Groom & Groomsmen Attire

JDaWn88 · February 2012

For whatever reason, my groom refuses to wear a tux. He's fine with wearing a suit, and a suit jacket but is opposed to tuxes. (He doesn't ever really give me a reason as to why...) He's only ever owed one suit, and he got it when we were 15 for my mom's wedding (he's now 24), and he wore it to several of our dances and proms. So he's said that he'll just buy a new suit, and have his groomsmen do the same since I'm having my girls buy their dresses. (Doesn't make much since to me for our wedding parties expenses.)

Well, our roommate is our best man/groomsmen. He agrees on the matter. They also would prefer pocket squares as opposed to boutineers. We are having a pretty non-traditional wedding as it is so I really don't mind as long as they don't look like slobs.

I need help on who might rent suits, or how to handle these stubborn men. Or what type of tux is the most like a suit? I don't personally see what the big deal is, but he wants this on his own, so I've agreed since I'm planning most every thing else. I'm assuming that renting tuxes would be cheaper than renting certain pieces such as a jacket, etc.

Also, how do I match the groomsmen to the bridesmaids? I mean, other than colors?

Thanks in advance,

Frustrated!

jagore08 · February 2012

Just ask all the guys to wear a black suit. It could be one they already own, they can purchase a new suit for under $200, or they can rent. Try MW or any other formal-ware place for renting. The suits don't all have to be exactly the same just as long as they're the same color. We did all black and only one GM needed to purchase a suit but said he was ok with it since he should have a black one in his closet anyway.

We tied them all in with their ties. If they want pocket squares, that's another way to add in your colors to their suits.

Summer2011Bride · February 2012

You can rent suits as well if not all the guys wanted to invest in one. We got our tuxes at Seno's and I saw that they rented suits for only around $70 (as opposed to $140 per tux). It is a cheaper option, and that way the guys who didn't necessarily have a need for owning a suit wouldn't have to purchase one. You could say something like: "We'd like everyone to wear a black suit. If you have one, you can wear your own; otherwise, we can set you up to rent one."

As far as matching BMs, what color are their dresses? The guys could have pocket squares or ties in that color or a complimentary one. Also, FWIW, our guys wore both bouts and pocket squares and I think it looked great, so that is always an option. See below:

mbody · February 2012

Suits are fine for a wedding. If your FI wants to wear a suit then let him. You really shouldn't be dictating his attire- unless, of course, he picked out your dress. My FI and his groomsmen are wearing suits and we just went around to various tux rental places and all also rented suits. I think were going to end up renting from Jos A Banks.

I'm not too sure on what you meant about matching the BM and GM other than color? My BMs are wearing a tangerineish color dress and GM are wearing tan suits. Their ties will be a similar color to the BMs dresses.

artbyallie · February 2012

My groom wore a suit he already has and our groomsmen did the same. We asked them to wear light blue shirts and we provided ties so they would all have the same. They also got bouts, of course. They looked fine. A suit is a suit.