sending thank you cards

shanliann · October 2012

what is the general rule of how long after the wedding you have to get your thank you cards in the mail?!

crash2729 · October 2012

I think people usually say 3-4 months at max.

KellyBrian2013 · October 2012

General rule of thumb is withing 2 months of returning from your honeymoon (unless you wait to take one, in which case it is within 2 months of the wedding).

cwaggoner07 · October 2012

It was so much easier to write thank you notes as I went along in the planning. After a shower, I would get them out within the week. I also wrote them as we got gifts in the mail.

After the wedding it took us about 2 months to send out the last big batch. Definitely do it as you go along, and 2 months should be plenty of time.

Loopyseven · October 2012

Within a month or two of getting back from your HM if you take one right away.

hoffse · October 2012

To be honest, I sort of judge anything longer than 2 months, though getting a thank you late is better than getting no thank you at all. I was also raised with the 2 week rule.

Lisa50 · October 2012

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_sending-thank-you-cards?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding BoardsForum:9Discussion:12531ea9-08f1-4e25-a793-16c83245a3d7Post:e4d0aea5-38f0-4212-ac33-5bb03a315133">Re:sending thank you cards</a>:
[QUOTE]I was raised that<strong> <font color="#000080">2 weeks is the acceptable time limit for sending TY cards after receiving any type of gift.</font> </strong>For the purpose of weddings, 2 weeks after returning from your honeymoon assuming we're talking about gifts recieved AT the wedding itself.
Posted by StageManager14[/QUOTE]

Amen! We put our in the mail within 2 weeks of the wedding.

libby2483 · October 2012

We just finished our last batch of thank you notes right under the two month mark.

misssunshine17 · October 2012

I was raised in the "you don't get to play with your gift until you write the cards" camp, so I got them out quick. I personally think over a month is really pushing it, but that's my personal opinion.

Ali092011 · October 2012

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_sending-thank-you-cards?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:9Discussion:12531ea9-08f1-4e25-a793-16c83245a3d7Post:e4d0aea5-38f0-4212-ac33-5bb03a315133">Re:sending thank you cards</a>:
[QUOTE]I was raised that 2 weeks is the acceptable time limit for sending TY cards after receiving any type of gift. For the purpose of weddings, 2 weeks after returning from your honeymoon assuming we're talking about gifts recieved AT the wedding itself.
Posted by StageManager14[/QUOTE]

This. I think taking much longer than that just means you're not prioritizing properly thanking people. I get that some people have dozens and dozens to write while also balancing jobs and lives, but it really is doable if you set aside time every day to write a handful at a time.

arendiva · October 2012

Hmmm. Interesting. Now hear me out I've always planned to do thank you notes for my bridal shower and wedding and to do them as soon as I recieve gifts. That's not what I'm asking about.

But were most of the people here raised writing thank you notes for xmas and birthdays gifts? I've never written a thank you note in my life. I've always thanked people perfusely in person with hugs. But I wasn't even aware that thank you notes were a thing outside of weddings. I should also note that at least half of the weddings I've gone to haven't sent thank you notes. So this thank you note concept is a bit foreign to me.

lily_721 · October 2012

I always write thank you notes as do my step-sons (birthdays, Christmas, etc). We started with one sentence and we worked our way up to five sentences. SS1 always competes with SS2 to have the "better" thank you.

Our wedding thank you cards were out within one month of wedding, two weeks within return of honeymoon. I write the cards as the gifts arrive.

tjantzsell · October 2012

Do you only send thank you cards to people who gave you gifts or everyone who came to the wedding?

We are having a tough time getting them all written balancing demanding work schedules and we didn't get to take our honeymoon yet. It's been so hectic between having visitors, other weddings and working long hours, not to mention zero weekend downtime as a newlywed couple. We even wrote thank yous as gifts came in early, but when the bulk of gifts come in at the wedding or shortly after it can be overwhelming especially when you want to say something nice, personal and sincere to everyone. 2-4 weeks is ideal but it's really tough. We are just over a month past our wedding and time has flown by so fast. But I am starting to feel bad. Almost done. GTG write more thank you notes!

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