Not sure what to do...or if there really is anything TO do...
As those who've heard from me on here know, this is my second marriage. We're having a relatively small wedding (60 at most) but happily in my beloved St. Michael's church. I only have one attendant - my best friend is my matron of honor - but my fiance is feeling quite torn.
The man who probably would have been his best man died about a year and a half ago, in a really kind of freak tractor accident. He was the head of the trail association, which is where and how we met, and was a dear (though sometimes infuriating!) friend to us both. Since he died, my FI really hasn't thought of anyone he wants as a best man. He's not close to his brother or his brother-in-law, and he spends so much time traveling either to my home or back home to be with his son that he hasn't had a lot of spare time to make other friends. There is possibly one person in the trail association who is a possibility, but we haven't been to an event in over a year, and he really doesn't to have just anybody as his best man, which I totally understand.
His son is 15 and we've talked about him as a possibility, but my FI is adament about not having him feel like he's in the middle, or that he's somehow choosing me over his mother...it's hard to describe FI's reasoning, but it does make sense and I do respect his thoughts and feelings, and I want him to be happy at the wedding.
At this point, he's basically decided not to have a best man. I know we have to have two witnesses, so I'm just not sure what to do...
Your understanding and advice would be greatly appreciated!
Linda
