June 2012 Weddings

Etiquette? A bit of a rant, long.

I think in this day & age a lot of etiquette has gone out the window & given way to it's my day i will do it how I WANT, everyone else be damned. 

Do you find yourself excusing bad etiquette just because you know someone more? On this board & in real life????

I find some people on this board have major etiquette faux pas but very few people say anything about it. 

Not sure if it is because you "know" them more or what? Enlighten me please?

For the most part i will say something, because i am not afraid too, whether it is this month board where i recognize people more or another board with a stranger, but i hate party lines.  If just one person realises what they are doing is very offensive to the very people they claim to love then i am happy :). Of course i am realistic because i know most won't change their minds & they offend people anyways but some do. 

I have a harder time saying anything in real life, because people take offense real easy & have an excuse at the ready the moment someone says something. 

I know someone who is getting married in early june, sent invitations out in january with a march reply date, she said the reason she sent them early was for oot guests, fine i could live with that, but a march reply date & she won't accept late replys? WTF, most people in healthcare here do not get to put in for holidays until april. I sent mine out with a normal reply date. *head desk*

Same person, then proceeded to tell people on her status (about 8 days left to reply) that asked if they could bring a date (including the dj) sure, after 8pm! WTF again? Ya ok, like the dj will tell his gf to come after 8 (he brought her when he did my social, i was perfectly fine with that, meant he did not leave the set up to get a drink or food or anything, when he went to the washroom she was there if something went wrong). 

Now they are having a jack & jill shower (i don't think means the same as it does in other areas as they already had a social, i am pretty sure that just means co-ed here). They are requesting people bring cash or rona gift cards, that is all they want. WTF??? IDC who you are i would never take that to a shower, ever, unless it was a split for a bigger gift in which case i hope someone would be buying it beforehand. 

Another girl i know sent her invites out already too & her wedding is in august. 

Sometimes the things people do make me give my head a shake. I know in the long run they don't affect me but i care about people, i care about them looking like an ass. I don't know why, but i do. Though it seems most folk think it is acceptable which means that very few actually know etiquette & that is sad. 

Now i don't believe etiquette applys to every situation & their are exceptions BUT not when it comes to your guests comfort or if it is extremely rude or whatever. Small faux pas are totally different. 
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  • edited March 2012
    I think it's weird to judge other people's breaches of etiquette when you had a social.  Once you start making exceptions there is a slippery slope.  Why is one exception made and another not? 

    I'm not an etiquette queen or anything it just seems hypocritical. 
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    [QUOTE]I think it's weird to judge other people's breaches of etiquette when you had a social.  Once you start making exceptions there is a slippery slope.  Why is one exception made and another not?  I'm not an etiquette queen or anything it just seems hypocritical. 
    Posted by Megbo2012[/QUOTE]

    I agree with this 100%
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    [QUOTE]I think it's weird to judge other people's breaches of etiquette when you had a social.  Once you start making exceptions there is a slippery slope.  Why is one exception made and another not?  I'm not an etiquette queen or anything it just seems hypocritical. 
    Posted by Megbo2012[/QUOTE]
    <3  Very much agreed.
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    [QUOTE]I think it's weird to judge other people's breaches of etiquette when you had a social.  Once you start making exceptions there is a slippery slope.  Why is one exception made and another not?  I'm not an etiquette queen or anything it just seems hypocritical. 
    Posted by Megbo2012[/QUOTE]

    <div>that is only in my area though. That is like saying people can't have a money dance. I don't judge those, because in some areas they are EXPECTED.  Not even close to what i am talking about. Come up here & tell the people that love socials not to go to them? See the reaction you get. </div><div>
    </div><div>Totally different, but glad to know you think that way. </div>
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  • I am confused as to what you are referring to on this board.... you gave examples, but nothing on this board. I think everyone on this board is really good about pointing out etiquette issues in a nice, polite way.
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  • Well around here, B listing might be common. Or cash bars. Or Honeyfunds. Etiquette is considered universal, meaning, it's standard and not limited (or excluding) different areas. Again, I'm not the queen of etiquette, but everything you are saying is contradicting itself. 
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    [QUOTE]I am confused as to what you are referring to on this board.... you gave examples, but nothing on this board. I think everyone on this board is really good about pointing out etiquette issues in a nice, polite way.
    Posted by chelseakopperud[/QUOTE]
    Exactly this.  We've all had our share of telling people we don't agree with what they're doing and that it is against etiquette or in poor taste.  Like Chels said, we keep it civil and respectful (for the most part).
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    [QUOTE]I am confused as to what you are referring to on this board.... you gave examples, but nothing on this board. I think everyone on this board is really good about pointing out etiquette issues in a nice, polite way.
    Posted by chelseakopperud[/QUOTE]

