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  • meenamoomeenamoo
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    edited December 2011
    Oh, no! :(
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  • trueleo818trueleo818
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    edited December 2011
    yep...he threw in the towel and called it off. now im just sitting here...lost
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  • SonaliPopSonaliPop member
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    edited December 2011
    Steph...

    I got your facebook message and I leave in a few hours, but I will be trying to check on you through my phone.

    What is going on? What happened?

    I know you're going through a lot right now. Let me know if you need anything.

    Xoxo
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  • HisBelovedOneHisBelovedOne
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    edited December 2011
    I'm so, so sorry.
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  • mrs.khanmrs.khan
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    edited December 2011
    I'm so very sorry. 
    (((((((hugs)))))))))
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  • HinajHinaj member
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    edited December 2011
    I am so sorry Steph!!!  I PM'ed you on Facebook. 
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  • raangoliraangoli
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    edited December 2011
    Oh nooo! I am sorry! I hope you are ok, or doing as well as can be! Really sorry to hear :(
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  • jnsainijnsaini
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    edited December 2011

    So so sorry to hear that babe, dont give up..try to work through it..:(.

    hugs
    nicky
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  • kavita85kavita85 member
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    edited December 2011
    I'm really sorry you're going through this right now :(
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  • Jeff and DeepthiJeff and Deepthi
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    edited December 2011
    I'm so sorry!! Are you ok? What happened? Is it something that was said out of anger?
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  • Bhanu&AnujBhanu&Anuj member
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    edited December 2011

    What???!?! Omgosh :(

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  • trueleo818trueleo818
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    edited December 2011
    He pretty much sat me down and made a quick explanation saying
    "I feel that I can't be commited to you right now. You've done so much for me and gave me the best 7 years of great friendship but I don't deserve you. You can keep the ring- its yours. You can keep the house because its yours. You can keep in touch with my parents because they're going to hate me for doing this. Don't worry about where I'm staying, I'll be fine. (I automatically thought- He has a new gf?!)"

    Then he gave me a hug and kiss goodbye. He left before I even said anything. Everything that belongs to him is still here. Should I just leave it there and have him come get it or pack it up in boxes? I'm wanting to take a mini vacay after I have the locksmith change the locks. Where should I go to clear my head from all this? I've seriously been up this whole time and just couldnt move. I sat on my bed just drowning in my own tears.
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  • jnsainijnsaini
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    edited December 2011

    This is sad Steph, yes you need a get away, I suggest Mexico with your gf's and ppl who love you. Dont sit at home by yourself...and he will also have time to clear his head till then. I have a feeling it will be ok, I cant say anything that will take the pain away but time is the only thing that heals all.
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  • trueleo818trueleo818
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    edited December 2011
    Nicky, I just don't wanna be the one who takes him back in a quickness. Ya know? What if he comes back to me and starts telling me that what he did was a mistake and what not and all that other crap..? What do I do then? I havent answered any calls from anyone and I just dont wanna go through all the pain in telling everyone that the engagement is off.. It hurts bad enough knowing that I lost my best friend. I didnt do anything wrong.. I did everything I possibly could to be a great gf.. =(
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  • raangoliraangoli
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    edited December 2011
    It doesn't sound like he gave you much of an explanation and I really think that you deserve one. And I think you are right to not accept him back with a quickness, like you said, since it seems like the past few weeks have been tough for the both of you between the ex-girl friend and now this.

    I really do hope though that you get to sit down and talk to each other. Maybe get to see where he is coming from before you make any decision to get back together, etc.

    In the meantime, time away is definitely a good idea!
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  • HinajHinaj member
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    edited December 2011
    Steph, I agree with Raangoli and Nicky.  He gave you a very generalized version of this explanation, which doesn't explain anything and you deserve to know why he did what he did.  Take you time with this, like you said yourself not to take him back quickly.  But I think you should find out and talk to each other about all of this.  I do agree that some time away will do you good, and I know telling people is going about the engagement is going to hurt, so take you time, but I think having some support from your family and/or friends is a good idea. 
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  • kavita85kavita85 member
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    edited December 2011
    I agree with the other ladies that you should take some time off if you can, but eventually have a talk with him to see what went down. Are your exams over at least?
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  • Jeff and DeepthiJeff and Deepthi
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    edited December 2011
    I'm so sorry!! I can't believe he did that and I hope your ok. Take a break and be around people you are close to!! This reminds of Sex in the City Movie.. Sorry I don't know why it just did. It's really hard to break off an engagement I know how it feels and I got questions about mine for a year afterwards. If you need anything we are here even you need just someone to talk to.. I'll give you my phone number!!!
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  • trueleo818trueleo818
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    edited December 2011
    You guys are right.. he didn't give me a detailed explanation.. just the basics...
    I booked a trip to NYC to have a little "me" time for the weekend.Hopefully that helps.
    I feel like a lost puppy. I haven't  even gotten out of bed. Havent done anything productive to make me not think about it. I just can't cope right now. Sorry, I'm not trying to have a little sobfest right now but it just hurts to the bone.

    He's been texting me and asking if we can talk but at this point, I don't even wanna see him..at least right now i dont.. How can you see someone after they dumped you? It's just going to kill you even more..especially if he's going to tell me the details on why he called things off from the beginning... Cry
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  • HisBelovedOneHisBelovedOne
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    edited December 2011
    It might actually help ease some of the pain if you can talk to him about it. It will give you a chance to get details and have a little back-and-forth discussion about it. A sense of closure, you know?

    I'm so sorry he did this to you. From the little explanation he gave, it seems like he's been thinking about this for a while and didn't talk about the little problems before they became big problems. In which case, better it happened now, before you were married, than after the wedding. It's never easy, but a divorce is harder than a broken engagement.

    Take some time away for yourself, recharge and distract yourself. Maybe talk to him after your mini-vacation, so you're rested up and the pain has dulled a little.

    Good luck, sweetie. Keep us updated.
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  • mkjasanimkjasani member
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    edited December 2011
    I am so sorry to hear this!!!  I am glad to hear you are getting away and taking some time for yourself.  And I do agree with the other girls that talking with him may help - although it seems so painful at the moment.  It will help to answer your unanswered questions.  Big hug!!!
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  • Bhanu&AnujBhanu&Anuj member
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    edited December 2011
    Hi hun :(

    I'm really sorry.  This seems all so sudden.  I think getting away is a great idea...I was gonna suggest LV or NYC.

    I know you may not want to do this...but have you talked to his parents? (or maybe you don't want to involve them?)

    Maybe he just got 'stressed' out from all the planning -- /> which isn't an excuse.  I just think you both have a lot invested in one another (7 years, a house and planning a life together).

    Maybe you guys can talk about things....after a few days....I'm sorry it just feels all so sudden :(


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