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Elle1036
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Oh hi I'm being a brat.
Elle1036
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I just spent the last several minutes crying about my stupid bridal shower. My shower is this Saturday. I didn't even want to have one, but my Mom's friends wanted to throw one, so I gave in. Here's the thing: nobody's coming. Like, nobody. Of my 5 BMs, there's only one who might even possibly be there. The rest all have work or something. My cousin for whom I drove seven hours each way to attend her baby shower can't make it even though it's 15 minutes from her apartment. My aunt has company coming and can't come. It's just one excuse after another, and I keep plastering this smile on my face and saying "it's cool, I get it, no worries" and I feel like I have nowhere where I'm allowed to show my disappointment hence this stupid vent and nobody who would even care if they knew how I was feeling. Don't get me wrong; I'm not expecting anybody to make me their first priority. I just feel like a midday Saturday luncheon shouldn't be that big of a burden. And I'm extremely grateful for the several big ticket items that have been purchased off of our registry, but I would rather just have people there for me. Does anybody else feel totally alone sometimes? What do you do to snap out of it?
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Re: Oh hi I'm being a brat.
I had something wedding planning related eating at me and finally expressed it to the person I wanted to express it to, and though it was a sucky convo at the time, I have totally let it go. It was eating at me for weeks, and I kept saying to myself and my friends, "It doesn't really matter..." but it did to me! And now that they know, I feel much better.
Maybe you shouldn't be so "okay" with it. Good for you for expressing it here. Being a level-headed bride is sometimes REALLY hard to hold up.
But I definitely have similar feelings about being all alone. My bridal party is scattered across the country, and my family lives in another city. I have a dress fitting this weekend and I don't have anyone to come with me. That makes me feel alone.
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I'm in the same situation. Everyone is really scattered and it sucks having to do alone a lot of the stuff that's supposed to be fun to do with friends. I'm really glad I have this board at least.
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It's not going to be long. A couple hours tops.
"You're our early 20's BSC scarecrow. They cower at your maturity." - lennonkdc
How awesome would that be?
YES. I'm really glad I have you to give me something to look forward to.
[QUOTE]In Response to Re:Oh hi I'm being a brat.: YES. I'm really glad I have you to give me something to look forward to.
Posted by Elle1036[/QUOTE]
<div>I'm really looking forward to it too. :) Who knows, I may even tag along to HG with you too!</div>
"You're our early 20's BSC scarecrow. They cower at your maturity." - lennonkdc
[QUOTE]In Response to Re:Oh hi I'm being a brat.: I'm in the same situation. Everyone is really scattered and it sucks having to do alone a lot of the stuff that's supposed to be fun to do with friends. I'm really glad I have this board at least.
Posted by Elle1036[/QUOTE]
I definitely feel you on this. I'd be disappointed to. Wedding showers and bachelorette parties seem fun (and you only really get to do it once). I don't care about the presents either, but I'd still like to have the parties, but alas....my friends/family are also spread out throughout the country.
I don't think I'll be having a shower or bachelorette party and the makes me a bit sad. ::shrugs::
Maybe I'd actually be more excited about wedding planning if I had a friend(s) to come with me to look at stuff.
So I guess what I'm saying is that I don't think you're a brat...I'm right there with you.
[QUOTE]Elle, that sucks. I think you're justified in being disappointed since people keep giving you lame excuses. I would totally come if I didn't live a million miles away :(
Posted by buggle2[/QUOTE]
Hey Bug you and I can car pool! I will swing by and pick ya up! <img src="http://cdn.cl9.vanillaforums.com/downloaded/ver1.0/content/scripts/tinymce/plugins/emotions/images/smiley-wink.gif" border="0" alt="Wink" title="Wink" /> I am sorry to hear that things are not working out Elle. Wedding shower brunches are the best. I dont know about your family, but in mine its a time to get to know more about the couple and learn the funny stuff about how they met. I would so be there if I were a real life friend
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[QUOTE]In Response to Re:Oh hi I'm being a brat. : I definitely feel you on this. I'd be disappointed to. Wedding showers and bachelorette parties seem fun (and you only really get to do it once). I don't care about the presents either, but I'd still like to have the parties, but alas....my friends/family are also spread out throughout the country.<strong> I don't think I'll be having a shower or bachelorette party and the makes me a bit sad. </strong>::shrugs:: Maybe I'd actually be more excited about wedding planning if I had a friend(s) to come with me to look at stuff. So I guess what I'm saying is that I don't think you're a brat...I'm right there with you.
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*Hugs* You are not a brat, you are awesome! I am really sorry that the people you want won't be there. If I could, I would so fly out to see you!
Take a deep breath and take your phone so we can be there with you every step of the way 
Married! May 27th, 2012
We could throw you a Skype shower.
I haz a planning bio
[QUOTE]You're not a brat at all! Of course you're disappointed. Who wouldn't be? I think you're handling it very well. <strong>We could throw you a Skype shower. =)
Posted by leia1979[/QUOTE]
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YES! Let's do this!
Married! May 27th, 2012
This weekend is my bachelorette party. It has been changed from a winery tour to a painting class, to help out the ones that said they really wanted to come but couldn't afford it, but less than half of the girls invited are actually coming.
I'd love to come over and support you. Just wish the parties didn't coincide.
Nik and Lunar - I'm sorry you're experiencing similar situations. I know it sucks.
Will this random picture of a cardboard robot make you feel better?
I'll probably be fine again by tomorrow; I've just been shoving this down for a couple weeks now and I think it just caught up with me today. At least I didn't have to work today.
(So, I started writing this, went to pick the FI up some nomnoms, then came back and finished typing... sorry if I missed some posts and am being super redundant or am missing information!)
But it's not a selfish thing for me. Well, I guess it is, but not in a materialistic way. I'd rather have all of my friends and relatives there without a single gift than get everything on my registry and not have anyone.
I'm also (in a silly, insecure way) a little worried about my mom's friends judging me based on the lack of attendance. I feel like the day is quickly going to take on a theme of "Oh, poor girl. Why doesn't she have any friends?"
Still here and still fabulous!
I get really emotional over more ridiculous things, such as FMIL never getting involved with wedding plans. Then she ends up calling and asking if she can help put invitations together and I feel like an asshole for ever being upset.