    <div>no they werent on the board, just asking if you found yourself exepmting people either because you knew them on the board or in real life, simple as that. </div><div>
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    [QUOTE]In Response to Re: Etiquette? A bit of a rant, long. : no they werent on the board, just asking if you found yourself exepmting people either because you knew them on the board or in real life, simple as that. 
    Posted by sweetcanadian1979[/QUOTE]

    OOOO! I don't give unsolicited advice.... if a friend or family member is planning a wedding asks me, I would tell them if it was bad etiquette.... but I am not the etiquette police and wouldn't point it out if they didn't ask.
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    [QUOTE]In Response to Re: Etiquette? A bit of a rant, long. : no they werent on the board, just asking if you found yourself exepmting people either because you knew them on the board or in real life, simple as that. 
    Posted by sweetcanadian1979[/QUOTE]
    But you did in your op:
    <em><span style="font-family:Arial;font-size:12px;background-color:#ffffff;">I find some people on this board have major etiquette faux pas but very few people say anything about it. </span> </em>
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  • edited March 2012
    anyways ladies, ty for making me feel like a bag of s***over something completely different than what i asked i have sent the email to delete this account, i will start over on other boards but will not be back here.  I did not delete my account when i had that trouble with someone stalking me because of this month board but now i have no reason to stay here.  

    I hope you all have amazing weddings, i will probably come creep them out because i want to see how everything turned out for you & hope you have the most amazing time ever :) 
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    [QUOTE]anyways ladies, ty for making me feel like a bag of s***over something completely different than what i asked i have sent the email to delete this account, i will start over on other boards but will not be back here.  I did not delete my account when i had that trouble with someone stalking me because of this month board but now i have no reason to stay here.   I hope you all have amazing weddings, i will probably come creep them out because i want to see how everything turned out for you & hope you have the most amazing time ever :) 
    Posted by sweetcanadian1979[/QUOTE]

    Your post was confusing. No one was trying to make you feel bad.... your post just came across offensive, just like your post a few months ago saying you were leaving the board because everyone is snarky.... IMHO, you are very opinated with everyone elses posts, but if anyone disagrees with you, you take it personally and *leave*
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    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-club-boards_june-2012-weddings_etiquette-a-bit-of-a-rant-long?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20Club%20BoardsForum:3ae4d68d-f10a-4dec-8810-da13c14a7b86Discussion:010f74d9-8858-4d36-970e-e438cad590a9Post:779c1808-5593-4c37-91fd-9f3bef7653b9">Re: Etiquette? A bit of a rant, long.</a>:
    [QUOTE]In Response to Re: Etiquette? A bit of a rant, long. : Your post was confusing. No one was trying to make you feel bad.... your post just came across offensive, just like your post a few months ago saying you were leaving the board because everyone is snarky.... IMHO, you are very opinated with everyone elses posts, but if anyone disagrees with you, you take it personally and *leave*
    Posted by chelseakopperud[/QUOTE]
    Get out of my brain Chels!  But seriously, I feel like this is an over-reaction.
  • edited March 2012
    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-club-boards_june-2012-weddings_etiquette-a-bit-of-a-rant-long?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20Club%20BoardsForum:3ae4d68d-f10a-4dec-8810-da13c14a7b86Discussion:010f74d9-8858-4d36-970e-e438cad590a9Post:41897c56-9aec-4d85-a878-34dd103a06fe">Etiquette? A bit of a rant, long.</a>:
    [QUOTE]  Now they are having a jack & jill shower (i don't think means the same as it does in other areas as they already had a social, i am pretty sure that just means co-ed here). They are requesting people bring cash or rona gift cards, that is all they want. WTF??? IDC who you are i would never take that to a shower, ever, unless it was a split for a bigger gift in which case i hope someone would be buying it beforehand.
    Posted by sweetcanadian1979[/QUOTE]

