning and dont want to give up an evening reception. lets keep this a positive board instead of making snappy comments to each other
Posted by Kerri006[/QUOTE]
<div>THIS! Very true. Why do some of you come on these boards just to start drama? </div>
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Also wanted to mention that I went to a wedding where on the back of the programs it said "The bride and groom love this area and hope that their guests are able to enjoy all that it has to offer. May we suggest..." and then they had a nice list of their favourite shops etc. The grooms favourite chococolate shop (he had a sweet tooth) Brides favourite place to grab a tea. They got married in a cute tourist downtown (St. Jacobs, Ontario.) and all of us guests actually enjoyed 'The Gap' between the ceremony and reception because we were able to walk around and laugh and let loose before sitting down to dinner again.
At then end of the day, its your wedding, and you have to do what works for you as a couple which includes reglious aspects, budget aspects and anything else. People come to your wedding because they love you and want to celebrate your life, if people have a big problem because they might need to go back to their hotel or home for a little bit then let them and honnestly they wont be missed at your wedding. You cant please everyone, but you can please yourselves.
Its just a wedding, dont stress over it. It's your marriage to the person that you love most in the world that is important.
Have a great wedding.
I also love Mother Theresa, so I'm ending with one of her quotes:
"If you judge people, you have no time to love them."
Plenty of people who love you will not leave simply because of a time gap.