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Registering for your Honeymoon

LOTON01LOTON01
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I was just curious what everyone's opinions are on registering for your honeymoon? I always have heard mixed reviews on it.

I am not a fan of it. I think if people really wanted to give you money for your honeymoon they would.

I also knew a friend that registered and ended up not doing some of the things like zip lining that people had bought them. They ended up just getting the cash back that the people paid for the zip line. To be honest, it really bothered me to hear that. These people may have just given you money but you lead them to believe they were purchasing you something for your honeymoon.  
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  • rcj2rcdrcj2rcd
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    edited December 2011
    I'm not a fan of it. I don't have a logical reason why, but it just seems weird and kinda rude to me. I know that people return shower gifts for cash all the time, but the honeyfund thing is just a little too non-traditional for me.
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  • lisa89760lisa89760 member
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    edited December 2011
    I'm not a fan.  I guess I don't have a concrete reason either but it just bothers me.  I like buying a present or giving them money that they can do whatever they want with. 
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  • Meegles4Meegles4 member
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    edited December 2011
    I like the idea of it. How fun would it be to buy someone's zip lining experience?!

    However, you're right that the couple just gets the cash and you have to trust they'll use it to do what you "sponsored". IMO, you should just do a traditional registry and not add any more ways for people to basically give you money. We can all pretty much assume that people will give us cards/cash for our weddings, why should we add another way for them to basically do the same thing?
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  • acaponi87acaponi87 member
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    edited December 2011
    I am glad that you asked this Loton...I've been wondering the same thing.  My FI and I both have lived by ourselves and are now moving in together AKA we have way too much stuff.  There is very little that we want to register for since we have most of the basics and we don't have any room for stuff right now.  I'd love to be able to register for our honeymoon but I don't know how it'd go over with people...
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  • rcj2rcdrcj2rcd
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    edited December 2011
    Acaponi - this is the perfect time to upgrade! I already had the basics and they worked okay, but I upgraded to all-clad and forged steel knives. It's also the perfect time to get something you really want, but wouldn't buy yourself (ie - a kitchen aid mixer or Waterford vases).
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  • matuofmmatuofm member
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    edited December 2011
    I think that I just don't get the point.  If people want to give you money, they'll give you money.  Then you can spend it on your honeymoon, if you want.  And you avoid the whole "I'm asking you to give me your hard-earned cash" issue.  Because deep down, I think it's probably just as rude to say to someone "Please give me some money.  I want to have an awesome honeymoon." as it is to say "Please give me some money, because I want a pony."  (or a yacht, or a new blender, or pants for your capuchin monkey.)

    And I certainly see the hypocrisy in which it's acceptable to make a list of gift you want, but not a list of ways you want to spend monetary gifts.  I don't really see the distinction, myself.  But etiquette seems to be pretty clear on this - the registry is acceptable in polite company, but asking for money never is.  And a honeyfund is definitely asking for money.  So I say it's a no-go.
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  • Meg1036Meg1036
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    edited December 2011
    I don't like it.  I did like it, when I thought you *actually* bought the couple a zip-lining trip or something, but once I found out its just money that they can use however they want (and that the regsitry takes a cut), I thought it was really deceptive and pretty crappy.
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  • emarston1emarston1 member
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    edited December 2011
    I don't like them because they are deceptive to guests.  Guests believe that they are buying you a romantic dinner or a ziplining adventure but then they are really just giving you cash.  And for people who like to only give gifts (rather than cash), they would be really upset for being lied do.

    It'd be like if I ordered a mixer from your registry and they delivered a knife set.  That's not what I ordered so I would be upset.
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  • mromo2813mromo2813
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    edited December 2011
    We registered for our honeymoon thru the travel agency at Macy's.  Like previous posters, we also had been living on our own before we bought a home together so when combining, we ended up with 2 of everything.  With all of the stress of spending on everything for the wedding, it was nice that this is one less thing that we had to worry about.  I don't know if it's different everywhere, but we were able to put Macy's giftcards towards it too, so it wasn't like we were asking for cash.  However, we did still register for some traditional gifts too!  =)
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