    <div>So here are you saying that it's not okay for them to ask money, or it is okay, because you know them? And that it was okay for you to ask for money at your social because your friends know you? I don't understand. </div><div>
    </div><div>If a friend breached etiquette I would not say a thing to them.  If a friend asked me an opinion in private then I might tell them there are other ways. </div><div>
    </div><div>ETA: Agreed with Chels and Shan. Your op was not clear, and mentioning the board seemed like you were attacking it. Don't try to make me out to be the bad guy. </div>
  • Kfudge0714Kfudge0714 member
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    edited March 2012
    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-club-boards_june-2012-weddings_etiquette-a-bit-of-a-rant-long?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding Club BoardsForum:3ae4d68d-f10a-4dec-8810-da13c14a7b86Discussion:010f74d9-8858-4d36-970e-e438cad590a9Post:41897c56-9aec-4d85-a878-34dd103a06fe">Etiquette? A bit of a rant, long.</a>:
    [QUOTE]I find some people on this board have major etiquette faux pas but very few people say anything about it. 
    Posted by sweetcanadian1979[/QUOTE]

    I'm not exactly sure what you mean by this but there have been several threads on Honeymoon Registries and B-Listing people and trust me people have spoken up.
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    [QUOTE]<strong>I think it's weird to judge other people's breaches of etiquette when you had a social.  Once you start making exceptions there is a slippery slope.  Why is one exception made and another not?</strong>  I'm not an etiquette queen or anything it just seems hypocritical. 
    Posted by Megbo2012[/QUOTE]

    <div>I completely agree with this. And just because it's "accepted" in your area, doesn't mean it's still not an etiquette faux paus. It's just something that you've decided to overlook and be okay with so you could have other people help pay for your wedding.</div>
  • Kfudge0714Kfudge0714 member
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    edited March 2012
    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-club-boards_june-2012-weddings_etiquette-a-bit-of-a-rant-long?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding Club BoardsForum:3ae4d68d-f10a-4dec-8810-da13c14a7b86Discussion:010f74d9-8858-4d36-970e-e438cad590a9Post:779c1808-5593-4c37-91fd-9f3bef7653b9">Re: Etiquette? A bit of a rant, long.</a>:
    [QUOTE]In Response to Re: Etiquette? A bit of a rant, long. : Your post was confusing. No one was trying to make you feel bad.... your post just came across offensive, just like your post a few months ago saying you were leaving the board because everyone is snarky.... IMHO, you are very opinated with everyone elses posts, but if anyone disagrees with you, you take it personally and *leave*
    Posted by chelseakopperud[/QUOTE]

    I agree with Chelsea on this one. This is the second time I've read that your leaving. You can't take everything people say personally. Someone called me ignorant once and it didn't cause me to leave. We are here to give and get advice from one another, we aren't going to agree with everything that everyone does all the time.
  • edited March 2012
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    [QUOTE]anyways ladies, ty for making me feel like a bag of s***over something completely different than what i asked i have sent the email to delete this account, i will start over on other boards but will not be back here.  I did not delete my account when i had that trouble with someone stalking me because of this month board but now i have no reason to stay here.   I hope you all have amazing weddings, i will probably come creep them out because i want to see how everything turned out for you & hope you have the most amazing time ever :) 
    Posted by sweetcanadian1979[/QUOTE]

    <div>And you've already GBCKed before and come back....so sorry if we're used to you just threatening this to create unnecessary drama.</div>
  • People have spoken up about etiquette. I know because they've mentioned it to me about having a Jack & Jill, which was hosted by my wedding party.

    Guess what? I'm fine that they brought up etiquette  with me and I'm not going to leave this board just because of that. They made their suggestions, and we moved on from it.
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  • edited March 2012
    I called Zim a brat once and she sh!t bricks =) But now I lurve her because she got me $10 Rue La La credit!

    ... just felt like adding to the convo since i've been gone all day
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  • Woah, holy overreaction Batman. I'm pretty sure everyone knows I have no qualms about pointing out others faux pas. Even in real life.

    Your post was very long Bonnie and that can lead to some confusion and possible misinterpretation. No one was trying to be mean or hurtful towards you. They were just trying to better understand what you meant.

    I know that socials are accepted in your area but that doesn't mean that it's not against etiquette. It's just a fact of life.
  • what is a social exactly? Never heard a shower or wedding related thing called that before.
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    [QUOTE]I called Zim a brat once and she sh!t bricks =) But now I lurve her because she got me $10 Rue La La credit! ... just felt like adding to the convo since i've been gone all day
    Posted by diamondx423[/QUOTE]

