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nikegrl688 · October 2012

I know I am over thinking this so please give me a little help.

The only people I have in South Fl. are my family... Mom, dad, bro, niece and nephew and FI. Do I have to throw a E-party if I know all of our guests I know are not going to come? I dont want to waste the party and the money when I have family gathering of the people around here once a month. Everyone else lives out of state and I know that they are making a lost of sacrafice to come to the wedding and I dont want to throw a party for just the few people I see all the time anyway... This is concerning me!

My FI does not want to do E pictures because he thinks it will be a waste of money... I told him just something small and simple needs to be done so we know what to expect from the photographer is a good idea... Is it nessesary? Is he right? Thoughts on this?

Since everyone I know will not be able to come down but a few days before total, I decided not to have a MOH or a bridal party at all and our moms will just be our witnesses for the certificate. I do not want to stress my friends out more and more by coming down and needing them to buy this and that and be overly stressed with rehersals or anything... Just come and have fun! Is it wierd if I have my niece and nephew walk down as a flower girl and ring bear and that is it? I will have them walk, then my dad escort me and thats that. Does that sound crazy?

Sorry for the length and all the randomness... I just do not have a lot of help with this!

Renaect · October 2012

I can't speak to the e-party and bridal party questions, because I believe that you should do what ultimately works for you.

BUT, I will add my 2-cents regarding e-PICTS, and that you guys SHOULD do them. It's nice to have professional shots of the 2 of you, asides from the wedding photos. Plus, since you're going to need a photographer for your wedding, they may be so kind to offer a complimentary engagement session. But, I definitely think you should get them, despite what your fiance thinks. He should do this for you. My fiance was opposed to them from the get. But it's something I wanted. Even up to the moment we began our session, he was not a happy camper because he thuoght they were useless. But I wouldn't back down. We had a wonderful session, and our pictures our lovely. If you really want the e-picts, don't give in and not have them done. Get 'em done.

Mademoiselle D · October 2012

It's not necessary to have an engagement party especially I you don't want to stress about it or have money go to waste. You won't be the first nor the last soon tobe bride to not have one. In fact, I didn't have one for similar reasons as you along with other reasons and I'm completely fine with it. As far an engagement pictures.....do you already have a photographer? If not there are good yet affordable photographers out there you can consider. I would recommend doing engagement pictures because you will see if you and your photographer work well together and you will see their product. It's hard to work with a photographer you either don't like or don't work well together because it will show in your pictures. Now, regarding your wedding party....you can have whoever you want. If you go ahead with just a flower girl and ring bearer than its less stress for you to find attire for all your attendants. Finding the right BMs dress can be difficult and sometimes a pain in the butt because its hard to please everyone. I I coul go back I would just have one BM, one GM and my three nephews to form my wedding party. If this is what you really want then I would say go for it! You'll save yourself from additional stress and one last thing to worry about. If you are concerned that your wedding party is different from the norm then don't because it's your wedding and you should do whatever your heart desires and makes you happy.

missv19732000 · October 2012

I believe you can have as many or as little attendants in your bridal party as you see fit. I think just having a ring bearer and a flower girl is very cute! I've been married before and for my first wedding, I didn't have a bridal party...no flower girl, no ring bearer, no MOH, NO ONE!! And it turned out fine! Believe me, the less stress, the better. Didn't have an engagement party for my first marriage and did not have one for this one either. Didn't have rehearsal dinner (nothing to really to rehearse when there's no bridal party - just reviewed everything with the officiant 10 min. prior to the ceremony and viola! everything went fine...no stress). I think the wedding industry pushes a lot of things, but it is a way for businesses to make money. Do what you want and what feels comfortable!

And again, with both this marriage and my last, I had photographers who included an engagement shoot with the wedding photo package. I thought it was nice having pics of just me and my FI. And the added bonus, as stated in PP's, is that you and your FI have time to get to know the photographer and feel comfortable around he or she. I think it's important.

nikegrl688 · October 2012

Thank you to both of you. I agree one hundred percent about the E pics. I love the idea and I want to put them on the invites so I believe that I truly do want them done so I do not want to back down. Thank you for that.

I really honestly do not see the point of the e party... I love the idea of having everyone get together and celebrate and kick things off but it would be just my family and I do that all the time regardless. I didnt know if it would be rude not to have one so I feel better.

The bridal party makes sense... I do not want to stress out my guests and want to do everything possible for them to have fun and relax as they will be taking time out of their schedules to come see my on my big day and meet my FI.

Thank you both for the help!!!

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