    BAHAHA! And you dont see Zims leaving!
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    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-club-boards_june-2012-weddings_etiquette-a-bit-of-a-rant-long?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20Club%20BoardsForum:3ae4d68d-f10a-4dec-8810-da13c14a7b86Discussion:010f74d9-8858-4d36-970e-e438cad590a9Post:7df52dab-2f7a-403c-8413-487593baaa97">Re: Etiquette? A bit of a rant, long.</a>:
    [QUOTE]I called Zim a brat once and she sh!t bricks =) But now I lurve her because she got me $10 Rue La La credit! ... just felt like adding to the convo since i've been gone all day
    Posted by diamondx423[/QUOTE]
    Haha...oh do I remember that!  And I think we've all moved past it quite nicely :)
  • edited March 2012
    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-club-boards_june-2012-weddings_etiquette-a-bit-of-a-rant-long?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding Club BoardsForum:3ae4d68d-f10a-4dec-8810-da13c14a7b86Discussion:010f74d9-8858-4d36-970e-e438cad590a9Post:a3bcb74e-27fb-4d72-9d07-40aebfcdb1c1">Re: Etiquette? A bit of a rant, long.</a>:
    [QUOTE]what is a social exactly? Never heard a shower or wedding related thing called that before.
    Posted by clafond15[/QUOTE]

    A social is similar to a Jack & Jill. Because your from Boston, I am assuming you've heard of a J&J? Please correct me if I am wrong.

    ETA: A Jack & Jill is typically hosted by your wedding party & I believe the social was hosted by the couple?
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    [QUOTE]what is a social exactly? Never heard a shower or wedding related thing called that before.
    Posted by clafond15[/QUOTE]

    It's wedding fundraiser..... guests purchase tickets to get in and the money goes toward paying for the wedding..... that is all I know. Please correct me if I am wrong ladies.
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    [QUOTE]In Response to Re: Etiquette? A bit of a rant, long. : A social is similar to a Jack & Jill. Because your from Boston, I am assuming you've heard of a J&J? Please correct me if I am wrong.
    Posted by KrisKenny[/QUOTE]
    I don't think I've heard of a J&J outside of a normal shower that happened to be co-ed until I came here!  And I'm from the same area :)
  • MiksChick23MiksChick23 member
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    edited March 2012
    Wow. I think this is is getting out of hand. Who offended who? I feel that this group of ladies is AMAZING and way less likely to point out things just to be snarky. I have never felt offended by anyone and even realized that my POV may have been a little off base b/c someone mentioned it, in a nice way.

    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-club-boards_june-2012-weddings_etiquette-a-bit-of-a-rant-long?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20Club%20BoardsForum:3ae4d68d-f10a-4dec-8810-da13c14a7b86Discussion:010f74d9-8858-4d36-970e-e438cad590a9Post:7026e03c-dffa-40bf-8387-d698f07db236">Re: Etiquette? A bit of a rant, long.</a>:
    [QUOTE]Well around here, B listing might be common. Or cash bars. Or Honeyfunds. <strong>Etiquette is considered universal, meaning, it's standard and not limited (or excluding) different areas.</strong> Again, I'm not the queen of etiquette, but everything you are saying is contradicting itself. 
    Posted by Megbo2012[/QUOTE]

    Totally get what you're saying here Meaghan, but actually, according to the dictionary: <em>etiquette:<span><span style="color:#0055bb;cursor:pointer;">conventional</span> <span>requirements</span> <span>as</span> <span>to</span> <span>social</span> <span>behavior;</span> <span>proprieties</span> <span>of</span> <span style="color:#333333;cursor:default;">conduct</span> <span>as</span> <span>established</span> <span>in</span> <u><span>any</span> <span>class</span> <span>or</span> </u></span><u><a href="http://dictionary.reference.com/browse/community" rel="nofollow">community</a></u> <span>or</span> <span>for</span> <span>any</span> <span style="color:#333333;cursor:default;">occasion.

    </span></em><span style="color:#333333;cursor:default;">There are some things that are rude no matter where you are, but other things that are acceptable in some areas but not others. I think that if your actions do not offend the people involved, then you can "breach etiquette" so long as its not completely out of control. </span><span style="color:#333333;cursor:default;">

    Bonnie, if you put it out there on an internet social board, you're asking to get opinions, and those opinions come from all over the place and from people in all different social circuls and circumstances. Its hard to not feel a little offended when someone tells you what you're doing is rude, but its people being honest and giving advice. At the end of the day its your wedding and your decision to make, and no one is forcing you to listen; no one will come arrest you if you don't follow their suggestions. I think friends can disagree and still be friends.</span><div class="dndata"><span> </span></div>
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    Im jumping in late I sent out in march, march 10 with a rsvp pf 3/31 but we have to tell wedding planner by,4/15. Every,situation is different.
  • Ive heard of a Jack & Jill as a shower with both the bride and groom present.
    But i have never heard of a party like chelsea mentioned, thats crazy! yeah definite etiquette faux pas
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